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I'm gay and have a developmental delay. I also have anxiety. It's tough I was bullied a lot and I don't have a lot of friends But i try to deal with it. I knew i was attracted to men when I was younger and most of my friends were female and stood up for me a lot of the guys made fun of me picked on me. I always liked boybands and girly type stuff.
 
I'm glad you know who you are. Its refreshing to accept our sexuality and our likes and dislikes as well as our limits. I find that sometimes anxiety is related to pushing myself outside of my natural boundaries too far and then berating myself for not being relaxed like some other people are. When I understand my likes and dislikes and emotional boundaries, I can plan around them. For example, I can go to a party and just stay for "X" amount of time because I understand beyond that I will start to feel anxious and spent. I come prepared with an excuse for leaving. When I am successful in accomplishing that, I am more relaxed the next time. That is just an example as I don't know your particulars.

I have found that there are some groups of gay men that get together with shared interests, like gaming. Sometimes you can find similar personalities in these groups. There might be a way to make friends that way. Even a mixed group of gay/straight might work for you. Let us know how you are doing!
 
Not everyone is accepting of what you are but you gotta stand up for yourself like you said you are ..| when i was in high school I head some female friends who were ok with it
 
Thank you both I appreciate the advice very much. Yeah i should join a support group I think my parents are supportive now I don't know if they really were to begin with. They are Catholic so there's that But i'm not really religious I do believe in God and stuff and they love & support me. Most of the guys in school were sporty etc and I think tough and that's what a lot of guys are like jerks you know. I haven't been in a serious relationship so I hope i can be i'm actually 40 years old which is pretty old. Most guys I go on sites I need to meet guys in real life cause I watch webcams etc. lol Most guys just want sex and not much else so I hope to find someone who Loves me for me and I hope they are out there yeah and respectful etc.
 
There's nothing wrong with a lot of sex while you're looking for a guy. They don't have to all be Prince Charming.
 
bluestar1079 said:
I'm gay and have a developmental delay. I also have anxiety. It's tough I was bullied a lot and I don't have a lot of friends But i try to deal with it. I knew i was attracted to men when I was younger and most of my friends were female and stood up for me a lot of the guys made fun of me picked on me. I always liked boybands and girly type stuff.
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It's not the number of friends that you have. It's about the quality of those friends. There are a lot of extroverted people who have a large circle of friends. There's also a lot of more introverted people who have a small number of close friends. Both are okay.


bluestar1079 said:
Most guys I go on sites I need to meet guys in real life cause I watch webcams etc. lol Most guys just want sex and not much else so I hope to find someone who Loves me for me and I hope they are out there yeah and respectful etc.
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They are out there. But often they're not the first people you will meet.

To put it another way, you haven't found your flock yet. There's a group of people out there who are like you and are interested in finding the same things that you want. There are social groups, therapy groups and online groups of people that you should seek out. They'll provide both a group of people that you can talk to and they will also help you with finding insight into situations that aren't always easy to understand.
 
I am a 59 year old bi man virgin and have cerebral palsy but high functioning
 
bluestar1079 said:
I'm gay and have a developmental delay. I also have anxiety. It's tough I was bullied a lot and I don't have a lot of friends But i try to deal with it. I knew i was attracted to men when I was younger and most of my friends were female and stood up for me a lot of the guys made fun of me picked on me. I always liked boybands and girly type stuff.
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Hello Blue Star, you are my hero. I was in denial until I was 22. Would never admit thar I was gay eventhough I was having sex with guys
At least you knew who you were
I'm Steven by the way. Let's chat
 
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