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Gay Men Who Club or Bar-Hop Too Damn Much...

Umm, it's not about having fun, it's about having sense. No harm in having fun as long as it doesn't infringe on your own well-being and job.

I enjoy going out as much as they do. But I don't do it SEVEN days a week. They spend nearly 70% of their monthly income on drinks at the bar and cover. And then they've got the nerve to complain to me about being broke all the time and having alot of debt.

It's abundantly clear they have a problem.

Speaking of which:

UPDATE

Remember the two friends who were foolish enough to go out in a damn blizzard to go clubbing? The ones who thought it would be perfectly sane and rational to drive an hour into the city at the height of snowstorm?

Well, they got into a car accident on the way back. They're all right and suffered no injuries, but they had to call the po-po and a tow truck to dig their car out of a snowbank.

They swerved off the road and hit another car in the back when taking an exit.

The car's damages will probably total around $1300.

And that's only THEIR car.

Fools.


As long as they don't forcibly drag other people with them or bother you with this, let them have their fun in my opinion. If they can go out every night and still take themselves to work, they might as well enjoy it now before they get older.

If they want to go out and have fun, I don't see why anybody should care as long as they don't infringe on other people's well-being. If they want to risk icy roads and bad weather thats their decision. Alot of guys will risk icy roads and bad weather just to see a sports game or meet a celebrity. Some call them dedicated, others call them crazy.

If they want to spend 70% of their monthly income on on going to bars and clubs, I don't see how that's a bad thing. Some guys spend that much of their income on clothes, cars, sports, various things they like but could go without.

I guess what I'm saying is whats the big deal? If they can deal with it, its their thing
 
As long as they don't forcibly drag other people with them or bother you with this, let them have their fun in my opinion. If they can go out every night and still take themselves to work, they might as well enjoy it now before they get older.

If they want to go out and have fun, I don't see why anybody should care as long as they don't infringe on other people's well-being. If they want to risk icy roads and bad weather thats their decision. Alot of guys will risk icy roads and bad weather just to see a sports game or meet a celebrity. Some call them dedicated, others call them crazy.

If they want to spend 70% of their monthly income on on going to bars and clubs, I don't see how that's a bad thing. Some guys spend that much of their income on clothes, cars, sports, various things they like but could go without.

I guess what I'm saying is whats the big deal? If they can deal with it, its their thing

It's not a big deal. Everyone is assuming it's some great tragedy or something that needs immediate attention.

It's just a common social observation I've made.

I DO worry about them and their club addiction (and while we're at it, alcoholism....) because I'm a closet mother hen.

I just don't understand why a man who go out in a 30' inch snowstorm to go to club (that closed early because nobody was even there.....) and not just wait till the snowstorm passed or even next week.

One of them was recently fired from his job for being late all the time or coming in hungover from clubbing the recent night. He's unemployed, he's about to lose his apartment because he can't make rent (and he had nothing saved up....), his credit cards have gone to collection and he spends his LAST twenty dollars on cover for a club. He has no money left.

And despite all this? He's asking me for money to go clubbing tomorrow night since he has no money for cover or drinks.

It just boggles my mind. :(
 
It's not a big deal. Everyone is assuming it's some great tragedy or something that needs immediate attention.

It's just a common social observation I've made.

I DO worry about them and their club addiction (and while we're at it, alcoholism....) because I'm a closet mother hen.

I just don't understand why a man who go out in a 30' inch snowstorm to go to club (that closed early because nobody was even there.....) and not just wait till the snowstorm passed or even next week.

One of them was recently fired from his job for being late all the time or coming in hungover from clubbing the recent night. He's unemployed, he's about to lose his apartment because he can't make rent (and he had nothing saved up....), his credit cards have gone to collection and he spends his LAST twenty dollars on cover for a club. He has no money left.

And despite all this? He's asking me for money to go clubbing tomorrow night since he has no money for cover or drinks.

It just boggles my mind. :(

That sucks...but he's grown...Not much you can do for him. Though if my life was falling apart like that I'd probably bury myself in the nearest club as well.
 
That sucks...but he's grown...Not much you can do for him. Though if my life was falling apart like that I'd probably bury myself in the nearest club as well.

I completely understand trying to forget his problems on the dancefloor. Everyone does it.

But when his excessive clubbing is what got him fired in the first place, I would think he would show moderation.

It seems so similar to drug use. I had a friend who got addicted to meth and lost his job because of it. Than he used all remaining money to buy MORE meth. Now he's lost in the wind and I haven't heard from him since.....
 
I completely understand trying to forget his problems on the dancefloor. Everyone does it.

But when his excessive clubbing is what got him fired in the first place, I would think he would show moderation.

It seems so similar to drug use. I had a friend who got addicted to meth and lost his job because of it. Than he used all remaining money to buy MORE meth. Now he's lost in the wind and I haven't heard from him since.....

I think it's a lot more like drug use than the obvious. After all, "clubbing" isn't a SUBSTANCE that somebody ingests, but I think that those who truly enjoy it to the utmost are getting a sort of "high" from the release of adrenalin, dopamine and other natural substances which are pleasing or motivating to the brain. The thrill merges with the alcohol (which is indeed a drug), and the high which is produced is different from merely being drunk. Some of the hardiest and most motivated clubbers drink only moderately; it's the experience they crave and not necessarily the alcohol.

Those who go out every night, like DiamondSkin's friends in Washington DC, probably have addictive personalities. They could have just as easily become addicted to strong recreational drugs, or video games, or pinochle, or roller coasters, or fishing, or their computers, or gambling. It's merely the luck-of-the-draw that clubbing happened to become their chosen addiction.

C;lubbing also happens to be more practical, often. In many cases it's a short drive or bus/taxi/'subway ride, or even a walk down the block. It can get expensive, though not as much so as some "addictions" which require a lot of travel, etc.

Though I have a fairly strong dislike for clubbing (as mentioned in my earlier posts here and in other threads in the past), I can also fully understand how other people can become highly addicted to it. There is no question that clubbing causes an altered consciousness - it just happens to be one of the types that doesn't appeal to me.

It's very much like somebody saying "I have no use at all for websurfing and I only use the computer when it's necessary" or "I tried pot once and got high, and I didn't like the feeling at all." A high that appeals to somebody may be entirely uncomfortable to someone else. [I use these two examples because, here in Macomb, I know people who are TRULY addicted to the computer, and to pot. Yes there IS such thing as a strong mental addiction to pot, though it's rare.]

But for DiamondSkin's friends' sakes, I am saddened to hear how they're throwing themselves into the dustbin. My reaction would be the same if it was due to sone other out-of-balance form of addiction.
 
Well, Snowpocalypse 2010 arrived last week. The roads were barely paved. The cars were buried under 30 inches of snow and ice. And visibility was next to none in the flurries that occurred over the snowy days.

Anyone with sense would stay in doors for their sanity and safety.

Not us Canadians.
 
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