Gotta say I'm a little lost

[MMMonsterBoy]

"I want your love, I don't wanna be friends." - Lady Gaga

I'll break it down easily:

1) Had a fling with a guy, thought it was heading elsewhere, and he got a boyfriend
2) I decided to just stopped talking to him so I could properly get over it

Last Saturday, he sends me a text wish led to him telling me he was horny...but I was away for the weekend. So I thought that would be the end of it, but everyday this week he has been communicating with me on his own account. Why? He still has a boyfriend. He hasn't mentioned anything sexual as of yet, just sends me texts as though nothing ever happened. It isn't that I don't want to be his friend exactly, just not now. I still view him a way that would be inappropriate since he has a boyfriend. Yet, here I am again.....waiting for his text. Does it make me a bad person that I hope he does ask to spend one on one time with me?

I don't understand what he wants from me. He has plenty of other friends, gay and straight, and has a boyfriend. We stopped talking for a bit, and all of a sudden he starts texting me again. Before he started he seeing someone, he didn't send me text me every night. So I find it weird, and puzzling that he chooses to do so now. He is setting me back, and I have never been one to ignore a text.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>He is setting me back, and I have never been one to ignore a text.

Perhaps it'd be a good time to start.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Yet, here I am again.....waiting for his text. Does it make me a bad person that I hope he does ask to spend one on one time with me?

Bad, no.

Sad, yes.

Put down the phone.

Pick up your self-respect.

 

[josher]

He's trying to groom you to become his "piece on the side."

Walk away now.

 

[rareboy]

When you start quoting Lady Gaga, you have to know it is not a healthy relationship.

Run. don't walk.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

A day without quoting Lady Gaga isn't a day at all, in my world.

I've talked to best bud about it and he seems to have the same solution you all have proposed. It is a lot easier said than done, however. It isn't like I can stop being drawn to someone. Gays should know that more anyone. I can prevent it, which I was doing perfectly fine before...but now it is just going to take just a little more time. I'm not going to text/call him anytime soon, and if he does...then he does. If he asks me for sex, then I'll just need to make it clear to him that I am little confused.

 

[KaraBulut]

...If he asks me for sex, then I'll just need to make it clear to him that I am [STRIKE]little confused [/STRIKE]not interested.

Let me get rid of that ambiguity for you.

 

[momoman]

"You 'n' me could write a Bad Romance...." -- I LOVE this song

I agree with RareBoy. Run.

Peace.

 

[momoman]

I almost posted the rest of the lyrics, but I didn't want to stray the thread from Topic. This is a sensitive issue, I really feel for the OP. Good luck man, you'll need every ounce of it available.

 

[TX-Beau]

...It is a lot easier said than done, however. It isn't like I can stop being drawn to someone. Gays should know that more anyone. I can prevent it, which I was doing perfectly fine before...but now it is just going to take just a little more time. I'm not going to text/call him anytime soon, and if he does...then he does. If he asks me for sex, then I'll just need to make it clear to him that I am little confused.

Hard choices are hard choices. This is a cut-off situation. You can't be friends with him, you can't communicate with him, you can't be around him until you can say no outright and mean it. You certainly can cut off contact with him, whether you choose to or not is another issue. It's your life, you're in control, don't let him set the terms for it - as in, "he texted me so I owe him a response." You don't.

Especially since he sounds pretty shady to begin with.

 

[spencer]

If you want sex with him, then have sex with him.

If you want a relationship with him, stop wanting it cause you're not going to have it.