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Got a gay guy - unsure of next step

youngnihilist said:
your first post sounded like self-sabotaging, your second post sounds like you're not into him. pretty obvious now
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I'd agree.

Here's the biggie- the two of you aren't communicating about these things that are bothering you. If you can't be honest with each other, there's not much of a future.
 
getstoseven said:
WOW!

That's an impressive list of things you can't stand about him.

No further comment necessary.
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I'm sure there are things he can't stand about me. I wonder if you don't quite follow my train of thought here. First I thought as others (that I was a self sabateur), but I'm realizing that I really just don't like him all that much romantically as I originally thought I did or was supposed to.

Besides, I have a feeling now that he is looking for someone just to hook up with and not someone to date as he originally presented himself. I didn't go stay with him the other night when he asked and I haven't heard from him for a few days. Then I hear from him today and when I made it clear that I wasn't going to be going anywhere near his house tonight; he was done talking. He says all the nice stuff as long as he thinks I'm going to be jumping into his bed.

It's a not completely lost experience on me. I've realized that there are things I'm really not willing to compromise on.
 
In my opinion you let down a real good guy. You also seem to be pretty negative and cynical always focusing on what you don't have vs. what you have. There are always ways to not make something work, looks like you want to find those instead of doing what would make you happy.

But if you don't feel that spark well.... to be honest this spark thing is overrated. Who's life ends up being like a disney magical princess story and if it does, I usually wanna punch those people for the fake-ry. It sounds like you wanna be just some preppy drama queen gay and be swept off your feet instead of having to do the sweeping. Grow some balls, please. Men are hot but they are just men. You will not be worshipped as a God so get over it... everything takes work and a little effort even those magical lovey sparky OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME feelings.

I realize I'm being harsh with you but you can take it. I feel you need to hear this because I don't want you to have any regrets. I think you just kinda have to decide on something and move on. I don't know of any one relationship that's all 'wheee!' all the time.
 
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