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getting your guy

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when you see a HOT guy you want to HAVE

and he says no for whatever reason, what do you do ?

What I mean is you wanted something for sex, relationship or friendship, and it wasn't available. Do you just go find another person ? Is there more involved ? Do you allow for a cool-down period before striking onto the next one ? No period ? How seriously should you take approaching these guys.
 
I guess it really depends. If it was for sex, and purely sex, I think it would have been much easier just to move on immediately. I mean, there's not much you can do if you wanted someone for sex (let's say, online) and he said NO.

Whereas for a relationship, I think there might be a time lag just so one could reassess their positions and to be ready for the next guy that comes along. Besides, I would think you would have known that guy for some time (definitely not an hour or a day) before even contemplating a relationship with him.
 
For me it always seems like if i fall for someone then i keep wanting them until i find somthing new, and even then i sometimes wish i still had the person i wanted originally.
 
Totally depends on the situation, if it is sex and you are in a club and the guy says no, get over it and move on, about 10 seconds! If you have known the guy a long time and you want a LTR (thinking you would both be good together) and you are both single etc, and he says no, then it is probably worth pursuing further in an appropraiate way, going for some dates or something.

Do you have a specific senario in mind?
 
scenario ... well .. I do.
there was a hot guy on a bus trip (it was a gay bus trip) and I though humm.. if I ask him, what are my chances of getting anywhere with him. Not sex wise, but making out ... relationship, and sex too :)
 
And did he say he wasn't interested at all? Or that he was taken? Or what?

If you don't know him that well, it'd probably be easiest just to force yourself to move on.

Lex
 
True. There is no one-fits-all solution here.

Basically, if a dude says, "Nope", I move on right away. He must have his reasons, and even if he does hot have them, I am in no position to question his motives. Besides, it does not take a rocket scientist to grasp the concept of a simple "NO".

I have no problem in accepting rejections. This comes with the territory and is the second name of the dating game. So, I neither get upset nor do I cut off the dude or anything.

However, should he come back to me asking for anything later on, more likely than not, he'll get a flat, if very polite rejection, too.

Nope, you can't have your cake and eat it, too.

SC
 
well most of the time those guys are straight so i leave it alone and keep it in my fantasies.
 
I got the right guy in the end after not getting the guy I originally wanted. Turned out for the better, just be ready for rejection as everyone has their certain type of person they are attracted to and if thats not you, it doesn't mean you aren't hot or whatever, just that they might like more of a punk type of guy, or maybe emo, etc.
 
G-Lexington said:
And did he say he wasn't interested at all? Or that he was taken? Or what?
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I didn't ask him ...

I kinda made a point not to hit on the guys as much during that trip. Just enjoy the time and the group.

I think he was single, but I can't tell for sure. He was really hot though.
And I wasn't sure how to .. approach the subject.

I would have liked to be pressing my body against him and saying "mmmmmm you are really hot !! " hehe but I've decided against it. I did stare at him till he noticed but then I looked away. I need better ways to let people know I'm interested -- I think that this was the real topic of my post.

And SilverRRCloud -- I like your approach and your confidence that must come with the dating game.
 
Hi Guys,
I met a guy yesterday for coffee, an after that he told a common friend of ours that I am not his type. IT was our first time together yesterday.
I am feeling miserable today. Don't know why....
I feel like no one will ever like me. I have low self esteem and this just added to it.
 
After you break up with your partner of 8 years, you'll find it easier to hit on guys.
 
I was wondering when someone was going to bring that up... I concur! If what you stated in your other thread is true, you have bigger problems than 'getting your guy'... You need to get RID of your guy before you can get a new one.


Seriously... You are giving us twentysomethings a bad rep!
 
hah mm very good point rareboy. thank you !

Aflute04, you were not supposed to see the other thread. ...
but I know ... I'm just kidding

twenty somethings a bad rep ? maybe, but I dunno. So far I'm keeping a pretty fair record. Know many other twenty somethings who keep a relationship for 8 years ? .. without cheating ? I am being vocal about the downsides of the relationship that I'm experiencing though.
 
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