Going To A Gay Club On Your Own?

[BerryBlack]

Would you go to a gay club just by yourself?

I went once on my own before when I was drunk (after I had been rejected entry from a place with my straight friends because I was too young for there) and I ended up having a great time. However now the thought of doing it again sober kinda scares me just because I don't want to look like the loner in the corner of the room.

I don't have other gay friends right now that I could bring with me so I'm kinda stuck. Should I just screw it and go alone or wait till I have a few gay friends to go with?

 

[G-Lexington]

I have. I just went into "outside observer" mode, and tried to analyze everybody else's behavior as if I were Jane Goodall hanging out with the apes. Actually kind of fun. But it's better if you go up and talk to a few of them.

Lex

 

[BerryBlack]

I have. I just went into "outside observer" mode, and tried to analyze everybody else's behavior as if I were Jane Goodall hanging out with the apes. Actually kind of fun. But it's better if you go up and talk to a few of them.

Lex

Yeah, that's sort of what I did too, but eventually found people to talk to. It's just awkward when everyone's in groups and you're not.

 

[refujiunderground]

i did this last week and it was cool. felt like an episode of cheers. the only thing was that it wasn't a busy night. was hoping that it was because i would have probably been getting loose.

 

[refujiunderground]

^Cheers? Were you at a gay BAR or a gay CLUB? There's a difference.

Anyhoo, going places alone is awesome! It's actually a good way to MAKE friends!

you can say it was a gay bar. the club part wasn't open. can't wait to go to a gay club though.

 

[hotatlboi]

I've done it several times. Go enough and eventually you will run into people you know there, so you have someone familiar to talk to, even if you are alone.

 

[BerryBlack]

^Cheers? Were you at a gay BAR or a gay CLUB? There's a difference.

Anyhoo, going places alone is awesome! It's actually a good way to MAKE friends!

I was at a gay CLUB on my own, which is even more nerve wracking than a bar.

 

[hotatlboi]

I was at a gay CLUB on my own, which is even more nerve wracking than a bar.

I would disagree with this actually. I think it's more awkward alone at a bar because you look even more out of place if you aren't talking to someone. At a club you can get a drink and dance with people and fit in easier.

 

[boy0boy]

I think club is harder- it's inherently social, harder to penetrate people's bubbles when they are in groups already.

Bars are more drinking orientated- other people alone.


Actually on this past St. Patty's day I went to a club on my own. I felt it necessary to drink to take off the pressure of feeling outsider. I'm also a fan of dancing - SO I became the weird guy dancing by himself.

It was strangely cathartic. I have always relied on friends in order to access that atmosphere, so when I went alone it was freeing. On one hand I was a bit silly - drunkenly dancing alone BUT now I can say I've been there, done that.

 

[streetblackcock99]

The thought of going to a gay club/pub/bar/whatever, makes me feel really uncomfortable, it's just really not my scene.

 

[Marco Sensual]

I would not go in a gay club.Because of the famous cock grabbing thing going on in gay clubs.So much gay men are complaning about men grabbing cocks,men grabbing the butt,men touching your body ect...Gay men who goes in a gay club could feel like they been raped.Men in gay clubs are very horny.Lets face it.Most men who goes in gay clubs only goes in gay clubs for cruising and have sex.Gay clubs are basicaly sex clubs.You could basicaly comparing gay clubs to any gay sauna.

Its not the case in straigth clubs.At least not to the same degree.In straight clubs people makes friends and talk to each other.Unlike in gay clubs,men are very sexual and they are not there to make friends but men are there only for sex.This is the way it is.

The most you will get from a man in a gay club is an open relationship.That,it is only if you are lucky.Because most men in gay clubs only wants to fuck you.

Men in gay clubs are all about sex.If gay men wants to find a man who wants a monogamous relationship,they will not find their monogamous man in a gay club.

Gay clubs = Polygamous gay men in heat.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Shut up Marco. You're a liar and you know nothing.

 

[Marco Sensual]

Shut up Marco. You're a liar and you know nothing.

Im sure that deep inside,you know im right.What i said about gay clubs is spot on.Im not the only gay man who says that.Theres other threads that have been made about gay clubs.They said the same things.Make your research before calling names.

I know what im talking about.You obviously dont.Anybody who knows about the gay lifestyle,knows that im right.Theres even tv shows that talked about it.Polygamous gay men in gay clubs is a reality with gay men.

Just deal with it.

 

[ZmercTheDuke]

I wouldnt go to gay club by myself for same reason wouldnt go to any other club by myself, its hard to have fun at club when your with no friends and dont have someone to enjoy the club with.

 

[broadshoulder]

Although if you go to one on your own just for one night you might meet people but you might just get a hook up.

If you keep going back, week in week out, you will start to remember people. If you say hello they will say hello back. And you get to know people.

Over time this could mean a lot of people and be part of the community.

And as for Marcos premise that straight clubs are friendlier. They are not. They are full of attitude like gay clubs. And you have got the added thing of one sex batting away another because they can.


Seriously, go to a gay pub or club repeatedly anywhere in the world and you will make friends. At least I did.

 

[AlmondMilk]

I went because I was going to meet up with friends..but I ended up just hanging around for about an hour or so. I should've just sucked it up and go to someone to have a chat..but I was all shy

 

[hotatlboi]

Wow, I see it like the OP does. To me, going onto a bar and chatting up a random stranger is one of the easiest things in the world. Asking one to dance with me, when the music is so loud that we can't have decent conversation first? Not so much.

I guess that's why it's easier for me, I'm usually better at dancing than conversation lol.

 

[buckeyrex]

Sure. Why not? It's like going anywhere else. Why feel different? Just mix in and be happy. No worry. Life is a blast. Be happy you have such spots to visit.

 

[palbert]

Most of these posts make it sound like going to a gay club or bar is something akin to exploring the Congo with Livingston with all the attendant dangers.

Put on your long pants, check your drivers license to confirm you're out of the terrible two's and get your ass out the door. If you hug the wall (inside) you're at least ahead of a lot of others. And if you grow up next time you won't be hugging the (inside) walls. Human interaction is just not that complicated or life-threatening.

If you need to, put your blankie in the car.

 

[thrive]

i went with friends last friday night to a gay club. after dancing for a bit they wanted to go to back to the car for a little while. i wanted to stay inside the club because its not very often that we get to go and i didn't wanna go back to the car. :/ so i stayed and it was pretty awkward. i sat on the couches which were located by the bathrooms then moved around the dance floor but it seemed like EVERYBODY was with friends or with a partner and no one to mingle with. it would be ideal to meet a cutie for once but its hard. >.< it definitely feels better to be with friends and than to be alone.

I've done it several times. Go enough and eventually you will run into people you know there, so you have someone familiar to talk to, even if you are alone.

thats a good tip.