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grindr psychology, what did I miss?

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Ok feel a little embarrassed to even post about this, but I need a refresher on Grindr etiquette. So I chatted with a guy there, very casual nothing about hookups. I made a joke about guys being jaded and stuff and not wanting to hang out if it's not hooking up related. So he is like "you're special" "cute" etc.. Then he asked me to text him on his cell because he wasn't checking his grndr regularly. It was a Saturday and during the day I did text him and he replied. Few hours later, I asked him if he wanted to hang out at a bar and grab a drink that evening, and till this day, no response. I'm not losing sleep over this as I know the flaky world of online interactions, but I'm just wondering if I did something wrong or missed his intention that I should be aware of in the future? He could have been nice and said "sorry I'm busy." But the no response was puzzling to me. He was on Grindr today but I did not interact with him again since I felt his none response was a clear message.
 
You did nothing wrong. I made a thread similar to this one last month, because I was experiencing something very similar. I think guys are just into the moment or the thrill of the hunt and when it comes time to actually act, they flake out. I wonder if the guy was in the closet or partnered, etc… that might be a reason, but still it seems likely he just got too ahead of himself. *bro talk* I know that feel, brah. Just keep looking.
 
Happens all the time. For a lot of guys it's all about the thrill and not meeting unless its a hot fuck
 
I'm guessing that he was just looking for an easy kill hookup. You were too much work and He moved on to an easier kill.
 
Thats the best way to put it, he was looking for an easy kill, and you were challenging him.

I had a similar situation, except for I gave the guy my #, made him work for it by chatting with me for two weeks, then we met up, went on a date, and fucked. We still talk now, six weeks later - which is a long time in the gay world - and we still have sex. Best decision I ever made was make him work for it and get to know me (hey, he thought my looks and personality were irresistible, as is how I feel about him), so it worked out.

First time in a long time this happened and it feels GREAT!
For now, though, just #byefelicia him and move on!
 
Grindr isn't real life.

You gave him the chance to join you in the real world. He chose not to.

It's more a statement about him than it is about you or Grindr etiquette.
 
Until you meet up, if they stop responding, just assume they're not interested.

I will add though, grindr especially is terrible at relaying messages and there are times where I will get a message at 11am and not get it till like 8pm that night.
 
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