going mad with lust

[screwed]

Hi,

I am Bi fit athletic man I am married I met this absolutely beautiful looking man when I say beautiful i mean Adonis times 2 I was doing a course I had never met him before.Initial 2 days it was just regular then we were the only ones hanging around smoking and joking I had not laughed this much since I was cant remember. Anyways I always felt he wanted to be close to me like touching arms looking right into eyes smiling .Then we had a physical practice for safety class where each person needed a partner and we ended up being each others and it was bandaging etc anyways we held each others arms and it was like we were laughing so much that the rest of the class started looking at us including the guy teaching us. Anyways at the end of the class we exchanged numbers.The next day we had to go to a practice duty and I offered to pick him up which he accepted. there he was staring at me all the time and smiling when I actually stopped looking cause it was so blatant and during a cigarette break we sat down I felt a foot touch my foot and the break ended.The day ended and so did my peace of mind.

All in all it is a situation where I dont know him and there is no way to get together since we just met for 5 days he knows I am married and I have never felt like this for another man like this. I cant sleep and feel sick to my stomach as I dont know how to meet him again.It is disgusting that I feel this way since I have such an amazing wife. Now the question is what was all that about did he have feelings for me because after spending 37 odd years on this earth and thinking I knew it all I dont know how to tell him in a message as a hint on the phone.What to do pls can some give me any ideas on how to ask him if he is interested in a dubious way.Since we dont work together I am not worried about that and since we most probably wont be seeing each other I dont what to do pls tell me how to say it so he suspects but would not be sure.I am going mad with lust.

 

[bankside]

Rather than disgust yourself, figure out if you still want a future with your wife.

You can fuck as many guys, or this one guy, as much as you want in your fantasy life. But don't worry about whether he suspects because you don't need to let that happen while you're a married man.

 

[qget12]

Man, that sucks. But still, you have his number yeah? No harm in dropping him a text to say that you enjoyed hanging with him and wouldn't mind meeting up again, for a workout/ hang out/ anything. If it is as you said it is, he seems to have enjoyed your company as much as you did his, so there shouldn't really be any problems.

How you proceed from there can't really be answered with any certainty by anyone but just remember, if you don't come across as a creep you could end up with a good friend, or more (but since I don't really know what the situation is with your wife I'll leave it at that).

 

[Tee-Jay]

I can't believe you're so wrapped up in this guy whom you hardly know, that you would forget about you wife. At the moment it seems that your mind is set on hooking up with this guy. What about you wife, doesn't she factor into the equation? Or are you simply one of those men that thinks with their dicks and nothing else? You say you have an amazing wife, then why not treat her like she deserves to be treated. At the end of the day, the way you make your bed, is the way you shall lie in it. I'd hate to see you ruin a marriage for a few minutes of sex with some random dude, who clearly has no respect for boundaries.

 

[screwed]

Its lust thats the way it is and yes I have his number and his pictures which I took from his facebook,
I so want him cant even make myself wank at his picture.

This is really getting to me help.

And yes I love my wife but we are not talking about her at this time.

 

[screwed]

Thats exactly I dont wanna look like a creep

 

[Storybook_Man]

Well to just add, so am I.

I am pretty tired, but yet I have the urge to have sex.. lol

 

[clicker]

Its lust thats the way it is and yes I have his number and his pictures which I took from his facebook,
I so want him cant even make myself wank at his picture.

This is really getting to me help.

And yes I love my wife but we are not talking about her at this time.

I believe you do love your wife,SCREWED.Loving another man is not in conflict with being married. It's called bisexuality and it's beeautiful and normal. Nevermind the other silly advice, go for him, navigate carefully, and seek his friendship, hopefully for life. You'll have it all!!!! Yum.

 

[star-warrior]

Well, since you have each other's phone number, let him call you first

However, if you love your wife, do the right thing and be faithful to her. If he does phone, you'll just have to be friends.

 

[Willie Boy]

Hi,

I am Bi fit athletic man I am married I met this absolutely beautiful looking man when I say beautiful i mean Adonis times 2 I was doing a course I had never met him before.Initial 2 days it was just regular then we were the only ones hanging around smoking and joking I had not laughed this much since I was cant remember. Anyways I always felt he wanted to be close to me like touching arms looking right into eyes smiling .Then we had a physical practice for safety class where each person needed a partner and we ended up being each others and it was bandaging etc anyways we held each others arms and it was like we were laughing so much that the rest of the class started looking at us including the guy teaching us. Anyways at the end of the class we exchanged numbers.The next day we had to go to a practice duty and I offered to pick him up which he accepted. there he was staring at me all the time and smiling when I actually stopped looking cause it was so blatant and during a cigarette break we sat down I felt a foot touch my foot and the break ended.The day ended and so did my peace of mind.

All in all it is a situation where I dont know him and there is no way to get together since we just met for 5 days he knows I am married and I have never felt like this for another man like this. I cant sleep and feel sick to my stomach as I dont know how to meet him again.It is disgusting that I feel this way since I have such an amazing wife. Now the question is what was all that about did he have feelings for me because after spending 37 odd years on this earth and thinking I knew it all I dont know how to tell him in a message as a hint on the phone.What to do pls can some give me any ideas on how to ask him if he is interested in a dubious way.Since we dont work together I am not worried about that and since we most probably wont be seeing each other I dont what to do pls tell me how to say it so he suspects but would not be sure.I am going mad with lust.

Thats exactly I dont wanna look like a creep

Too late for that. You're a married man who intends on cheating on his spouse. It doesn't matter if you are married to a man or a woman or if you are cheating with a man or a woman. It is still cheating. Your word is worthless, and you show yourself to be far worse than a creep.

Its lust thats the way it is and yes I have his number and his pictures which I took from his facebook,
I so want him cant even make myself wank at his picture.

This is really getting to me help.

And yes I love my wife but we are not talking about her at this time.

She is part of this as your intended action will be directly against her. You can try to discuss it away however you want, but the fact is you are trying to break your commitment to her If you go through with this at least have enough balls to be honest with her and tell her directly instead of trying to sneak around behind her back and pretend she's as witless as you are and wont have a clue what you are up to.

 

[sendme4321]

Listen, i understand how you feel about hits guy you met but, like everyone else said, think about your wife. What if the tables are turned and you found out your wife cheated on you? Just really think about that....

Why dont you talk to your wife about this, maybe she might be down for a little threesome action if he really is that good looking, it'll spice up your sex life But i urge you to not cheat and break that trust you have with your partner.


Think about it....

 

[star-warrior]

^ well that depends how 'out' as a bi man he is with his other half. If she knows his proclivities, fine, it may develop to that stage if she's willing. If she isn't aware of his leanings, and has previously had said things disparaging male on male relationships, then he's not going to get anywhere.

 

[qget12]

People on this board can be ridiculous some times. I actually hesitate to ask for advice myself at times due to the way more people seem intent on knocking you down instead of giving advice.

Look, the dude didn't say ANYWHERE he wanted to cheat on his wife with this guy. All he said was he couldn't stop thinking about him. Big deal. It happens. People fall in love with strangers all the time. 9 times out of 10, nothing comes of it.

Furthermore, we don't actually know what the situation with his wife is, whether he is out to her, they are exclusive, are allowed to see other people, etc. So until we find that out, can everybody STOP with the "you're so despicable, thinking about cheating on your wife blah blah blah"

 

[NEED2SUCK]

People on this board can be ridiculous some times. I actually hesitate to ask for advice myself at times due to the way more people seem intent on knocking you down instead of giving advice.

Look, the dude didn't say ANYWHERE he wanted to cheat on his wife with this guy. All he said was he couldn't stop thinking about him. Big deal. It happens. People fall in love with strangers all the time. 9 times out of 10, nothing comes of it.

Furthermore, we don't actually know what the situation with his wife is, whether he is out to her, they are exclusive, are allowed to see other people, etc. So until we find that out, can everybody STOP with the "you're so despicable, thinking about cheating on your wife blah blah blah"

Hey! couldn't agree w/u more man. Y'all need 2 simmer down and let this guy find out what's going on in his head/heart. How many of u taking this high road have been married? If you have, than u know the difference between love and lust isn't even comparable....and when u throw in the "excitement" of perhaps (only said perhaps!) of your first experience of being w/another guy.....well, it's not hard to go into overload.
Follow it up bud....meet for a brew...go to a game....see where it goes....u'll both figure it out soon enuf...and then u can sweat the big stuff!

 

[cinnamontea]

i know how that feels, to a poitn of obsession....just drop him a call, and go or do somthing neutral...during your conversation, what are his interest? just do that, and have casual chat, and maybe brrush on him a couple of times to see his reaction to you getting close....


i always let the oter person open up before i state my inteerest...that way i can pull myself out of the situation if the fantasies in my head doesnt match the reality

 

[screwed]

This guys does not know his power if he lets me do as I please i will treat him like a prince clothes money whatever he wants fool does not even know his own power how sad...

 

[screwed]

well spoke to him yesterday about some bull crap and asked him a question ref that fucking god forsaken course he said he would call back which he did but when speaking to him I just remained totally professional(asshole me)and shut the phone down without making any further conversation so it seems I am my biggest roadblock. Now I really have nothing to say.Anyways guys I feel like really stupid probably this is not a good idea people on this forum are right I need to think about my wife and also my kids(yes I have 2) Thanks for you guys advise I really appreciate it maybe this is a bad idea maybe I need to take my heart out and throw it in the dust bin. I am not out to my wife or anyone else. But she has felt a change in me as being quiet and withdrawn.So lets see there is an opportunity coming up on Friday to talk to him i will think about it.C'mon guys give me a dubious line to throw.

 

[JNewYork]

I hate to enable you, because if you're in pain now you will be in a lot more later.

But, okay, here goes. He and you already shared some strong intimacy. You both know that.

On Friday when you talk to him, mention the class you both took and say how funny that class was. Say it was fun to him. Say: "Man, that was fun. I haven't laughed like that in a while. We gotta hang out some time. Go for drinks and just laugh."

There you go.

I shouldn't have enabled you.

 

[moto]

"why dont we go for a drink later after class?"

you're curious, and the only way to deal with it is to satisfy that curiousity.

Ive felt that intense "lust" many times, and the only way for me to get over it is by knowing more about that person, so i could get over the "lust" and move on because i already know how messed up that person is. you dont necessarily have to sleep with him, just get to know him a little better.


"You will regret more the things that you did not do more than the things that you did" ... or something like that!

 

[screwed]

Ok I have now decided finally not to call him if he calls then we will see. In the meantime I am going to wank him out of my system.

So there thanks for all the help certainly it calmed me down