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Got asked out and don't know if I'm interested

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hey since you haven't known much about him, give it a try. At least you will have a friend right? don't take things too seriously or personally.
I would say I can't stand a guy that have features that I hate, so it's ok to get to know someone since none of those features appear yet.
 
Do you have so many gay friends that you don't have room in your life for another one?
 
I say go for it....nothing to lose, maybe something to gain. Going out to a movie dosent mean your engaged or have to have sex, so just see what happens. He might relax more in a comfortable setting, etc. If he turns out to be someone you might want to get to know more, then cool. If not, no harm done. but if nothing is there still, TELL HIM. Don't leave him hanging, ya know?
 
^^^^ agreed

Just because you are both gay does not mean anything romantic or sexual has to go on. If you're not even interested in a possible friendship or just getting acquainted, then don't accept offers to date. The guy may not have any gay friends or acquaintances and maybe he is just reaching out to someone. That doesn't mean it has to be anymore than a date.
 
Well, its all well and good to be friends. Maybe that's just what this guy wants. Chances are though that he likes you, but right now he's testing new waters. He is, as you said, nervous and shy.

He's probably feeling a lot like you do now regarding "a first date", but give him credit for making the first move. You said yourself that you haven't been on a date with a guy yet, so you know how making that initial step is huge. It takes courage, and a lot of balls.

Now then, at this point all you agreed to was to go to a movie. Pleeeease don't get drunk before or after. You know already that you aren't attracted to him on many fundamental levels, so don't mess things up with alcohol and have a world of regrets the next day.

Look at it as the beginning of a friendship. There isn't any pressure on you to make it any more than that. If he has other feelings, those are his and not yours. You are not obligated to do anything you do not want to.

Also, if he makes a move on you and you are not interested (tries to put his hand on your leg in the movie or asks for a kiss at the end of the night) don't be rough on him. Picture yourself in his shoes and treat him with respect. Its ok to say no, but say it nicely.

Aside from all that, enjoy the movie and give us a report at the end of it :)
 
Get to know him and maybe you'll find he's a much cooler guy than you think. Maybe all it takes is him getting comfortable. If he tries to push for sex, just tell him you don't have sex on the first couple of dates or something. You can always say no and still be nice. You could always tell him you're not looking for a relationship right now and if that's not true, just tell him that you just want to be friends. You won't be leading him on if you tell him you just want to be friends. I say give him a chance at friendship though, you might be missing out.

Whatever you decide to do, try to do it in the most friendliest way possible. You don't want to crush his confidence and self esteem if it's already low.
 
I think as he had the guts to ask then it would be cool if you were to accept. It is only a movie and a chance to talk and get to know each other. He may turn out to be a good friend. Just because you are both Gay doesn't mean you have to be romantically involved.
 
I say go out and enjoy the movie with him. If he asks you about dating, just be honest with him. Say, "I've had a good time spending time with you. I don't feel the same way as you do, but I think you're a nice guy. I'm always up for being friends."
 
at the end of the 2nd date, just be honest with him if you don't see him "that way". He put a lot of effort into overcoming his fears. He did what many on here would post week after week to no action taken. He took action and now he has a chance to impress you.

There is nothing more that I hate is when I exhange numbers with someone who isn't going to return a call. Why exchange to begin with?


Give him that chance, keep your expectations low. And politely let him down if it doesn't work. He'll appreciate your honest and you'll feel good about doing the right thing.
 
i agree with all the replies before me. go on the date, get to know the guy, if there is still no connection, then you at least have a new friend possibly. i wish i was asked out on dates in college.
 
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