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Gay or Straight?

Proud Boy said:
If you could change your orientation and choose to be either gay or straight, would you choose to remain gay?

This question was asked to me and I'm honestly not sure...
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I don't think I would want to change in mid-stream.
The question that might be asked is: would you wish to be born straight instead of gay.
I figure most, though not all, gay guys would prefer to have been born straight. Of course being born straight doesn't guarantee a happier life, I've read ton's of stuff from gay guys on JUB that are doing just fine living with another guy. Odds are though that a straight boy will end up being happier than a gay boy.
 
what makes you say that?

I don't believe for a second that being straight is any more happy in the long run than being gay.

All of the straight people I know still have all the problems that gay people have.

I get so bugged by all the people who seem to like to blame their problems on something like their sexuality over which they have no control.

It means that they dont' have to do anything, they just get to wallow in self pity.
 
I've always thought it would be neat to live different kinds of lives and remember them all. For instance, I've always wondered what it felt like to women to get fucked. LOL.

I've also thought it would be cool to be an eagle or dolphin, but keep your human memory of it.

Anyway, enough of that. Ultimately, the answer to the question is no. I'd take the same hand I was dealt.
 
Hell yes I'd "choose" be straight instead of gay! (As to why I'd choose straight over gay is because the cost of being gay is too high in my opinion, because, after all, we live in a society that is geared to heteros.)But, it will never happen so it is merely an amusing question that merits 2 second's worth of thought and then I go on with my (gay) life.
 
I am happy as I am, so would choose to remain gay.

After going through the acceptance and coming out process many years ago and being in a gay relationship for the last 15 years, I have no need or desire to change anything now.
 
Soilwork said:
what makes you say that?

I don't believe for a second that being straight is any more happy in the long run than being gay.

All of the straight people I know still have all the problems that gay people have.

I get so bugged by all the people who seem to like to blame their problems on something like their sexuality over which they have no control.

It means that they dont' have to do anything, they just get to wallow in self pity.
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Bravo! I agree that many individuals tend to find discontent (and place blame) in whatever imperfect circumstances are landed on them without choice. This doesn't minimize the struggle that so many of us had with growing up gay, but it was simply a different path of finding our identity (rather than being the black kid, rich kid, poor kid, abused kid, etc).

To answer the question personally - no - I would not change a thing.
 
too true.

I'm not sure I ever blamed any of my problems on being gay (I was in total denial until I was about 18 and then I came out and realized being gay wasn't so horrible).

but i've often thought that my life would be easier if I was a bit taller, had hair and maybe was a bit better looking.

Of course it's stupid. There are plenty of rich, beautiful, thin, tall people out there who are mserable and have nothing to blame but themselves.

Just silly, really.
 
I'm happy being gay, so if someone asked me the question, I'd just choose to stay how I am. Gay bars are more fun than straight ones, so definitely gay.
 
createdforanotherreason said:
Asexuality is fascinating and alluring to me. I know a great deal about it, having done a lot of research.

I find it encouraging that there are people, even if I can't be one of them, who don't have a sex drive built into them. It would be very discouraging and depressing to know that for all their diversity in color, culture and creed, all people have one thing in common: a need to fuck. But the relatively few real asexuals that exist are a shining example of human variation covering every base.

I'm cool with my gayness. One thing I hate about it (and would hate if I were straight) is the way sometimes an urge will crop up and I can't fight it. That just kills me. I want to be in control and I want to enjoy getting to know people more than I enjoy watching them fuck on the computer screen.

But if I could do it all again, I'd certainly choose A.
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The reason I mentioned asexuality in the first place is that there's something about attraction that I can't understand. Attraction and love make people irrational--you do things you wouldn't normally do, and make decisions that would seem crazy in any other situation. It's just such a carnal desire. If you could take sexual attraction out of certain relationships it would make things a lot easier. How many movies feature straight men who fall for female friends?
 
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