Getting Over A Guy

[CoverModel]

Just need a bit of advice. I was going out with a guy for about 4 months which really isn't that long, but I was really into him. I've dated loads of guys in the past, but this was the first one that I'd really let my guard down for and I felt that it could potentially lead to something. Alas, he ended things with me via text a few weeks ago citing that things were getting too serious and we were too into each other.

I've been going on dates since, because I got tired of sulking around. However, I would still find myself wondering if he'd come around. We exchanged texts today and while he was polite and diplomatic, he stated that he was over me and no longer dwells on it. As cold as I thought it was, I would like to be over him too. I feel like the texts today have almost got me to a place of closure and finality about it. I just need some advice on stopping thinking about him.

Any advice is welcome, thanks guys!

 

[swerve]

I think that you're doing everything RIGHT!!!

Breaking up with you by text seems CALLOUS to me -- but, oh well...

You know -- you'll ALWAYS have those 4 months together in your memory, so look at it as something GAINED rather than something lost...

Best of luck...

 

[dhchitown1984]

You're doing the right things. You need to forgive the relationship... the relationship can't be changed... it was what it was... you've learned great things from it, hopefully about yourself and relationships in general.

Once you find a new great guy that you like well enough, the other guy will be history (in a good way).

 

[Aratron]

What's up with these coward guys ending things via text? That happened to me a few days ago as well, I called him out on it and he said he didn't have time to call me or be with me

Anyway, it's a tough spot to be in, you gotta have your head busy

 

[makeurowndstny]

Just go out and have fun whether its with friends or what not. Don't let him bring you down. Thats what will be the part that hurts you the most is being alone and letting someone bring you down

 

[sixthson]

Just handle it in a healthy manner like the guys above have suggested. Too often the tempation is to find a way to hate the person or blame them for the break up in an effort to feel better about it. But this is unhealthy and I suspect only prolongs the misery.

Hang in there, you will be OK.

 

[HunterM]

You're doing everything right to move on with life by dating other people. You just need time to heal. This is all about the grieving process. You can't turn it on or off like a light switch. You have to give yourself time to grief...get it out of your system. He is spineless when he broke up with you via texting.

You need to stop thinking he might turn around. Stop thinking of wanting to spend time with him again. Delete him off your phone and email & Facebook contacts. This will make it harder for you to contact him...and the temptation of thinking "what if?" Delete all his text messages off your phone. You need a clean start.

Focus on work, your family, your other friends by spending time with them. Pick up a new hobby to meet new people. Having a new hobby never hurts. It will give you another topic to talk about on your dates.

 

[CoverModel]

Thanks for the tips, guys! I've deleted all the pics and text messages that I have from him. Now I just have to try and keep myself busy. I don't really miss him when I'm doing things with my friends and family, but it's those moments when I'm alone that I still find myself getting down over how things turned out.

 

[Seasoned]

^Well done! You learned something from this and had a good experience until the end. Some guys don't want to settle down and it's just that simple. My guess is that he was afraid if you got together to break up their would have been a scene or sex and that is why he sent the text. In the long run it's always better to have a clean break. Wishing you all the best.