Good BJ or Bad BJ?

[LugueXyX]

Hi, I'm from Brazil and I need some advice. Last week I hook up with a guy from my university that I found on Grindr. He is from another city and was just passing the university for an appointment. I Did oral sex on him, the first time I did in more than three years. I tried to do a deepthroat, but failed miserably, I guess, and almost threw up (I don't know the right way to do it; I only saw it on str8porn, and all I was thinking was the poor girl's parents. It was ew.). It Was about 15 minutes already doing, and then he said he had to go because he was late. He said he did not ejaculate very fast. He was hard all the time and I noticed the taste of precum, but now I keep thinking that it wasn't a good BJ.

I never tried deep throat, but he was very dominant, a surprise for me, because most of the guys are just standing there rolling their eyes, so I left him be the "master". It was a very hot and new experience for me, and I'm confused with all the guys I met before were "submissive tops", or I was a "Power Bottom" (I never considered myself as one), but this only BJ made me think my sexuality. All good BJs must end with ejaculation? This thing as Dom/Sub I read on Stormy Glenn' novel it's really a "thing"?

 

[swerve]

I'm not trying to sound critical of you -- or mean spirited...

But that does sound odd...

For some reason he was either uncomfortable or not "into it"...

Let it go -- and practice as much as you can!!!

 

[checkinthingsout]

Yes a good blow job should end in ejaculation if you are not using it as foreplay for sex.

You might consider using your hand some as well? some guys cannot cum with just a mouth so you must use your hand some for added tension. Also, maybe while you were trying to deep throat, you got overzealous and scraped him with your teeth?

There are many tutorials out there, but its not too difficult to fix.

 

[LugueXyX]

I'm not trying to sound critical of you -- or mean spirited...

But that does sound odd...

For some reason he was either uncomfortable or not "into it"...

Let it go -- and practice as much as you can!!!

And I thought I was nailing it!

 

[jensu846]

slip a finger up his ass next time. that usually makes 'em cum faster.

 

[thuperdupe]

You know what? If he was hard the whole time and leaking pre-cum, don't worry about it! He clearly was enjoying it. Not all guys can get off just a blowjob. I know that I personally hate cumming with someone sucking my cock. Like, it feels good getting a blowjob, but I rarely finish that way.

It's just going to drive you crazy if you keep thinking about it. Think about it in a much more savage animalistic way: did YOU like it? Great! Then who cares if he liked it? It was just a hook up and you're not going to see him again.

 

[eastofeden]

I have never been able to get off with a blowjob....I stay hard but I think my cock is too sensitive and this is the wrong kind of stimulation for me...

I stopped letting anyone give me one years ago because I just get bored to death....the stimulation from oral doesn't do it for me for whatever reason.....

 

[dereperez]

I wouldn't say that every good BJ should end in ejaculation. A good BJ is a good BJ.

As the recipient of many blowjobs, there were definitely ones that I pre-cummed but didn't cum and I enjoyed them nonetheless.
I've also blown guys and they didn't cum and I could still tell that they enjoyed it.

Don't overthink it.

 

[daddyfaux]

You know what? If he was hard the whole time and leaking pre-cum, don't worry about it! He clearly was enjoying it. Not all guys can get off just a blowjob. I know that I personally hate cumming with someone sucking my cock. Like, it feels good getting a blowjob, but I rarely finish that way.

It's just going to drive you crazy if you keep thinking about it. Think about it in a much more savage animalistic way: did YOU like it? Great! Then who cares if he liked it? It was just a hook up and you're not going to see him again.

Not to mention, a lot of guys have problems cumming even if they're having great sex. One single mental block can prevent it from ever coming out.

It's happened to me plenty of times, happened with my ex plenty of times. Sometimes during sexual play your mind goes in a different direction or you starting thinking too hard about cumming and can't.


It's actually something that happens to me every time I start with a new guy. No matter how hot or how great I feel, I usually don't cum on the first encounter. Can't exactly explain why, but I imagine it's a nerves/foreign body things trippin' me out.

 

[offthewall14420]

Maybe he was attached and felt blowing a load makes it cheating. Maybe Bill was right on that. He cums once and gets nailed for it.

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

My cockhead become extremely sensitive when I blow a load. When a guy keeps sucking away, it ruins the pleasure. If he stops sucking just before I cum and just holds my dick in his mouth, the feeling of flowing into him is heaven. Few guys know that trick.

 

[Seasoned]

This is not something to worry about, especially with a hookup.

Porn can have us believing we are machines.

I can't come when I'm pressured for time and that can be my own pressure or my husband's.

 

[sixthson]

I suspect lots of guy who love blow jobs prefer not to cum that way. It shouldn't all be about the destination...you should enjoy the journey as well.
I think you should forget about the dominant/submissive thing. Just because you are sucking doesn't make you submissive, not does receiving make him a master. Also, don't worry so much about deepthroating. Use your mouth and hand and he should be happy.