Gay Cure

[braveheart]

ahh so lunarus, if a women molested a young boy does that mean that the very thought of any straight contact including porn should not lead to arousal.

 

[braveheart]

soil work, i didnt know you could be gay at eight. Maybe it didnt have anything to do with the the complication of my sexuality but i think im 98% sure that it does. Ive accepted whats happend and am looking towards my future.

 

[cocktales]

Braveheart, we welcome you to JUB and hopefully here you can/may be able to learn more about being Gay without it disgusting you...

Your question.........NO, I would NOT take the cure if offered.

If you had asked me this when I was a young man struggling to hide who I am and what I desired, then it would have been YES!

In the beginning, NO one wants to be gay, to be different from the other boys who talk about breasts, pussies and muff-diving, etc.......

That's why MOST gay men are in the closet, for if their identity was known they would be bullied and villified...

Perhaps you are NOT gay or even bi-sexual for what the man who raped you did to you is just wrong in so many ways....

.........and, its NOT your fault, so don't even go there with that thinking...

Sure, you have been brain-washed a bit by this horrible creature who took your virginity and caused you sooooo much pain. His desires of sex on you made it look like you wanted this; but in reality you were NOT a willing participant...

Perhaps you do need counseling/therapy to help you distinguish what your sexuality really is.......your confusion is/was caused by this animal and for that reason you are confused with what you are seriously supposed to be doing and with whom in the bedroom.

I am so very sorry for how you have suffered, from all the unwanted sexual
encounters and pain from the pedophile who stole your childhood and your identity...

Back to your question....

It's places like JUB where gay people or bi people come to help determine what's going on in their lives because they are scared and confused by their sexuality and do NOT know what to do or which way to turn, for as you know society frowns on being gay or bi...

I just wish JUB had been around when I was growing up so that I could have learned about sex and what being gay is/was all about....

Please, try and get "some" help; whether or not it's therapy of just some counseling, for I think it would help for you to get ALL of these hurt and tortured feelings out of your system...

Good luck and God Bless!!!

 

[JakeBequette]

I wouldn't take it. I am who I am and I'm fine with that.​

 

[braveheart]

cheers cock tails, thanks for the message. Was a really good message to read before i crash out. thanks

 

[Theyoungman]

you think that guy turned you gay?

LOL

And no I like prefering men over woman...

 

[braveheart]

well "theyoungman" he defo had alot to do with it otherwise i wouldnt be here today.

 

[HourglassGuy]

Hi there.

If there was a gay cure out there would you go for it?

Personally i would! I cant stand being gay or bi and it makes me sick to even think about being in a guy to guy relationship. I hate everything gay! So before yous all jump out and attack me here and start defending the whole gay thing being right and anti straight folk going nuts, let me explain.

When i was 8 i was sexually abused by some fat fucking dick head, this lasted 10 years and thankfully the tosser is dead. I did not enjoy this as i was threatened not to say anything and also bribed, thats why it went on so long. Anyway i had little experience with women and this starting to become the norm for me and i hate the prick for doing this to me as i feel he has turned me gay as gay sex was all i had from a young age. Basically this guy has turned me gay from a very young age and i have not had a chance and am living a very unhappy life which is hidden from everyone.

I have had wanks over gay porn, afterwards feeling sick and disgusted. ive had 2 sexually encounters with other guys felt guilty and sick afterwards.

So to sum this up if there was a gay cure i would take it instantly as i have been turned into or molded into something i dont want and never will. As i said everything gay just disgusts me and there is no chance of me ever coming out the closet or getting a boy friend.

So thanks to the rapist/child molesting bastard who fucked up my life!!

BH

Sounds like you've gone through quite a bit, and I'm sorry for what happened to you when you were younger. I imagine that it was terrible for you. Personally, I was sexually active at an INCREDIBLY young age... six or seven... and with people slightly older than me and also with older men... and I've never been horrified by it, nor was I horrified when it happened. I was never forced or pressured, because I was interested and WANTED to do it. Looking back as an adult, I realize what sick fucks the people were who did things with me (pedophiles and such) but it's never given me great pain. I can easily understand how it might scar others, though. It might also be interesting to note that I knew I was gay before any of that even happened. I knew I was gay before I entered kindergarten... the thought of kissing other girls made my skin crawl, but the thought of kissing boys was nice. So it didn't 'turn' me gay, because I knew beforehand.

That said... you aren't really making much sense to me. On one hand, you said that being molested as a child made you gay, but at the same time you said that the thought of gay sex makes you sick. So.... correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't that make you NOT GAY? If the thought of gay sex makes you sick, you're NOT GAY. It sounds to me like you're more confused than anything. I mean, that's like saying, "Someone force fed spinach to me when I was a child, and because of that I'm a spinach lover now! The thought of eating spinach makes me sick, though..." Uh, just doesn't click or make sense at all to me.

And to answer the question, would I be open to something that 'cured' my homosexuality? Not a chance. It's part of who I am, and not something I'm ashamed of. In fact, overcoming the things I've overcome due to it is something that I have great pride in. I'm also perfectly happy at the thought of sex and relationships with men. The road might be rocky at times, living the life of a gay man, but nobody has ever learned anything or grown as a person when their life was perfect and happy, right? I'm happy being a gay man and wouldn't change it.

 

[Andreus]

me?

straight?

id have to get bad haircuts and not wear earrings

WORSE

i'd have to give up dick

naa

keep that cure away from me

 

[HourglassGuy]

me?

straight?

id have to get bad haircuts and not wear earrings

WORSE

i'd have to give up dick

naa

keep that cure away from me

I agree. This is one illness that I'd love to be sick with all day, every day!

 

[JakeBequette]

well "theyoungman" he defo had alot to do with it otherwise i wouldnt be here today.

It sucks that bad things happened to you while you were growing up, but I strongly disagree that anyone can make you gay. You might hate being gay because you feel you'll end up being like him, but that doesn't mean he made you gay.

You're not going to be happy if you continue to "blame" your homosexuallity on him​

 

[Alberto_15]

You are just 23! You have so much to look forward to including ladies if that's where you need to go!

Get help and quick! Talk to a professional that can help you sort out these issue of either accepting your gay self or getting past the traumatic experience that's holding you back. We ALL went through the guilt feelings over gay porn and sex, I vomited after gay sex the second time I had it due to my own internal conflicts (now I can see that), so you may be gay... but if you truly believe you were "turned" gay then you are probably NOT gay, it's just you really have not been able to put what happened to you behind you.

Seek professional, confidential help. The longer you wait the longer you will live like this... and these are the best years of your life, PLEASE listen to everyone and get help so you won't waste them.

Good luck buddy.

 

[Reprobate]

When I was seven or eight an older girl talked me into performing oral sex with her, when I was 10 another girl friend and I tried a allot of things. When I was 12 or 13 my sister and her boyfriend hooked me up with his sister her and I had a 2 year relationship that was sexual and after that I was with a prostitute after boot camp then I met my wife but through all of these experiences with females I always fought attractions to men and my sexual experiences with the girls and then later with my wife have always felt uncomfortable but with all of the artificial conditioning to have relationships with women I was unable to really consider what really felt right for me.

If I can be conditioned to live as a heterosexual and then later have these other feelings come into the full light of day then I say the opposite may be true for you. I had to see a therapist for a while to come to grips with my feelings and I still feel guilt and confusion at times and I imagine you do also. I hope you find yourself and figure out what you really want just like I hope I get this all figured out.

 

[Soilwork]

soil work, i didnt know you could be gay at eight. Maybe it didnt have anything to do with the the complication of my sexuality but i think im 98% sure that it does. Ive accepted whats happend and am looking towards my future.

I was gay since birth.

when I as 4, I told my mother that I was going to marry a boy and not a girl.

It has little to do with sexual attraction but to whom we're ROMANTICALLY attracted.

You have some serious intimacy issues, and you'll need to get help to work through them.

I hope you do.

Life is a sad thing to live alone.

 

[james1200]

braveheart, i can't believe i'm admitting this but i guess the booze helps, LOL. you ain't the only one who's been molested...tho not for ten years like you i was too by an uncle and neigbor before i turned 10. but i just dont believe that makes one gay or bi. in fact, if you weren't already predisposed,you would loathe gays and fuck them up every chance you got...you're probably just bisexual and woulda been regardless is what i think. a lotta men have been molested and they just don't turn gay.

see a therapist and ask to be put on anti-depressants. they do help with the anger and loathing you feel. a lot of us have been there...get help before you slit your wrists.

man do people suck!

 

[luminum]

I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience, but all of us were raised in straight society, some of us had straight experiences, and some of us also had unwilling straight experiences, and we still had the burning desire to suck cock.

So despite the fact that you were molested, somewhere in you, beyond the confusion of homosexual experiences, you should have the burning desire to muff dive if you're actually straight. Somewhere. No hypotheticals, you'll still feel it somewhere.

So if you don't, all I would say is that you have to come to terms with yourself. If you do, you may be bi, or you may have to sort through the homosexual experiences that were forced upon you before you can be the straight man you so desperately believe you are.

Because if you really are straight, it seems like your terrible past shouldn't be enough to permanently repress your heterosexual feelings, only deter them. And if you haven't tried to get help and sort them out, then the only person making you 'be gay' in the mean time is you. So get some help if you think you're only doing gay things and will continue to only do gay things because you were molested by a man.

 

[KennyD]

Sorry dude that you had such experiences during your young life ... However; there is NO WAY on God's green earth that you are "Turned" Gay ... You are either born with a pre disposition to guys or a pre disposition for females ... with the exception of those who are born with about equal dispositions for male and female ....

If you are getting sexually stimulated from Gay porn ... being abused surely did not cause it ..... and will not cause it .

You've got some other issues that will only be taken care of when you discuss them with a qualified therapist ....

Hope you RUn, don't walk to the nearest one ASAP ..... Good Luck !!

 

[rye_dye]

Thier was a time I would have longed for a gay cure. I used to beg God to make me normal, but no matter how much I Prayed, Cried, Begged and tried I still could'nt stop feeling the way I did, so I became depressed, withdrawn filled with self-loathing and at times even suicidal. It's only been in the last year that i've really been able to accept myself. I was never molested, my first sexual feeling I ever had came from a bible. When I was a young child my Grandmother used to read me stories out a Bible every night. Inside were Classical illustrations. One was of a nude Isaac about to be sacrificed by Abraham on the altar. I remember looking at that picture and feeling the butterflies dancing around inside my stomach, and later after she had left opening it up, running my finger all over the picture.

I'm sorry about what happened to you braveheart, but I don't think it made you gay. Confused angry and hurt, but not gay. The best advice I can give you is talk to God, he loves you no matter what or who you are.

 

[spikebaltar]

braveheart, it seems that you have issues with sexuality altogether since you seem to have issues with straight and gay sex. Anyone who is abused from ages 8-18 is going to have some serious issues with sex, especially if the abuse just stopped 5 years ago. I read your profile, and the comments you make don't sound like they come from someone confused about their orientation.
(Favorite Sexual Activity: Everything!
Additional Comments: im an outgoing guy looking for some fun and pos some action if you live near glasgow! If your uncut, prepare for a long night!!)
I'm not calling you a liar, it just doesnt seem to be consistent with your posts on this thread.
Please seek some help from a professional that can help you sort things out.

 

[ok455]

Sometimes i want to take the pill and become straight. It would make things easier and i can stop obsessing over straight guys and i would probably have a girlfriend rightnow. so if there was one there would be a 98 percent chance i would take it