Gerontophilia

[aaggii]

It´s nothing to be understood, really. As long as the younger is not too young (for legal and hopefully ethical reasons), it´s happening, like it or not. I don´t understand cross-dressing, but if it does it for people, why would I have anything to say about it?

 

[borg69unimatrix]

This means your bf is 48yrs old, not really what I was thinking about.

How would you consider a sexual relationship with a 70yr old guy?

If I have understood the subject of the film it is not about younger men fancying "daddies" with silver hair and a good body; rather the "warts and all" aspects of us over 60s.

There's no denying the attraction and beauty of youth.

Maybe I'm misinterpreting this thread, but I get the impression you view this as your only option?
Why not "pick on someone your own age" ???

I'm kind of on the fence on cross generational relationships.
I can see where some can work, and part of me views it as a little creepy.
I'd have to know it wasn't predatory.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm totally fine with cross-generational relationships (with the participants being of legal age). As I've often said, my only problem is with those who would stamp others who aren't interested "shallow"...despite having precisely the same standards.

Lex

 

[sixthson]

While I certainly understand what a younger guys sees in an older guy (say 20 and 50), I have to say I have a hard time getting over the creepy factor of the older one. However, this thread is about sex between someone substantially older than 50 wanting sex with someone who could be the age of his grandson. I could understand the attraction to youth, but I have a hard time understanding the attraction the other way. Fetish does sound about right, but if it is just about sex and not any emotional attachment, the old guy is unlikely to care as long as he gets laid, I suppose.

Maybe we should get Vannies opinion since he seems to have so much luck hitting on the young orderlies at Shady Pines.

 

[Kahaih]

When I speak of a loving relationship, I'm including a sexual life.....not a platonic relationship.

Yes, here it is not uncommon to witness 70 year old men, and young men in a loving relationship that endures.

It could be said that there are material benefits for the younger man, that add to the older man's allure.

Without getting into 'quality of life', and 'dependencies', the life expectancy for males in Greece is about 77.

 

[dpnice]

I may not be expressing myself clearly if a few of you are assuming that I am criticising such relationships. I am not, neither am I saying I find it impossible for a loving relationship to form between two people of different generations.

This film seems to take the scenario of a young, extremely attractive man being sexually attracted to the less attractive physical appearances that are associated with much older men. Not having seen the whole film I can only assume that he has an emotional relationship with the old guy in the clip but from other short (unfortunately in French) clips it is obvious that everything starts from a completely physical desire for elderly men.

I can understand a younger man forming an emotional bond with an elderly guy (we are talking over 60yrs here) and that developing into a sexual one. It is the reverse that I am questioning. Is the sexual desire for "old" flesh a fetish and does it really exist or is it an invention for the sake of the film?

 

[kallipolis]

Without getting into 'quality of life', and 'dependencies', the life expectancy for males in Greece is about 77.

I am sure that we are now better informed knowing that even Greeks are mortal....but on the Greek island of Ikaria, life expectancy is just a tad longer encouraging me to believe that younger men can expect their loving relationships, with older men to last a little longer. ...and pedants are always welcome to entertain us....with their statistics...

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/may/31/ikaria-greece-longevity-secrets-age

 

[sixthson]

It says it's a film by Bruce LaBruce. Any idea how old he is? LOL

"Old men and gin and bruise very easily", haha my favorite line in the clip.

 

[kallipolis]

I may not be expressing myself clearly if a few of you are assuming that I am criticising such relationships. I am not, neither am I saying I find it impossible for a loving relationship to form between two people of different generations.

This film seems to take the scenario of a young, extremely attractive man being sexually attracted to the less attractive physical appearances that are associated with much older men. Not having seen the whole film I can only assume that he has an emotional relationship with the old guy in the clip but from other short (unfortunately in French) clips it is obvious that everything starts from a completely physical desire for elderly men.

I can understand a younger man forming an emotional bond with an elderly guy (we are talking over 60yrs here) and that developing into a sexual one. It is the reverse that I am questioning. Is the sexual desire for "old" flesh a fetish and does it really exist or is it an invention for the sake of the film?

I doubt whether too many younger men regard their sexual appetite for an older man as anything but a desire to get laid....I further doubt that most young men, who lust after older men worry about psycho analysing their reasons for seeking sexual encounters with older men.

There are young men who discover through experience that older men can be much more intersting, and sexually fulfilling even, enjoying the flattery, and attention they receive from an older man often lacking in a man of their own age.

 

[kallipolis]

It seems like such a fetish to me. If you like someone strictly for their youth, what happens when they inevitably grow older?

As another poster has reminded us, nothing lasts forever...gather rosebuds while you may.

 

[dpnice]

It seems like such a fetish to me. If you like someone strictly for their youth, what happens when they inevitably grow older?

The film is exploring the opposite to what you are saying. We are well aware of the attractiveness of youth to older men.

Here it is the youth that is attracted to the elderly, something that is also obviously not eternal. He can desire sexual relationships with the elderly but as soon as he forms a romantic one then that is doomed to last only as long as the elderly guy survives.

 

[kallipolis]

"Forever" is one thing. But can we at least try for something MEANT to last? Being attracted to someone for their youth is the definition of temporary.

The duration of a loving relationship between an older man, and a younger man is not determined by the age of the two partners....

...anymore, than the duration of loving relationship between two people of similar age is determined by their age....

...clearly other factors enable a loving partnership to flourish...and last.

 

[kallipolis]

Here it is the youth that is attracted to the elderly, something that is also obviously not eternal. He can desire sexual relationships with the elderly but as soon as he forms a romantic one then that is doomed to last only as long as the elderly guy survives.

An accurate observation....but even supposing the older partner dies within five years, the young man has experienced the joys of a loving relationship.....

There is no minimum time element that should be factored into any loving relationship....to make it worth the while of the two partners....

My love affairs over many years were entered into as a result of a mutual attraction...at no time did I, or my partner determine that we should stay together for as long as we would live.....enjoy the moment.....I lost my first two (younger) partners to premature death....my current partner should outlast me....meantime, we enjoy our time together without obsessing over our huge difference in age.

 

[dpnice]

Thanks for the replies so far.

Here at JUB we often comment on the "smoking hot" guy of 50 or the 60s and over who lust over the young flesh of 20yr olds, but this is the first time I have come across a situation where the young cute guy lusts over the wrinkled old body of a 70yr old.

Thus the reason for posting the video.

I doubt that the film will come out on general release but if any one finds a source for buying/watching it I would be grateful to know about it.

 

[kallipolis]

Alan, thanks for this thread for it has thrown up some interesting thoughts..I must go to work.

 

[dereperez]

Interesting that you posted the video clip, I was looking for torrents or other possible downloads of the movie yesterday, as the premise of the film fascinates me.

I don't think it's all that weird for a person to be attracted to the other for whatever reason. Some pairings are more common the others but I've learned that anything is possible. I have known a friend that dated someone a lot older than he was (50+ year difference) and I don't find either of them "weird" at all.

 

[Kahaih]

"Forever" is one thing. But can we at least try for something MEANT to last? Being attracted to someone for their youth is the definition of temporary.

Maybe, if you are talking purely physical attraction - a one-nighter - a quicky - etc.

'Nesting', or 'mating', finding someone with whom you'd like to build a life, and 'grow old with' - sharing all of life's joys, experiences, and surprises as they come - is quite another story, isn't it?

 

[LeicsDom]

Does anyone think this is possible or just a subject thought up for a film? I must say I would like to see the film and it gives me a slight hope that perhaps my days of sexual experiences with younger men are not yet over.

There are plenty of younger lads who appreciate us older guys
Just remember that you are much more likely to pull online rather than in a bar

 

[Agent Provocateur]

I've only ever slept with guys in the 35-50 age range, with one exception.

 

[dpnice]

I've only ever slept with guys in the 35-50 age range, with one exception.

You are without any doubt not the only member of JUB in the same situation; it seems common to me that members admit to sexual attraction towards men in their 40s to 50s. But here we are talking about guys in their 70s and I have yet to read of someone your age confessing to finding us "eldergays" hot.