Gaydar - where do I buy one?

[redips]

So I don't seem to have any gaydar at all. Sure, if a guy wears make-up, or leather pants in the middle of summer, then yes I can tell. But they would have to be flaming 'till they melt in order to look gay to me. And I'm not at all interested in these guys.

Otherwise, for the life of me, I can't tell if a guy is gay. And I myself am very straight-acting. This really sucks in terms of meeting people in everyday situations (and I'm speaking in the context of meeting people for dating and relationships, not hookups). I met both of my ex-boyfriends online because of this, but it'd be nice to meet people in person once in a while, since there's a better chance we'd have some common interests that way.

So how exactly do you tell? I know people who claim they have virtually never been wrong. And they say they just know. But how?

Is it in the looks? The hairstyle? The way he dresses? The way he walks and speaks? Or do gay guys really just emit some aura that's somehow transparent to me?

A few days ago, there was a thread about bookstores being a common hangout for gay guys. And I was like, ???... I believe it because I myself hang out in bookstores all the time, but I can never tell who they are... and I know they're out there, being in San Francisco =)

 

[Telstra]

there is a good thread about gaydar.
i can't remember the name, u have to search for it.

 

[Ramindra]

I have a gaydar for sale. It is slightly used and I think it needs recalibration because every time its signal started flashing it was either a little old lady or a priest.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

So I don't seem to have any gaydar at all. Sure, if a guy wears make-up, or leather pants in the middle of summer, then yes I can tell. But they would have to be flaming 'till they melt in order to look gay to me. And I'm not at all interested in these guys.

Otherwise, for the life of me, I can't tell if a guy is gay. And I myself am very straight-acting. This really sucks in terms of meeting people in everyday situations (and I'm speaking in the context of meeting people for dating and relationships, not hookups). I met both of my ex-boyfriends online because of this, but it'd be nice to meet people in person once in a while, since there's a better chance we'd have some common interests that way.

So how exactly do you tell? I know people who claim they have virtually never been wrong. And they say they just know. But how?

Is it in the looks? The hairstyle? The way he dresses? The way he walks and speaks? Or do gay guys really just emit some aura that's somehow transparent to me?

A few days ago, there was a thread about bookstores being a common hangout for gay guys. And I was like, ???... I believe it because I myself hang out in bookstores all the time, but I can never tell who they are... and I know they're out there, being in San Francisco =)

Dude,

You sound a bit confused.

Look, the more time you spend with other gay dudes, the more aware you'll be of their ways, mannerisms, looks, whatever. That's what mostly constitutes a good and functioning gaydar. Practice makes perfect.

Bookstores, yeah. More like Adult Book Stores than like Borders, k?

Think more like the Frenchy's at Geary@Van Ness than real life bookstores with books.

SC

 

[KingofFaeries]

My gaydar seems to be linked to touch, at work I hand people change, and I tend to scrape my hand across theirs when handing the change, if their gay my arm tingles if their not nothing.

Why not try a gay coffee house. Or something like that.

Or if you can handle yourself in a couple fights, if someone peaks your interest then ask em if they'd like a cup of coffee. If they're gay and interested they'll say yes, if not or if they're nice str8 guys they'll say no. If they're uberstr8s duck quickly

 

[NomineDetracto]

i'm kind of in the same boat, which is to say i don't think i have a very good "gaydar."

but, one test i use: i just wait until a seemingly attractive woman passes and if he ignores her, he's probably gay. or blind. and hey, if a blind guy swings at you, he'll probably miss.

 

[NW007]

As a friend told me once "practice makes permanent" not "practice makes perfect: LOL. You need to be practicing the correct technique.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

i'm kind of in the same boat, which is to say i don't think i have a very good "gaydar."

but, one test i use: i just wait until a seemingly attractive woman passes and if he ignores her, he's probably gay. or blind. and hey, if a blind guy swings at you, he'll probably miss.

Maybe he does not find that women attractive. As far as where you can buy your gaydar, I hear that Wal-Mart sells them cheaply.

 

[Daddybearsdoit]

If you find a good deal, let me know. I'm in the exact same situation as you. The only way I can meet guys is online.

 

[RukkuS]

Actually there is such thing as a gay dar for sale. Its a device that beeps when another person has the same device i saw it on TV one time.

I don't think it was officially called a Gaydar, but yeah. You fill out something inputing all your special interests and likes into a chip or something and then they have parties where everybody goes and brings their little device...then when you hear it go off, you know the person close to you is into the same stuff as you. It doesn't say specifically who it is though, it just lets you know that person is near. Thats the fun part about it, that you get to still do a little bit of chasing

 

[NomineDetracto]

if he's straight, he'll at least check out the woman.

don't you check out almost every guy you see? even if it's just a glance or once over.