Getting hit on when I was 100% str8

[rubberlover]

Although I'm in my 40's, on 3 or 4 occasions within the last year or so, I've made eye-contact with guys,not smiled,and yet they've gave me really nice smiles-the sort I only ever get from women;and even if I don't fancy these women for one reason or another,I've been flattered. As far as guys are concerned with this scenario, I've never noticed it before.

I've read-and believe-it's very difficult to genuinely fake a smile. When these guys smiled at me I got a certain frisson. I can't help but wondering if my mannerisms are becoming-albeit subconsciously- increasingly "camp", and their "gaydar" is well attuned. Within the last year or so I've been getting turned on by the male stars of my str8 porn stars of as I do or women.

Discuss. Thanks.

 

[Seasoned]

When you were straight, or even though you are straight? Are you straight? If you are not straight there was never a time you were 100% straight. There may have been a time when you didn't act on the full spectrum of your sexuality.

You may becoming to realize that you are attracted to men and are giving off a gay vibe and that's why guys are responding to you.

 

[askerby1]

I make eye contact and smile or respond all the time- sometimes it's a look away- sometimes it's till they do- or several times- means nothing until you have any verbal contact!

 

[Flexuality]

I doubt you're turning "camp." But you've become more interested in guys, with the result that you're making eye contact and more aware of guys who are looking or returning the look. It's such a simple thing, being open to eye contact, but most straight guys miss it altogether because they're only paying attention to women.

Try holding the look, returning the smile, or looking back after you pass each other, and you might find that the other guy is really interested. See where it leads.

 

[rubberlover]

I doubt you're turning "camp." But you've become more interested in guys, with the result that you're making eye contact and more aware of guys who are looking or returning the look. It's such a simple thing, being open to eye contact, but most straight guys miss it altogether because they're only paying attention to women.

Try holding the look, returning the smile, or looking back after you pass each other, and you might find that the other guy is really interested. See where it leads.

Sound,down to earth advice.When women who were strangers to me,it's always them who have smiled first. Same with these 3 or 4 guys. Thank you. You're right, it is simple,why couldn't I have figured this out for myself?!

 

[moniker]

If you get turned on by the trolls featured in straight porn wait till you see what's in store for you in gay porn!

 

[texan_slant]

If you smile and make contact at someone, you usually get the same in return!

Also, if you're naturally flirtatious (not in a sexual or cheesy way) or charismatic, and direct it specifically at someone while having fun with it, you tend to draw people in.

 

[SwitchHit50]

I got hit on when I was 16/17 I was naive as hell and although he ran his fingers up and down my inner leg I stayed totally soft and might have asked him to quit.
The dude however kinda creeped me out which didn't help. Even so, a couple years later, I thought what the hell so I found myself at his place but him not at home, otherwise who knows what could have happened

 

[alli-berri]

I'm very curious, too, about how signals get sent out and picked up, and I'm far from understanding it, for now...

Gay men have been hitting on me as long as I can remember... one guy insisted that I was in denial of my gayness. It got in my head a lot more than I expected it to.

I try to smile at anybody who's willing to look at me, and most men - even gay men! - don't respond to it very well. It's very disheartening. But sometimes I get a grin back.

On what soreknees said about giving off a gay vibe - I used to believe in such "vibes", but I can't figure out how to give one off! Just when I've actually started to accept my "gayness"! Wtf. My pheromones must be all out of whack, or something.

And then, there's women. Women always think I'm hitting on them. But I never hit on women.

F*ck it. Lol.

 

[dragonnogard]

now i want to go out and give smiles to every hansome man i find hahaha

 

[theplayerking]

I can't help but wondering if my mannerisms are becoming-albeit subconsciously- increasingly "camp", and their "gaydar" is well attuned.

I hate to say it, but if you were "camp" most gay men wouldn't look at you. They're looking at you because you look straight.

That's why the gay-for-pay industry is making a killing right. Many (most) gay men want a straight guy, or someone who passes for a straight guy.

Eye contact is everything to a gay man. It's the only way of telling if someone's interested without possibly humiliating and potentially dangerous consequences. Men don't hold other men's gaze for more than a second or two without it meaning something. You play with a man's gaze at your peril.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Why is that though? Do you mean heterosexual seeming? Or actually want to fuck straight guys just because they're straight? I still don't get the allure.

Both. Some men find the fantasy of "converting" a straight guy appealing because it is an ego boost for themselves. Others just want a guy who would not, stereotypically, be identified as gay based of the traits associated with gay men.

 

[jaycee style]

Both. Some men find the fantasy of "converting" a straight guy appealing because it is an ego boost for themselves. Others just want a guy who would not, stereotypically, be identified as gay based of the traits associated with gay men.

it's kind of like black people that refuse to be friends with ghetto ass niggas that will embarrass you in public by "keeping it real"