Gay Social Life.

[TX-Beau]

Being where gay guys are and being in the scene are two different things. I like to go to a gay coffee shop and it's not a meat market.

HA! Well maybe not the meat market, but definitely the boutique butcher shop. How many of you have ever been to that Starbucks on Santa Monica by the Ramada (WEHO) Saturday and Sunday mornings were pose and strut time. There's probably more hooking up going on there than there was at some of the nearby bars. But I digress........

 

[TX-Beau]

Thats not true at all, i do want my "old" friends. The problem is that my best friend has changed, he's become one of "the guys" and his conversation now revolves around "pussy" and "cars". We used to talk about everything, he was a bit of a science geek ( which i liked ) but he's totally different and conversation now is just forced and awkward because i'm not going to engage in the type of conversations he's having. I find describing women as "Pussy" horrible and i know he only talks like that because the other guys do.

Ok the above is pointless. Either you make an effort to involve yourself or you don't. If you can't reconcile yourself to hang out with these guys then find some guys you do want to hang out with.

There is no such thing as THE scene. There are lots of different kinds of scene, but you'll never find them if you don't look.

Why is "hanging out," with you contingent on not being effeminate? Are you afraid to be associated with people who are "obviously" gay? A lot of Drag Queens make the best, funniest, and wittiest friends. A lot of them are very interesting people. So if you can't hang with straight guys because they bore you, take a chance, try something different.

Friendship is a two way street. If you have nothing in common anymore why is that? I find it hard to believe that these guys just started talking about "Pussy," and "Cars," since you came out. Maybe you came out and just didn't want to talk about that anymore?

 

[spencer]

Agreed, I think that if you hang out with your best friend (just you and him) he wouldn't say the word pussy once. He knows now that you're gay and he wouldn't talk like he does with his friends cause they wouldn't be around.

OR, what you're saying is that you don't want to be his friend anymore.

It is going to be difficult for you because what you want (new friends and whatnot) is going to take effort, but you don't seem to want to put forth much.