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Gay Sex - You Are Born a Top, Bottom, Versatile

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I'm vers and enjoy mutual sex either oral or anal. I want everyone involved to enjoy it and get off.

But I would say that most have a preference. Either bottom or top. I have noticed that its fairly easy to find an oral bottom, but anything outside of that can be difficult to find discreetly. It's been difficult to find vers like myself, and even rarer to find them interested in crossdressers or crossdressing.
 
My apologies if someone already said this in the thread since I just skimmed this but I would imagine top, bottom, vers, etc is the same thing as sexual orientation in general. A combo of innate desire and experiences. Like I always felt bisexual and still am. However it has "adjusted" over years with experience. Now I'm mostly with men, so on the "gayer" side of bi. While at one point I was mostly with women. So you can be "born" a top for example then over time warm up to the idea of occasionally or even always bottom perhaps. Or you never do. It all depends on what you're attracted to at that point in your life but not something that should be forced.
 
im with you on having to have my ass ( man pussy) fingered to cum. im old now and no matter what my gf does to me i ask her to finger me deep and rub my spot so i can cum. she agrees but i dont think she really understands. i love a tong in my pussy but i rarely get it. i do all my partners male or female. i love to tong an ass! its so freakin hot! i tried to top a guy 1 time but i couldnt stay hard. even have had other guys beg me to fk them in the ass but it doesnt work. i have had several women order me to do their ass and i did!! thats awesome for me to have a woman want that,especially when they can take it all. i even eat my cum out of them after.
 
cashit305 said:
I personally think that men who have been total tops at one point and later become total bottoms were honestly either versatile or bottoms the entire time and didn't know or acknowledge it.
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You're pretty much om the money there, bud
When I first headed down this wonderful path of dude/dude sex in m late teens, being the 'bottom' (or 'bitch' as it was known back then) in any sexual encounters, came with more stigma than any teenage boy could handle

As the bottom, you were "the woman" in any casual sex or relationship
Somehow this 6 foot, 200 pound, hairy chested, strapping lad - just didn't look or feel or look like a "woman"
So this rough, working class dude put himself out there as a TOP

It took me a good 15 ears to realise - I was born to physically love the thrust of a giant cock in my arse
But more importantly, I was born to please - the boyfriend - and any dudes I have over for casual sex
That "glow of satisfaction" - in giving every top, the best sex he ever had - can be better than any orgasm
What can I say ?
I love my "vocation"
... and try to be good AT it

I don't BUY the whole "versatile" theory
EVERY dude has a preference
Just as EVERY "bisexual" has a preference
 
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There are many scientific studies that still establish homosexuality human reasons are genetic...but there are also studies that confirmed homosexuals turn gay because of environmental issues. Up until now there is no way to explain the truth reason why people are homosexual
 
Wow. I realize this is an older post. I am also not qualified to comment because I do not have the experience with another guy. I have been a closet gay for my entire life. I’ve always known I was gay but have never acted on it because I was always scared of my small town reputation, I guess. So, I conformed to the normal heterosexual relationships. Not all bad, but not at all what I wanted. I’ve recently come to terms with it and I’m not concerned with what others think anymore. I’m gay with no experience. I’ve always wanted it and always fantasized about sex with another guy. It’s the most natural thing in my mind.

That being said…are we born top, bottom or versatile? Are we born gay? I don’t know the answer to any of those questions. I’ve never wanted anything other than sucking cock and eating cum. Having my cock sucked and cumin in his mouth. So, was I born that way? Maybe so, before knowing anything about sex as a child, I knew I wanted to play with another cock and suck a cock. That was from my first thoughts and desires even before I should be thinking about sex. I didn’t even know what it was about. So, I think we are born hardwired to desire sex with with the same sex or not. For me, I’ve never wanted anything more than playing with another man. As time has moved forward, I’ve realized that that desire is deeper than I thought. I’ve played with my ass with toys being curious. To my surprise I absolutely love it and can take more than I ever thought possible. I want a cock in my ass for sure. While never having fucked a guy, I have fucked a female in the ass. The whole time I was fantasizing that it was a man. I loved it too.

So, recently coming to terms with my sexuality and admitting that I am gay, I’m not going back. I look forward to trying it all with the right guy. I think I am versatile because I want the complete experience. Was I born that way? I don’t know. Will I find later that I prefer top or bottom the most? I don’t know. But, I’m looking forward to finding out. Was I born gay? I think so because I’ve never wanted anything else. Yes I tried to conform to being heterosexual. It wasn’t all bad, but I was never truly happy because the sex was always interrupted by fantasizing about cocks and the desire to have sex with another man. That is hardwired fo me and all I ever wanted and all I look forward to now. Maybe as I move forward I will have a deeper understanding to fully answer with experience.
 
This is something I've been reflecting on myself for a while now.

I'm a late bloomer. Growing up I didn't show much interest in girls or boys. My parents were concerned and told me they were fine if I liked boys. Looking back it was sweet of them to say, but I just didn't have any attraction to one gender or the other. I did have the occasional crush, but I usually got rejected. That along with constantly moving (my father was in the military), I eventually shut myself out and gave up on making connections with people.

I envy people growing up now. The amount of ways to keep connected is so much better than it was when I was growing up. My parents had a two cassette tape answering machine and AOL sucked.

It wasn't until highschool that I really start developing socially and in turn put importance on sexuality. Not to say I didn't masturbate, it was merely an urge I put no effort or importance to. Though I did find stimulation in anal play fairly early on.

During highschool I would have considered myself straight and a top. While I gained a strong small group of friends, I didn't know how to approach anything romantic or sexual. I tried asking out a few girls but was always friend zoned. During my junior year I met a guy I was attracted to, not so coincidentally I also finally got my own computer.

Being awkward and naturally very curious, I ended up wandering into the furry fandom. Where I met my first boyfriend. It was an online, long distance relationship that didn't last.

After highschool I joined the military. On the way to my first duty station I visited a furry friend who introduced me to my second boyfriend. He was my first kiss and lover. We dated for about a year but I called it off due to the distance and his lack of effort.

After that I considered myself bi, considering it a 50/50 split. Though over time I would say I definitely lean more on the gay side.

Nowadays I consider myself a bisexual bottom verse switch. Since leaving the service and after the death of a good friend I've made an effort to try new and more things. I can't say my sexuality is concrete or ever was. My outlook on things change with experience. I don't have any regrets, though I envy those figured these things out before me. As I've aged my libido has increased dramatically and I feel like I missed so many experiences.
 
I’m a bi-man. I stared out my gay life as a bottom because I wanted to feel what it was like to be fucked. I had fucked woman but they never wanted to talk about it. Most of them seemed to like getting fucked so it made me wonder. So I picked up a guy in a bar one night and after a few drinks I told him i wanted to be fucked in the ass! He says OK so we got a motel. I took off my pants and shorts and laid face down on the bed. We had no rubber or lube so he used spit to lube his dick and my ass. He unzipped his fly and without removing his pants, climbed on me and suck his hard dick in my ass. Well I’ll tell you, that boy knew how to fuck an ass! It hurt a little at first but after a couple of minutes it started to feel really good. I could feel my cock starting to grow bigger and bigger. He shoved hard and began to cum dropping a big load up my ass. After he finished he got off, zipped up his pants and said SEE YA and walked out the door. I lay there a minute then jerked my self off. Nobody warned me what would happen in a few minutes! So as I was driving home I soon found a big warm load of his cum leaking in my underware! Lesson learned!….
 
Briangiveshead said:
I am strictly a bottom and I prefer giving oral sex I don’t do much anal but I do like it.
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WOW, I read your post and said, that guy is just just like me! Then I look at your name and another wow Briangiveshed! MY name is also Brian and my favorite thing is giving head!! When I was real young I started out as a passive bottom. I loved to get fucked in the ass! After bout 3 years bottoming I met a guy that I really liked! He would not fuck me. He would MAKE me (remember passive me) get down on my knees, put his stiff cock in my mouth, and fuck my face! After a few times of struggling with this, I began to really like it! Today if I’m going to do a man, I WANT TO GIVE HIM ORAL! Sucking cock became my life!
 
I know I am Bi and total verse. Ever since I was in middle school I was just as aroused looking at men as I was with women. To this day I am the same way 40 years after my first sex experiences. Both men and women turn me on equally. As for the verse part every day is different. I literally wake up some days wanting someone to pound me and other days I want to hard fuck someone.
 
Like everyone else here, I'll take an educated guess - and say I was born a bottom, just as I was born a homodude.
NEITHER of these 'decisions' were a response to anything physical - but more of an 'emotional calling'
I started out my gay journey as a top, but an older, controlling boyfriend talked me into a versatile role - and before I realised it, I was a total bottom.

And it wasn't till I got out there on my own, that I realised what a little dick I had
And that every dude T met seemed HUGE, relatively.
I grew to love the look of a huge cock - squeezed together with my little 'ween peen'
So around this time, I became a full-time,'out' bottom and little-dick shaming thrown my way
 
Nude_Dude said:
Like everyone else here, I'll take an educated guess - and say I was born a bottom, just as I was born a homodude.
NEITHER of these 'decisions' were a response to anything physical - but more of an 'emotional calling'
I started out my gay journey as a top, but an older, controlling boyfriend talked me into a versatile role - and before I realised it, I was a total bottom.

And it wasn't till I got out there on my own, that I realised what a little dick I had
And that every dude T met seemed HUGE, relatively.
I grew to love the look of a huge cock - squeezed together with my little 'ween peen'
So around this time, I became a full-time,'out' bottom and little-dick shaming thrown my way
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Hey man, I too have a small dick, and I think I'm so lucky to be a bottom because my dick isn't the reason I get together with guys. I've tried topping a few times but my dick is too small to he able to penetrate. I tend to prefer bigger dicks myself and for that reason, I say: Thank mighty Eros I'm a bottom.
 
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