Gay/Str8? How strong is your gaydar?

[sailorbrant]

I recently join a gym and wow! there are lots of daddies/middle age men there!!

I secretly fancy few of them (especially the guy who initialed a talk with me at the sauna few days back) but how can i "test" or "hint" them to find out if they are gay/str8??

My Gaydar has always been weak and I'm dreading the idea of making a wrong pass to the wrong guy ..... but how do i make a pass? wink? little smile? or ???

Any suggestion? or better still, successful experience(s)?

I'm 25 and as a younger guy myself, how should I go about on middle age men/daddies? or rather, should I just wait for them to make a pass to me?

 

[alley]

I have no idea---my gaydar works as long as I am not interested in the guy---if I am, then I am usually wrong.

 

[misoho5]

a quick tip hope it works

let them start conversation and then talk about the body part (parts) you worked on that day and ask about what he worked on, if he is interested he'll be glad to not only talk about it but show and flex ask if you can touch and take it from there or the other way around, say something like oh I did biceps and then you flex if he stares for too long and/or reaches out to see you've got a winner

 

[sailorbrant]

I have no idea---my gaydar works as long as I am not interested in the guy---if I am, then I am usually wrong.

I guess that's the case for most of us as well .....

 

[FootballMuscle]

I just watch people's eyes... what do they focus on when they look around the room? Straight guys will look at other straight guy's build (especially in gyms)... that doesn't mean they're gay. But in other situations, such as going to a bar or any casual settings, watch which sex they focus on for eye contact. At a bar, if a girl walks by, a straight guy will look at different parts of the girl than the gay guy.

Pay attention to the subtle details, and you'll be fine. I've never been wrong with this technique.

 

[954dude]

This gaydar is improving. I pay attention to the eyes and body language. That's the only way to tell for me.

 

[madboy4u]

Its all about what they are looking at... especially if conversation hasn't started yet. I've noticed some guys like to take occasional glances at me and I think that maybe they have some intereste when they continually glance in my direction.

 

[slynch15]

Its all about what they are looking at... especially if conversation hasn't started yet. I've noticed some guys like to take occasional glances at me and I think that maybe they have some intereste when they continually glance in my direction.

this happen to me at work this guy would always stare and look back when walking away and once in elevator saw him checking looking at me again so i introduce myself but it never went anywhere any suggestion on what to do next??

 

[slnattak]

But in other situations, such as going to a bar or any casual settings, watch which sex they focus on for eye contact. At a bar, if a girl walks by, a straight guy will look at different parts of the girl than the gay guy.

No offense or anything but I think that theory is full of shit. I notice when a women has a nice figure. It's doesn't really excite me, but it's pretty flashy and noticeable so I might stare at a babe even if she's not doing anything for me. Also I may not check out a guy because men are stronger and if they catch you- I don't like to be used or mocked for being gay like a lot of men will do if they find out. True, most people are gonna treat you nicely but you never know sometimes.

Sometimes though I can't help but look but you gotta catch me off-guard. I might stare a guy's legs or arms too much.

I'm not that intimidated of men anymore though, since I've never been physically intimidated by a man in my life. Just a lot of verbal abuse. For most men their bark is way bigger than their bite haha.

 

[madboy4u]

yeah, that's happened to me at the gym at work a few times myself. But nothing would ever happen . Even in the open showers... i'd try to peek glances here and there with some of them but they seemed to not show as much interest... i guess because they were maybe scared of something happening there in the open. I wish i knew what to tell you, but maybe keep trying to talk to him and maybe you can eventually get to the point where you can hang out or do something if you have something in common.

this happen to me at work this guy would always stare and look back when walking away and once in elevator saw him checking looking at me again so i introduce myself but it never went anywhere any suggestion on what to do next??

 

[slynch15]

yeah, that's happened to me at the gym at work a few times myself. But nothing would ever happen . Even in the open showers... i'd try to peek glances here and there with some of them but they seemed to not show as much interest... i guess because they were maybe scared of something happening there in the open. I wish i knew what to tell you, but maybe keep trying to talk to him and maybe you can eventually get to the point where you can hang out or do something if you have something in common.

thks for input

 

[drinksinme]

Str8 here. But yet I have a good gaydar for peeps that are too gay for me. But YET, I have no sense of when a guy digs me. I've hung out with some of my gay friends and they've asked me if I saw whatever guy EyeFucking the hell outta me? I'm like no , really? Damn I never get to actually witness it!. I may be turned on if I saw it But I'm oblivious.