Gay guy question?

[USEDCAR]

I was attracted to a lesbian friend during my senior year of high school. I hug her from behind and i had the hardest boner i ever had in my life

 

[ELAINE]

Thanks guys. It means a lot to me to hear you're thoughts and good wishes. I'm here for you too and am glad to be here.

 

[Jeimuzu]

Vaguely, but it was a silly childish crush, based on what I understood as normal. It was as if my mind, determined to fit in, created these feelings. When I accepted what I was - around thirteen or fourteen - they went away completely.

 

[slnattak]

Not really. I fingered my former best friend once (she moved away), and I liked it- but I had no desire to hug her afterwards. It made me feel weird actually, like most guys woulda put it inside her but I didn't want to. But when I'm with a guy, I have an intense desire to be more affectionate with them.

Putting an arm around a girl and complimenting her feels icky. Esp because let's be honest, most straight girls are like selfish gay male twinky bottoms and want you to do all the work. I find out that it's the women that make straight guys act like douchbags because they expect them to pay and do all the work and initiative.

I just don't like anything about the straight life or str8 sports bars. Say what you want about stereotypical 'gay lifestyle' to me it's about 150,000 times more fun than anything heterosexuality had to offer. Cruising guys at the beach just appeals to my soul more somehow. I do weirdly enough however, find myself craving the scent of pussy about 5% of the time.

So just like how straight guys would have situational homosexuality sometimes, I would have situational heterosexuality.

 

[thisisinteresting]

It's really not a question for gay guys now is it?

 

[D-Base]

Closer yes, but not in a sexual kind of way, maybe I can better describe it as just mutual love without any sexual desires involved. Unfortunately, we are not that close anymore...

We used to write letters to one another...

 

[Soilwork]

People have really gotta stop giving this woman false hopes.

The chances of her doing anything but fucking up this friendship are very slim.. yes.. every so often you hear about gay guys marrying women or starting relationships with them.. they're always warped and seldom last long.. they're NEVER what she's looking for.

That crap about how sexuality is fluid... meh.. sorry, but the chances of him becoming straight are pretty much zero.

If she pursues him she's going to most likely just going to chase him right out of her life.. just like the advice I give to gay guys who constantly go after straight guys I'm going to say this...


Snap out of it.. go find someone capable of returning your feelings.. you're fixating on someone who's incapable of doing that not because he's "the one" but because he's not. Because of a flaw in your self.. a fear of something or a dislike of something.. you know it's not gonna happen and you also know that if by some bizarre chance he was suddenly straight and into you that you'd no longer want him.

Don't listen to all the silly pie in the sky posts here that are encouraging you to fuck up this friendship for something that is most likely not going to happen.

sorry.. wish I had better news.

 

[sunoftheskye]

lol. I love Soilwork's posts.

 

[ELAINE]

People have really gotta stop giving this woman false hopes.

The chances of her doing anything but fucking up this friendship are very slim.. yes.. every so often you hear about gay guys marrying women or starting relationships with them.. they're always warped and seldom last long.. they're NEVER what she's looking for.

That crap about how sexuality is fluid... meh.. sorry, but the chances of him becoming straight are pretty much zero.

If she pursues him she's going to most likely just going to chase him right out of her life.. just like the advice I give to gay guys who constantly go after straight guys I'm going to say this...


Snap out of it.. go find someone capable of returning your feelings.. you're fixating on someone who's incapable of doing that not because he's "the one" but because he's not. Because of a flaw in your self.. a fear of something or a dislike of something.. you know it's not gonna happen and you also know that if by some bizarre chance he was suddenly straight and into you that you'd no longer want him.

Don't listen to all the silly pie in the sky posts here that are encouraging you to fuck up this friendship for something that is most likely not going to happen.

sorry.. wish I had better news.

It's OK, I know what you're saying is true, but I have no intention of screwing up our friendship. Thats the most important thing. I also wasn't wanting to turn him straight. I love him as he is. He is who I want to leave my son with if I die. I also am willing to give him a child of his own. I expect nothing of him, only his friendship. Yes I would have loved to have the sexual experience with him too, but not at the expense of our friendship. When I think of him, I feel good and strong inside and that makes me happy. As for what I'd like to do with him sexually? that will remain only a fantasy, I know. I do respect you're honest responses, so thank you.

 

[reverb285]

It's really not a question for gay guys now is it?

Technically, it isn't, is it? A gay guy wouldn't have feelings for a woman. He'd sooner engage her in sexual behavior before developing a sexual attraction to her, which of course are two different things.

 

[Alpha1851]

Technically, it isn't, is it? A gay guy wouldn't have feelings for a woman. He'd sooner engage her in sexual behavior before developing a sexual attraction to her, which of course are two different things.

Which is one of the best traits of a gay male buddy. He'll never try to make a move--he's just after genuine friendship and nothing else. That and it's lots of fun to have a male friend who will discuss other hot guys and watch gay porn w/ me.

 

[reverb285]

He'll never try to make a move--he's just after genuine friendship and nothing else.

Yes, unless of course theirs was "fuck buddy" arrangement with meaningless sex, all that he as a gay man would be capable of with her - aside from being a friend. I'm not sure though if many women would be as comfortable with this "I'll fuck you to get my rocks off, but I could never be attracted to or love someone of your gender" relationship, as gay men seem to be in relation to straight men.

 

[Alpha1851]

Yes, unless of course theirs was "fuck buddy" arrangement with meaningless sex, all that he as a gay man would be capable of with her - aside from being a friend. I'm not sure though if many women would be as comfortable with this "I'll fuck you to get my rocks off, but I could never be attracted to or love someone of your gender" relationship, as gay men seem to be in relation to straight men.

I had fuck buddies during my younger days and I think plenty of gals do the same. We just tend to hide it. If a gay male wants buddy then why wouldn't he just seek out another male? It's a moot point for me--I know my buds aren't going to suggest we engage in a suck and fuck party. Thank goodness b/c things are great just the way they are.

 

[reverb285]

Of course. I'd hope they wouldn't suggest that if it wasn't the original nature of you all's particular relationship.

As to to other question, it may seem counterintuitive, but if a person is just wanting meaningless sex, choosing the path with no risk of emotional attachment (at least for themselves) makes sense. Most would just opt for another guy or masturbation for sure, but I'm positive that there are some exceptions who would just see the heterosexual act as an elaborate form of masturbation.

 

[ELAINE]

Point 1: That's what I thought, too, until it happened to me. At the age of 16, I was one nelly queen---or at least, I thought I was.

Point 2: Soilwork, I don't think anybody has encouraged her to pursue this as a viable relationship. Rather, a question was asked about our pasts, and we have answered.

Hi, I am curious as to what happened to you at 16. Could you please tell me you're story?

 

[Soilwork]

Point 1: That's what I thought, too, until it happened to me. At the age of 16, I was one nelly queen---or at least, I thought I was.
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And you're straight now?

Hm. I see.

 

[ELAINE]

What an interesting take...so many posts on here about the gay guys who fall for straight guys, this is the first post where it's the girl who has to go without because the guy is gay.

I wish you luck but even if you could convince him you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. Best to look elsewhere. If you're just looking for some quick sex and one go round the bushes will satisfy you, I suggest getting him drunk, it seems to work on straight guys

Mind you one of the gayest guys I have ever known, a raging queen, ended up marrying a girl out of love. He was totally out, too, and not covering up for anything, he really did fall in love with her. So it happens.

It's nice to know that these things can happen, even if it is rare. I wouldn't want to get him drunk just so I could have him. He means more to me than that. But thanks anyway.....