Grindr meetup

[qwerty20]

I've probably known I was gay since I was 9. now im a senior in College and I have yet to have any kind of contact with another guy. I wanted to see how many other gay guys are around me so I downloaded this app called rindr and I may have found someone. Thing is, as soon as I told him i was a virgin, he seemed really excited and said he loves virgins and likes to teach them and would be slow and memorable. We continued texting and talked on the phone the other day and I found out he is 32 (Im 22).I know age is just a number and we made plans for him to come up to my school to meet and "do things". Im nervously excited about it because he is probably the first person to call me cute and handsome ever since I lost alot of weight over the summer and kinda built up my confidence. He's already sent me photos of himself and is asking for some in return. I am thinking of it and would just not include my face so they might not haunt me in the future ( or am i thinking too much into it?) I even started to look at the local motels since I cant use my dormroom and his house is too far for me for my comfort zone..what does everyone think and sorry if this is a bit long but I am kinda tired of being a virgin and wanna get it over with.

 

[Telstra]

well, meet up with him as long as you are safe.

 

[qwerty20]

well, meet up with him as long as you are safe.

i actually plan on telling him i will go along AS long as he wears a condom and doesnt cum into my mouth.

 

[Ganoderma]

Hi Qwerty20,

I fully agree with 'Telstra': "meet up with him as long as you are safe." I assume what you know what this means.

Not all guys are nice and friendly and trustful, so be prepared that this particular guy might be different in the real world.

Im nervously excited about it because he is probably the first person to call me cute and handsome ever.

I have no idea how much experience you have with girls (none?), but please realize yourself that

I have yet to have any kind of contact with another guy.

No wonder that you are very exited that this guy calles you sweet & handsome & lovely & cute and so on. Apparently, it seems to me that you have no other experiences with guys (or girls), so it seems also logic to me that you have never been in a situation where guys (or girls) have told these kind of sweet words to you.

You might also propose a meeting, can be anything like drinking coffee, having a lunch, have a stroll in the city park during the day, to see how he reacts in real life. Ofcourse, you would like to have sex with him, but by having such a meeting you can also find out more about this guy. Likely (?) he wants you more, than you want him? So maybe you can ask this kind of things from him?

Have you also already found some other guys at that app?

Take care & best wishes

 

[altlover85]

I've probably known I was gay since I was 9. now im a senior in College and I have yet to have any kind of contact with another guy. I wanted to see how many other gay guys are around me so I downloaded this app called rindr and I may have found someone. Thing is, as soon as I told him i was a virgin, he seemed really excited and said he loves virgins and likes to teach them and would be slow and memorable. We continued texting and talked on the phone the other day and I found out he is 32 (Im 22).I know age is just a number and we made plans for him to come up to my school to meet and "do things". Im nervously excited about it because he is probably the first person to call me cute and handsome ever since I lost alot of weight over the summer and kinda built up my confidence. He's already sent me photos of himself and is asking for some in return. I am thinking of it and would just not include my face so they might not haunt me in the future ( or am i thinking too much into it?) I even started to look at the local motels since I cant use my dormroom and his house is too far for me for my comfort zone..what does everyone think and sorry if this is a bit long but I am kinda tired of being a virgin and wanna get it over with.

I really don't see any reason to not give him a picture of yourself as long as it's just a normal, clothed picture because that is a lot less likely to come back to haunt you as compared to one where you're naked and your face is visible.

I would definitely go slow with this guy. Maybe just meet for coffee or something and get to know him before you jump in the sack.

Losing your virginity is something that could be painful and uncomfortable the first time (I'm assuming we're talking about anal) and even getting oral sex doesn't always make you orgasm the first time.

I wouldn't go into this with any expectations if you do decide to get physical. I would also think about what boundaries if any you would like on the activities to make you feel more comfortable and let him know about them beforehand.

 

[paulad39uk]

This may sound a bit silly but, it's always a good idea to let a good friend know where you're going and discretely ring them at some point to let them know everything's OK. I know you're probably able to look after yourself but a bit of reassurance isn't a bad thing. I had a few scary moments when meeting guys I'd only chatted to previously. I got into situations I wish I could have got out of.

 

[jayamsterdam]

If you've never experienced a guy before, you should just have oral with him. You're not going to be in a position to take it up the butt...just an FYI!

 

[Just_Believe18]

Why do you feel that a connection you make with someone has to be on a condition of some kind of sexual contract? I think your first time should be with someone you've known for awhile personally and that you like and trust. You may meet this guy, have sex, and then regret it afterwards because he was really a stranger who had a fetish over your virgin body.

I know you're 22 and you want to experience this. However, you've lost weight and you've really built your self-confidence on your own. You don't need a man to have sex with you to do that for you.

Just a thought.

 

[qwerty20]

Thanks everyone. I guess I wasnt thinking with my head. I did work hard this summer and I really dont feel like having to get the approval from a suspected one night stand. Problem is i did send him a "photo" but it doesnt have my face on it at all nor really any parts of my body except my penis. Should I be worried?

 

[that-one-guy]

I don't think you should have anything to worry about its just your penis XD but no you shouldn't. like you I'm a virgin also like you very inexperienced when it comes to guy on guy interaction but I would honestly say try and build a friendship with the guy first because he could turn out to be a creep who is just after the goods especially since their untouched having used the Grindr app its pretty much a breeding ground for shallow people looking for shallow sex (not that anything is wrong with that) that's just not me I think the first time should have some meaning anyway all the best

 

[qwerty20]

I just wanted to let everyone know that I did end up meeting the guy. He was actually really sweet and nice and understood i was a little nervous. I kinda lost my virginity tonite!!!!!!! no anal but i sucked him off and it was wonderful. I also made out with him and that was awesome...Just wondering though does him fingering me with my jeans on count as losing my anal virginity? either way im just so freaking happy!!!!!! Thanks everyone for giving me advise. I did meet with him in a public place and told him clearly my boundaries...sorry if this is rambling on but im just so happy!(can u tell?)

 

[Ganoderma]

Hi Qwerty20,

Thanks alot for providing us with this update, and I am happy to read that you had such a wonderful date with him.

I am happy to hear that he was just a normal guy like you (so not a 'creep' or something like that). I mean, you are just a normal guy with a profile on Grindl, so why not also meet other normal guys through Grindl?

It is also very good that you had the guts to tell him your boundaries in advance, and that he was very well aware how to cope with you being very unexperienced. And its a nice step, as right now you know how it feels when you have sexual contact with another male.

I would not bother too much about an issue like 'loosing your virginity'. Towards my opinion, the phrase 'virginity' has alot to do with females / marriage and the importance that guys marry a virgin, all / with strong religious backgrounds from the past (no condoms, no pills etc), not only the christian religion, but also other religions.

I tend to think that it might be better to think in a way of discovering / an exploration of what kind of things you like and you don't like in regard to sex, with yourself (ie masturbation), and sex with another guy. I tend to think that 'virginity' is an out-dated phrase, and only practical for females (as only females can 'proove' they are still a virgin). One might also argue that any male will loose his virginity as soon he ejaculates his sperm for the first time.

Best wishes & good luck.

 

[attallaborn]

Use protection, even with oral. Overly anxious partners who are more than willing to meet up, should make you ask "how many times have they done this before me?" Just because your're a virgin doesn't mean he is.

Trust me, after you become sexually active- it's not cute sitting in the health department waiting the results of you HIV and or STD test. Even though I play safe, I was petrified the last time I got tested. PLAY SAFE!!

 

[mbamike]

I use Grindr, Jack'd, Adam4Adam and Manhunt to find guys for sex. They all have some type of GPS locating program to find guys nearest you.

Use your brain and be careful. I try to get a face pic and a phone number. I have never had a problem with any of the guys I've hooked up with. I have had very hot, passionate sex and I have had sex that was not so great. It comes with the territory. Sex is wonderful, but you have to be smart about it.

Remember to play safe. Best of luck!

 

[slnattak]

sex is really overrated. but a fun, healthy part of a balanced life.

but now i only want sex from guys that i feel emotionally connected with. otherwise its hard for me to get into it.

i just read people's moral natures too good for it to be anyway.

i guess im 'demisexual.'