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Gay Sex is Wayy Different!! SMH Help!!!!!

Theit10101

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So I have 2 questions. Let me give you the questions before the background just in case you dont want to read my whole background story! lol

1-O No My BF's a strict Bottom and I wanna do "other things!" What do I do?

2-Dammit...I only last about 3-5 minutes....if it happens! What do I do?


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So I got my first boyfriend and you know after a while we started to become sexual. I found out he was a bottom and me...IDK. I was a virgin, didnt have any experience but I told him i was versatile. Im just a sexual person I guess because I would do anything (everything but weird fetishes i guess like fisting. But who knows...ill try anything once)!
I soon found out my BF also doesnt like BJ's (Giving or receiving). He said they feel "weird" and he's a germphobe kind of. (one time he didnt kiss me afterward because he said "I ate cum" -___-
Everytime he attempts to give me a BJ it always turns out to be a HJ with a few licks here and there.
IDK Porn has really put my hopes up for sex, just for me to get a sex life, and be let down.
Last but not least on the first subject, he doesnt top and I also dont do rim jobs so yeaaa....I feel so confused on what to do sexually. Im such a virgin :(

Now I feel all we can just do is anal sex and yeaaaaaa....its all on me. Im black and my penis is about average (more then 5'in then 6in havent checked in a while) but im really thick so I guess im fine but I wish i was longer. So i feel all we can do is anal and that department isnt good. When we start getting passionate I get an erection but as soon as its time to start having intercourse my hearts starts beating fast and irregular and its like all the blood rushes to my hearts if you know what I mean. FML. We been only going out for about 3 months and now hes away for 5 months in another country but thats a long different story.
Lastly, when we do have sex I can only last for about 5 minutes tops. Is that normal? Will it get better with more sex? Anything I can do? I wanna improve my sex life because I love my BF and I get self conscience easily. All I think about is :sex: but my mind or my penis keeps letting me down. Please give me some suggestions.
 
I would say to relax and stop over thinking things. I would also talk to him about some of the concerns you are having. Perhaps ask him if there's anything you could improve on sexually and ask him how he thinks you might be able to do that.

Besides the no oral sex and germophobe thing, things seem pretty normal to me and I don't think you are making any mistakes.

Be aware that he may have moved during the 5 month break. You'll be apart for longer than you've been together.
 
Don't waste your time on a guy that isn't willing to give you a blowjob. If he truly loved you, he would get over his "germophobia" and be willing to do anything to please you.

I learned this the hard way, believe me.
 
Don't waste your time on a guy that isn't willing to give you a blowjob. If he truly loved you, he would get over his "germophobia" and be willing to do anything to please you.

I learned this the hard way, believe me.

I don't want to agree, but I have to.

This guy of yours is not worth it, I feel. And he's not doing a thing for you.

Dump him....
 
Don't waste your time on a guy that isn't willing to give you a blowjob. If he truly loved you, he would get over his "germophobia" and be willing to do anything to please you.

I learned this the hard way, believe me.

I think I over act on MANY THINGS! I over analyze way too many things but this...IDK....Im willing to get over this for him. I think it might be worth it. I dont want to break up with him just because of that. I dont wanna me sex the priority of the relationship. I just want to improve. If he doesnt want to i guess i can deal :( Thanks for the advice though....Ill keep that in the back of my head with everything esle! lol
 
Relationships come with compromises.

Your boyfriend is controlling the sex in your relationship. If you are not satisfied and he is not willing to change, then find someone who is willing to compromise.
 
Dump him.

He's not a keeper and will not make you happy.
 
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