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Going to Gay Club By Myself TONIGHT

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I'm feeling really sad right now, so I thought I would muster up some courage and go to the gar bar (JR's) by myself tonight.

I'm a bit scared. But, other than drinking, what do I do? I want something to come out of tonight, even if it just means having some good conversation with someone?

Should I even go by myself?

Thanks guys. I'll leave here in about 4 hours, so let me know your thoughts!

IB
 
Fuck yeah! Go by yourself!

I always have a blast by myself.

Have few adult beverages, go for a dance - talk to everyone!
 
Hey Innovative! I think you should go by yourself. Just get some drinks, drink until you are in a "happy state" and chat it up with everyone! Dance around, find a guy you like and if he's interesting, ask him to join you for a drink!

I think it would be very fun :) I would definitely do what you are doing if I could...but there are no clubs around here...at least not 18+

Enjoy yourself though, and have fun. Going by yourself is a lot better then nt going at all and just moping around!
 
Yeah....go go go!:gogirl:

I was very fearful of going out alone. Then in June I found a perfect little place. Honestly, I felt uncomfortable the first time I went...in fact left early feeling a little bad. But, I went back again and again. Now, the bartenders know me and my favorite drink. I have a "gang" I hang out with and have even had a few dates as a result.

If the Jr's in Dallas is like the one in Denver...you should have a good time. Don't drink and drive, but if you can have a drink to take the "edge" off. It does help.

Let us know how you make out!:kiss:
 
2nd Gay Bar Experience

Well guys, I took a pill of courage and drove down to the gay strip (Cedar Springs here in Dallas) around 10PM. Tonight's experience was nothing like my first experience.

I went to JR's tonight and had two drinks, a midori (sp?) sour. I didn't talk to anyone besides the two bartenders when ordering my drinks.

I did sit in the corner and watch out the large windows looking at the people and car traffic at the Cedar Springs and Throckmorton intersection.

My drinks were good, but I think the first bartender did a better job of making my drink.

I saw a few folks I knew, but they didn't know me.

In all, it was a very "quiet" experience. I thought tonight would take my mind off Rob, but not so.

I guess I'm just glad I had the courage to venture there by myself. I just hope in the near future I can have some friends to go or meet me there.
 
Re: 2nd Gay Bar Experience

InnovativeBoxx said:
In all, it was a very "quiet" experience. I thought tonight would take my mind off Rob, but not so.

I guess I'm just glad I had the courage to venture there by myself. I just hope in the near future I can have some friends to go or meet me there.
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Great job on making it out to the club!! Next time however, you should socialize more! If there is dancing, try to pick out a guy to dance with. That way you won't feel any sort of depression! Make some friends! There's bound to be someone that could be in your similar situation as well!

If you see a guy sitting by himself in a corner, maybe just staring out a window, just approach him, and ask how his night is going. See if he is alright. It could start some conversation, and you guys might have the same problems...you could connect on a whole other level, and that could possibly branch out into a great friendship :)

Still, very nice job on just getting out there!! ..|
 
Last night was Black Tie (the HRC formal event). I went out for a little while last night as well and it was quiet. Friday and Saturday nights are TERRIBLE nights to meet people. The problem is the bar is so crowded and most people are there in their "groups". I would encourage you to go on a few weeknights when their are fewer people in the bar. You can sit at the bar and chat with guys at the bar and most of the time, they will strike up a conversation with you, because you can hear them and it's not so crowded. Monday-Thursday are good. In New York and LA people only go out Monday-Thursday because their friends are in the bars, not all the people coming in for the party. So it's very similar, much easier to engage.

If you want to engage people, I would encourage you to go to dance lessons (they used to be on Sunday night) at Round Up. It's a great way to meet people and people need "practice partners".

Great job getting out there, but there is some feedback on what was going on and how the bars work.
 
nautiboyjeff said:
Friday and Saturday nights are TERRIBLE nights to meet people. The problem is the bar is so crowded and most people are there in their "groups". I would encourage you to go on a few weeknights when their are fewer people in the bar. You can sit at the bar and chat with guys at the bar and most of the time, they will strike up a conversation with you, because you can hear them and it's not so crowded. Monday-Thursday are good. In New York and LA people only go out Monday-Thursday because their friends are in the bars, not all the people coming in for the party. So it's very similar, much easier to engage.
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From my experience at the gay bar over here that is true. I had only been there on Fridays and Saturdays and hated it as this meat market. More recently I was there a few times during the week to meet up with someone and was surprised at what a mellow, friendly place it was. On balance still not my thing (that's just me), but on a weeknight it would not be hard to make friends with the regulars there.
 
"Should I even go by myself?"

you already made up your mind so yeah go.
 
nautiboyjeff said:
Last night was Black Tie (the HRC formal event). I went out for a little while last night as well and it was quiet. Friday and Saturday nights are TERRIBLE nights to meet people. The problem is the bar is so crowded and most people are there in their "groups". I would encourage you to go on a few weeknights when their are fewer people in the bar. You can sit at the bar and chat with guys at the bar and most of the time, they will strike up a conversation with you, because you can hear them and it's not so crowded. Monday-Thursday are good. In New York and LA people only go out Monday-Thursday because their friends are in the bars, not all the people coming in for the party. So it's very similar, much easier to engage.

If you want to engage people, I would encourage you to go to dance lessons (they used to be on Sunday night) at Round Up. It's a great way to meet people and people need "practice partners".

Great job getting out there, but there is some feedback on what was going on and how the bars work.
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I was wondering what was going on. I saw several guys in tuxedos and business suits around. I didn't know if these guys were coming from a convention or else.

Yeah, I think I made a bad choice in going on last night. I was slightly uncomfortable seeing everyone in their groups talking and laughing with each other, and having no one to talk to.

I think I'll go back next week during a weekday.

But it was good to get out and people watch. Better than being at home in the dumps...lol.
 
Also - try out the other bars. The beauty of Dallas is all the bars are in one place. Mickey's, Woody's and even Alexander's might be a good place to strike up a conversation.

They have mixer type activities too during the week. It's fun to sit and watch and then make comments with the people around you.

Good Luck (but make your own Luck)!
 
I have to disagree

personally when I was much younger 18-20, I tried goin by my self.This was some rather racy places and it was NYC. I don't recommend it, if your young your gonna have alot of older guys (that do not have good intentions) in mind seeing you alone .You add drinking to that lowering your inhibitions and you could get into some serious trouble.I would say take a Straight friend or someone with you.Others will disagree but goin to clubs by your self can be a very dangerous thing.
 
These bars are not like that at all. There are bars like that in town, but these are very open and tame. They do Show Tunes on Tuesday night. It is very safe and in Dallas, all of these bars are on the same well-lite block, so you can move from one to the other and it's very safe. Police officers are always present in the area too. So if you don't do anything stupid, like go home with a total stranger, you will be safe.
 
Yes I agree not all gay clubs/ bars are like that.I personally don't like the idea of heading out by my self for safety but to each thier own.The police and the friendly nature that is described sound alot like philly, cops there are pretty friendly and respectful of the glbt community thier , as long as you give that same respect in return.There seem to be alot of stupid people hanging around the clubs there late and giving the police trouble when they really shouldn't.
 
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