Gay doctor...

[Dominus]

Last year I needed a physical. Went online to my insurance website and picked the closest doctor I found. Made appointment. When I went to the appointment, turned out to be a hot young gay guy.

No, not what you think. He hardly touched me. It was so awkward. At one point he even asked me if I found him thru a gay website and I said no I just picked the closest doctor available.

I've had a lot of physical exams in my life. I'm a health freak so I keep up with my health. I refuse to turn into an old and sickly person like so many I see out there.

Anyway, like I said he hardly touched me. He didn't check anything out. I was pretty annoyed. I think he thought I chose him because I wanted sexual contact.

Anyway, this year I changed my PCP to my bf's doctor, which is a typical straight guy with kids. I got a physical and he really got his hands dirty to make sure everything was OK with me. Exactly what a doctor is suppose to do.

My point is if you're gonna be a doctor be a doctor. Don't be a gay doctor. I honestly did not want any sexual contact. I value my goddamn health. That's all. Don't treat me like I'm a leper. We are not doing a porno.

 

[Kahaih]

A lot of times it's best for all of us to be gay right from the start. More so, I think, for 'hands on' health care professionals.

It's not likely that he was looking for a hookup. Much more likely he's trying to avoid hostility.

Your post seems rather homophobic, actually. The sort of thing/attitude he'd rather not deal with.

 

[Dominus]

A lot of times it's best for all of us to be gay right from the start. More so, I think, for 'hands on' health care professionals.

It's not likely that he was looking for a hookup. Much more likely he's trying to avoid hostility.

Your post seems rather homophobic, actually. The sort of thing/attitude he'd rather not deal with.

I think you misread what I said. Let me explain a little better.

He wasn't touching me enough. I've had many physicals in my life. I know what they do to check up on your body. He was very awkward about touching me. Actually, he hardly touched me. At one point I asked him about a small lump on my chest and he just looked at it without touching. Perhaps he thought I was looking for an excuse to be touched?

The straight doctor when I asked about the small lump really went in there to check it out. He massaged it. Pressed on it. Pinched it. Etc.

 

[belamyi]

^ Maybe he was good enough to detect you were the "health freak" (old style 'hypocondriac') you confess you are, and that there was nothing visible, lumpy or flat, appearing to be wrong with you: if you are going to get checked out, go all the way in and do get checked out properly, with blood and fluid analysis and all that stuff, not just get massaged by a Dr. Queen, Medicine gay man, or Dr. Bundy, married with children.

 

[Peloso]

I refuse to turn into an old and sickly person like so many I see out there.

Best of luck with that.

He wasn't touching me enough. I've had many physicals in my life. I know what they do to check up on your body. He was very awkward about touching me. Actually, he hardly touched me. At one point I asked him about a small lump on my chest and he just looked at it without touching. Perhaps he thought I was looking for an excuse to be touched?

Maybe he thought you were gross.

My point is if you're gonna be a doctor be a doctor. Don't be a gay doctor.

I once rented from a gay landlord and there were big holes in all the walls.

 

[peeonme]

If you live long enough you will become old and "sickly" (whatever in the hell 'sickly' is). I just turned 72 and am worn out after mowing 5 lawns, my knees and hips hurt and I get winded. The other choice is to sit around and get even fatter than I already am. Not many die of natural causes while in good health.
As for the doctor, mine touches very little which is fine with me.

 

[LeicsDom]

A lot of times it's best for all of us to be gay right from the start. More so, I think, for 'hands on' health care professionals.

To be honest I would never give my Doctor's sexual orientation a second thought.
So long as I have confidence they know what they are doing, I don't care who he/she sleeps with

 

[LeicsDom]

He wasn't touching me enough. I've had many physicals in my life. I know what they do to check up on your body. He was very awkward about touching me. Actually, he hardly touched me. At one point I asked him about a small lump on my chest and he just looked at it without touching. Perhaps he thought I was looking for an excuse to be touched?

Some years ago I was in hospital having a new hip.
Because my consultant deemed me to be anaemic he wouldn't discharge me until I had had a blood transfusion.
That was all fine except I had what turned out to be a minor bladder infection which precluded me having the transfusion til it was cleared up.
So, post-op I had had cannulas and catheters removed. These now had to be reinserted.
The junior Doctor tasked with the reinsertions was a rather cute Sikh complete with turban. When it came to inserting the catheter he was very obviously nervous and reluctant to hold my penis as he inserted the tube. Bless him.
I guess he was very aware that I am gay and this unsettled him when it came to intimate procedures.
I wasn't in the least bit bothered.

 

[rareboy]

You should never have a doctor you don't feel completely comfortable with.

Some Docs are very much aware that they can be targets for sexual assault complaints from patients who misunderstand physical contact and I find that many younger Docs aren't being trained to use touch because in many cases they are just there to be gatekeepers.

Years ago I had a complete physical by a Doc who had me get completely naked and then put on a gown. It included a prostate check and a visual checkover of my skin for any anomalies, etc.
That would never happen now.

My current Doc is not afraid to use his hands and in several cases, it has led to helping to diagnose the problem and then treat it. This has included handling my balls and more recently what amounted to a gentle massage of my chest to diagnose inflamation of cartilage in my ribs. But he also only has me remove or adjust the minimum amount of clothing necessary.

 

[Alistair]

^ mine always asks permission to touch me. He not only checks my scrotum but also palpates around my groin to check on where I had a hernia repaired.

 

[rareboy]

I suppose that is what my Dr. Dreamy does as well....he will tell me before hand what he needs to check with his hands and does ask if I am okay with it....

*Don't stop*, I am thinking...but I don't believe I say it out loud as he is handling my balls.

 

[lockeroomguy]

I've got a shitload of doctors. I think one is gay, but I'm not sure, and I don't care. I pick my doctors based on their skills and experience. My docs are old, young, male, female, black, white, Asian, immigrant and natural born citizens. None of that matters to me, I just need them to help me stay healthy. As far as hands on, they all lay hands on as appropriate. I wouldn't go back to a doctor that didn't do the appropriate touching needed for an exam in his/her specialty.

 

[USEDCAR]

I started taking a liking to physician assistants; i see one for my primary care and one for dermatology, and they both are female and great.


I don't care if the provider is a doctor, nurse practitioner, physician assistant, or doctor, gay or straight, or what race or gender they are as long as they are good at what they do and have good bedside manners.

 

[Buttguy]

"I refuse to turn into an old and sickly person like so many I see out there."

Good for you young man...but I have a tip...going to doctors isn't going to keep you healthy, and neither is it to speak disrespectfully of seniors...hence... "an old and sickly person"...you hopefully will be old, you probably will stink if you live long enough..and frankly, I don't care if your doctor was hitting on you and wanted to test your prostate with his cock...whatever...

 

[Dominus]

Good for you young man...but I have a tip...going to doctors isn't going to keep you healthy, and neither is it to speak disrespectfully of seniors...hence... "an old and sickly person"...you hopefully will be old, you probably will stink if you live long enough..and frankly, I don't care if your doctor was hitting on you and wanted to test your prostate with his cock...whatever...

I'm sorry but you misread what I said. I said old and sickly, not old. There is a huge difference.

I don't depend my health on doctors. Like I said, I'm a health freak in the sense that I eat healthy and I exercise. A lot.

What do I mean by old and sickly? People who are 300 pounds and take 20 different types of medication everyday to keep themselves alive and miserable. I'm sorry if this offends you. But one can be old and not be sickly.

 

[rareboy]

I have a terrible piece of news for you.

Genetics will largely define your old age.

You are going to be bitterly disappointed when you find out that you can be as skinny as a rail...or all bulked up and eating right and doing everything you can to be the picture of health and then....

Genetics.

By all means stay slim and fit. but cholesterol, cancer, heart disease, dementia, diabetes, stroke....any one of these can just as easily turn up.

My very thin and fit sister in her 60's has inherited a whole raft of issues from one side of our family.

I have inherited everything else more or less from the other side.

You need to fucking relax and just do the best to manage all of this. I take 10 meds a day. So what? Every one of them is related to a a genetic predisposition that I can do nothing about. And some of them I have been taking for 35 years.

Just enjoy the time you have and the life you are living.

And find the Doc who understand all of this and will be with you for the ride.

 

[Buttguy]

I have a terrible piece of news for you.

Genetics will largely define your old age.

You are going to be bitterly disappointed when you find out that you can be as skinny as a rail...or all bulked up and eating right and doing everything you can to be the picture of health and then....

Genetics.

By all means stay slim and fit. but cholesterol, cancer, heart disease, dementia, diabetes, stroke....any one of these can just as easily turn up.

My very thin and fit sister in her 60's has inherited a whole raft of issues from one side of our family.

I have inherited everything else more or less from the other side.

You need to fucking relax and just do the best to manage all of this. I take 10 meds a day. So what? Every one of them is related to a a genetic predisposition that I can do nothing about. And some of them I have been taking for 35 years.

Just enjoy the time you have and the life you are living.

And find the Doc who understand all of this and will be with you for the ride.

AMEN! Thank you for saying the obvious, too bad Mr. Arrogant isn't compassionate to acknowledge.

 

[peeonme]

 

[Dominus]

I have a terrible piece of news for you.

Genetics will largely define your old age.

You are going to be bitterly disappointed when you find out that you can be as skinny as a rail...or all bulked up and eating right and doing everything you can to be the picture of health and then....

Genetics.

By all means stay slim and fit. but cholesterol, cancer, heart disease, dementia, diabetes, stroke....any one of these can just as easily turn up.

My very thin and fit sister in her 60's has inherited a whole raft of issues from one side of our family.

I have inherited everything else more or less from the other side.

You need to fucking relax and just do the best to manage all of this. I take 10 meds a day. So what? Every one of them is related to a a genetic predisposition that I can do nothing about. And some of them I have been taking for 35 years.

Just enjoy the time you have and the life you are living.

And find the Doc who understand all of this and will be with you for the ride.

Ok, I'll give you the genetics side of things. But there are things that can be helped.

For example, my boyfriend is also 40 and he already has 2 extractions, 2 root canals, and a million fillings. I still have all my teeth with absolutely no fillings at all. I realized the importance of dental hygiene early on in life.

That's just one example. I've been told all my life that it's normal to have teeth problems and other things as you grow older. I don't agree. There are certain things that can be helped. I've met 70 year olds with all their teeth intact.

I'm 40 and at the gym I'm doing things that younger guys do. Like pull-ups. I can do 15 pull-ups in a row. I can shoulder press 130 pounds. And last night, I ran around the neighborhood several times.

This day and age, everybody can live that extra 20 years. But the quality of life is a different matter. Yes, some things are genetics. For example, like the rest of my family I have the propensity to type 2 diabetes. I beat it about 10 years ago and cured myself of type 2. Genetics also gifted me with high blood pressure. No matter what I do, my blood pressure is still elevated. So, yes I get the genetics thing. But that doesn't mean we should give up and let life take us down a miserable path.

 

[belamyi]

So, either by screwing one's own health or by keeping it as well as one can (and one is allowed by "external forces"), one is merely following one's own nature.

Getting porky and healthy and keeping slim and healthy, or porky and screwed and slim and run over, one is merely displaying in time, through the years, what one is all the way from beginning to end, from uterus to ashes.

You are not "adding" anything, let alone time as if one could be a Master of Time, you are just keeping yourself by being yourself.