Gays marrying Lesbians?

[nyctopgam]

What do you think about gays marrying lesbians for convenience? Gays and lesbians in several Asian countries - some where it is illegal or punishable by death - who face intense family pressure to marry. Is this acceptable or advisable in these circumstances?

 

[palbert]

Seems like a matter of survival in those countries. Anyway, it's their decision - and problem.

 

[lambdaboy]

It just shows you what a shit world we live ib mostly because of religion. Atheist and Proud here,

 

[otters]

But, I'd be more honest in the terminology. It is a marriage of inconvenience.

AFAIK, in international juridical lingo they use the term «fictitious marriage» and, regarding the example you mentioned, «residence marriage».

 

[nyctopgam]

AFAIK, in international juridical lingo they use the term «fictitious marriage» and, regarding the example you mentioned, «residence marriage».

Is it not gay marriage?

 

[otters]

Is it not gay marriage?

Uhm, are we on the same page? The example P mentioned is a gay marriage, yes, formally — but from a juridical POV, it looks substantially like a «residence marriage»:

It is a gay marriage, but the same concept.

 

[rareboy]

I guess you do what you have to do.

Unless the marriage was arranged....a further burden on the homosexuals.....it has been going on this way for a long time.

 

[CupidBoy]

I wish all gays would just be gay and live as they were made to be.

 

[Essex Boy]

I've heard it called a "lavender marriage" and there is a wealth of reading on the subject if you Google it. Basically, if the interwebnet is to be believed, everybody who has ever worked in showbusiness and half the married people in sport and politics are living a lie.

If you're in a country where being gay is illegal, subject to capital punishment even, then you marry for survival rather than convenience. If you live where it's legal and generally accepted but still choose the lavender route you could fairly be called a hypocrite and a poltroon. But there's a grey area (West Indies or Dixieland perhaps?) where gays are just not safe even if they're legal. In that situation nobody can blame you for marrying and choosing a quiet life rather than face daily bullying and harrassment; but it does nothing to advance the cause or to help others in the same position.

 

[Special K]

I hope that I live to see the day when such practices are no longer necessary. I hope that I live to see the day when all LGBT people are free to be who they are and free to love who they want. However, I fear that day will not come, at least not in the more ignorant countries of the world (I won't name any names, but you know the ones I'm talking about).

 

[G-Lexington]

I was helping one young gay guy through the acceptance process, and he told me his dream scenario was to find a lifetime boyfriend, meet up with a lesbian couple, get two houses next door to each other, have one gay man and one lesbian live in each house, have kids (either via adoption or in vitro), put a few in each house, and live under the cover of heterosexuality for their entire lives. I asked him "Doesn't that sound a little...convoluted?" He said "I'd rather do that than come out."

He lived in Boston.

Lex

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

What do you think about gays marrying lesbians for convenience? Gays and lesbians in several Asian countries - some where it is illegal or punishable by death - who face intense family pressure to marry. Is this acceptable or advisable in these circumstances?

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anyway

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thankyou

 

[JohnnyAnger]

My uncle, who is gay, married a lesbian - but that was all to do with getting her a green card. I think it's a bit pointless in the western world, but I can see why people do it in other areas where homosexuality is illegal. It offers you the support, understanding and protection of another queer against the state.