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gay clubbing alone?

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I have only very ...very few gay friends (like 1) and the only friend that always used to come with me to a gay bar is going to canada for a year. do you recomend going alone to a gay bar/club? I need to meet new people and gay/bisexual friends.
 
Bars can be a lot of fun but can be quite intimidating if you're alone and possibly uncomfortable

Are you just looking to make friends? If that's the case I'd suggest getting involved in some gay organizations or sports leagues in your area. You should meet some like minded people and then you'll have someone to hit the clubs with
 
I just went out by myself last Friday. I do not mind it, and that is how I met my best gay friend. I used to go out alone a lot, but then I met my friend John and mostly go out with him now. My first time in a gay bar after my divorce and moving out was quite an experience to remember, but that would be story for another thread
 
I have never understood why people are worried about going out by themselves.

Back when I was clubbing, I loved to go out by myself. That's how I met people.

You might have to kiss a lot of frogs until you find a prince.

Live, live, live. Life is a banquet and some people are starving.
 
I always go clubbing alone and end up trashed and waking up in someone's bed I don't know.
 
thank you, I may be more motivated now to go alone. Its just that where I live there are not many gay/bi organizations, and my school doesn't have an association either. So practically going to a bar or clubbing seems like my only option, besides meeting someone online which sometimes can be very difficult too.
 
I go out to clubs alone quite often but I just about always end up meeting someone I know (or a bunch of someones). Actually, unless I'm traveling in a different city, I meet someone I know.

When I first moved to DC and was coming out, however, I was alone and did not know people. It was hard at first because some clubs are pretty cliquish and you were either in the group or out. I usually sat at the bar and got to talking to bartenders. Turned out many were from where I was (or close by or had someone they knew). They would introduce me to others or others would see me talking to the bartender and then talk with me. If the bartender gave me a kiss when I came in....it really worked to open up lines of conversation (friend kisses you know!)

Playing in a gay football league; a kickball league; and helping with other activities pretty much got me too known. I also found sitting a the bar after meeting the bartender allowed me to meet others coming in alone. I also met a couple just after I moved here and we remain friends to this day (they got married in Massachusetts and I was invited).

Don't be afraid to smile or make eye contact. If you look approachable, normally people will!
 
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