going in circles

[KaraBulut]

it just seems that so many gay people think that all of their straight friends are secretly in the closet. could this just be a phase? i just want to find myself.

Perhaps.

But waiting for straight guys to turn gay also provides a great excuse not to find a real boyfriend.

If you want to find yourself... well, I doubt you're to be found on the inside of your straight friend's packaged board shorts.

 

[G-Lexington]

Kara's got it nailed, I think. As long as you keep semi-flirting with your straight drunk friends, and nothing really happens (pro or con), you can pretend that there's still hope. Is there? I'd say it's doubtful at best. Yeah, your friend kissed you. After you insisted he do so.

If you really are interested in (in-shape) guys, go join a gym, meet some in-shape gay guys, and see what happens. Yeah, the blow job didn't do much for you, but it was just some guy. You've BONDED with your friends, which is probably why the prospect of sex with them is so enticing. Go bond with an out gay guy, and see what happens.

Lex

 

[954dude]

Kara's got it nailed, I think. As long as you keep semi-flirting with your straight drunk friends, and nothing really happens (pro or con), you can pretend that there's still hope. Is there? I'd say it's doubtful at best. Yeah, your friend kissed you. After you insisted he do so.

If you really are interested in (in-shape) guys, go join a gym, meet some in-shape gay guys, and see what happens. Yeah, the blow job didn't do much for you, but it was just some guy. You've BONDED with your friends, which is probably why the prospect of sex with them is so enticing. Go bond with an out gay guy, and see what happens.

Lex

Bravo! When there's a connection and vibe established with someone, there's an attraction. It makes the experience more meaningful and enjoyable. Go out there and see what people have to offer. Stop worrying about labels, just be confident in your own skin and respect yourself.

 

[RedRedKroovy]

sounds like to me they are goofin on you

all guys do it, gay or straight, I really don't think it is exclusively either one

don't read too much into it

 

[Lube]

Yeah, the blow job didn't do much for you, but it was just some guy. You've BONDED with your friends, which is probably why the prospect of sex with them is so enticing. Go bond with an out gay guy, and see what happens.

Lex

Bravo! When there's a connection and vibe established with someone, there's an attraction. It makes the experience more meaningful and enjoyable. Go out there and see what people have to offer.

What Lex & 954 said.

And labels are useful. When you meet a guy and want to know if he wants to have sex, you don't want to listen to his 1/2 hour life story because he doesn't believe in labels.

I hated the word 'gay' at first. Now I love it. Get used to it.

 

[Blueboy369]

Once people know your Bi the guys are going to come to you. Just wait. It will happen.

 

[rareboy]

And labels are useful. When you meet a guy and want to know if he wants to have sex, you don't want to listen to his 1/2 hour life story because he doesn't believe in labels.

Yay!!!!!

Someone finally said it. This whole thing about not labelling in order to convince yourself and the other guy that you're not gay............yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn. And the amount of time spent in justifying.....all in order to reassure yourself that you just can't possibly be homosexual.

So. At the moment, go with bi if that makes you happy. But get over the idea that your straight guy friends are all also bi. They're not.

You have a lot of sorting through to do yet, in terms of sexual and emotional growth.

Best wishes on your journey coming out.

 

[Tizinsane]

Yeah, I know how it is...

I'm mostly into straight guys, too.