Going To A Gay Club, What Should I Expect?

[HunterM]

^ Did you tell her, "For the right price, I'll go"?

 

[ravenstar]

I told her I was gay and she told me she wasn't blind and that she didn't care if I was gay cause she'd always wanted to sleep with a gay guy and see if she could convert him.

Bless her, she was so barking up the wrong tree with me. Later that evening I made out with some random guy in the corner for a while and she came over and asked us both back to her hotel room.

I still didn't go.

 

[blackbeltninja]

If you only intend to dance it shouldn't be an issue obviously. I go to clubs with my group of friends and my boyfriend. I would suggest go with some friends. And honestly, don't look in a club for a boyfriend... I only go to them to dance and sometimes watch the premier of a music video (which they do in Arena). I don't trust the guys at the places I mentioned to consider going out with them.

I'll expect the usual misplaced neurotic fire I get from you, so I've got my asbestos suit on for prophylaxis.

Now let's see if I've got this straight:
1. You don't trust the guys at clubs to consider going out with them, but:

2. You yourself go to clubs sometimes.

So doing the maths... a guy like you (who doesn't trust guys he might meet in a club) shouldn't date a guy like you (who goes to clubs). How then would anyone find someone to date? Are you untrustworthy as a potential partner or boyfriend, because you go to clubs? Or are you the exception to your own rule?


-d-

 

[rareboy]

^ And that is what the two of you need to stop doing...going after something in the other's post and making a thread about the that instead of the original topic.

The sexual tension just distracts everyone.

 

[blackbeltninja]

^ And that is what the two of you need to stop doing...going after something in the other's post and making a thread about the that instead of the original topic.

The sexual tension just distracts everyone.

It's current and relevant to the topic; not sure it warrants a separate topic in itself.

-d-

 

[blackbeltninja]

I'm talking about guys you generally find in clubs. I'm not talking about myself. Yet another person with a reactionary response.

Okay, so you admit it's a sweeping generalisation then.

Let me explain it one more time. I don't go into clubs with the intention of finding a date (nor have I ever done that). I've only gone to clubs to dance to music and that's the only reason I am there. I am not there to hook up with anyone. Often guys use clubs as a way to hook up, hence why I said it wasn't a good idea. At no point did I ever say anything about me. And since I don't use clubs to hook up or try to get dates (for that matter), your entire point is moot.

So what if you were single and dancing in a club and some nice guy started talking to you? Would you take your own advice?

And what if you were single and dancing in a club and saw a nice guy and started talking to him? Should he take your advice?

-d-

 

[FlaMan]

After dusting off the cobwebs in my head I remember my first time in a gay bar some 30 years ago so I have a few tips for you...safety first..Dont carry large amounts of cash..Pick-pockets are eveywhere and if you flash cash they notice....Carry small bills and I usually carry them in my front pocket...ID in back pocket..My first time i sat at the bar just to get the feel of the place..A good bartender will know you ar new to the bar and usually tries to help you relax and if he or she does that for you then been good on tips to him or he...plus your drinks will be a little better than the average joe who orders and doesnt interact with the bartender..Just dont mistake friendliness for anything but what it is..Do circulate when you get to feeling a little more comfortable..You will pick up on men who just want sex and those who are just being friendly..If you want to dance there is no law thats says you must have a partner...Just get out there..The bars I go to people do it all the time because we are there for a good time..If someone makes a grab for you and its unwanted just give them them the wagging no-no finger..dress like you want to..some bars are like a fashion show buut dont let that bother you..those guys are usually the ones leaning up against the wall judging others..jeans,sneakers and a nice shirt is good for most all bars...before you leave be sure to thank the bartender for his kindness and shake hands with him..he will remember you ..trust me on this..you will reap the rewards on your next visit..

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Expect... the unexpected...



...but only for the first three times you're there.

 

[FlaMan]

Another thought..go by yourself at first if you feel comfortable to do that..most bars I go to have security and they will keep an eye on yu(as much as possible) to see what type of person you are..if someone harasses you just let them know..they will handle it..thats why they are there..

 

[Asenath]

I went to a gay bar on Oxford St in Sydney last week, the night before the Mardi Gras and got hit on by 2 different cougars and a young woman. I was amused to say the least. One of the cougars bought me drinks and invited me back to her hotel room

I had the opposite experience on New Year's Eve. Went to my hometown's only gay bar with friends, spent the whole night accidentally buying drinks for straight ladies. It was pretty damn tragic.

 

[Kulindahr]

Now let's see if I've got this straight:
1. You don't trust the guys at clubs to consider going out with them, but:

2. You yourself go to clubs sometimes.

So doing the maths... a guy like you (who doesn't trust guys he might meet in a club) shouldn't date a guy like you (who goes to clubs). How then would anyone find someone to date? Are you untrustworthy as a potential partner or boyfriend, because you go to clubs? Or are you the exception to your own rule?


-d-

So what if you were single and dancing in a club and some nice guy started talking to you? Would you take your own advice?

And what if you were single and dancing in a club and saw a nice guy and started talking to him? Should he take your advice?

-d-

BBN, don't expect rigid logic to apply here. You're absolutely right, "doing the maths", but it isn't going to work that way.

 

[JayHawk]

Stop using Logic... lol it doesnt work.

LMFAO.... omg

So it isnt just me...

As far as the club scene goes.... go with a friend if you can and even if you can't know that everyone went there to have a good time although most people are too afraid of their own shadow to actually have a good time....

don't be a wall flower go dance

if it is a really packed club don't get overly offended if your ass is grabbed... be complimented... it really is just an ass and they didnt fuck you on the dance floor....

I fear I am past getting my ass grabbed unless I go to a senior social at the home but hey who knows...

 

[Mr-Brooding]

Stop using Logic... lol it doesnt work.
if it is a really packed club don't get overly offended if your ass is grabbed... be complimented... it really is just an ass and they didnt fuck you on the dance floor....

I fear I am past getting my ass grabbed unless I go to a senior social at the home but hey who knows...

Omg... haha

On another note, why the hell can't a thread be started without bickering and mudslinging. Grow up...

 

[JayHawk]

Mr B I didnt read your OP just the title and replied...

I love the club scene but dont put too much emphasis on it being some specific thing or a specific dating ground or whatever.... it is a club where people are drinking, cutting up, laughing and dancing so I try to do all of that.

Like I said go there to dance and bring your nuts with you and go dance like no body is looking. You will find you have more friends than you know what to do with... alternatively if you become a wall flower you will be approached by odd people often...

If I am with friends we dance, bullshit, drinks and talk about the other folks gettin their groove on... I also move a lot and then return to my friends.... if i am alone then i move a lot... i like seein who is at the club and whats up...

Come to the me and we can go clubbing and I will teach you everything you need to know .... everything... *cough Cough*

 

[HunterM]

Come to the me and we can go clubbing and I will teach you everything you need to know .... everything... *cough Cough*

And how much do you charge per hour?

 

[JayHawk]

Oh depending on what you look like I perform this as a service to the gay club industry....

I know I know I am all about looks and shallow with my momentary fucks but ....um...

Ok ima stop talkin now...

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

^Mhmmmm.

 

[blackbeltninja]

And I didn't make a sweeping generalization. It's just that you can't handle what I have to say.

Yeah. Except that you did make a sweeping generalisation, see, which you gleefully (and helpfully, I should add) pointed out right here:

I'm talking about guys you generally find in clubs. I'm not talking about myself. Yet another person with a reactionary response.

Surely even you can't deny that in good conscience, but I'm sure you'll try.

I don't go to clubs for that point, so your point is still invalid.

And no, I don't talk to random strangers in clubs.

Wow, we should petition Ratzinger to get you canonized.


On topic, the gay clubs I've been to were just like the straight clubs I've been to, right down to having straight girls in them. You should expect that too, OP.

-d-

 

[HunterM]

Oh depending on what you look like I perform this as a service to the gay club industry....

I know I know I am all about looks and shallow with my momentary fucks but ....um...

Ok ima stop talkin now...

Love free service. Awesome!

That's me on the far left. Coming over to meet you in 5 minutes. Be gentle with me.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

How I wish you said you were the guy on the far right instead...

The other one is serving some serious Gallagher(i HOPE that's how you spell his name) realness.