Grindr Relationship?

[canadianguy91]

Being open to love is being open to hurt. They're flips of the same coin. Why not flip the coin and see where it lands? All relationships end. It just a matter of when and how. Most endings hurt. So why not live a day at a time? When and if it's time to cry, we'll be here. For now, we are cheering you on! Enjoy each other.

Thats exactly what I feel too. Thanks

I say be very wary. For several reasons.

1) it's grindr
2) all of this is happening way too soon
3) he's been with many guys

We've all hard this before. You seem pretty wise for a kid (if you were born in 91). I'd give it a while before I start to take him too seriously.

Thanks for your opinion! I just have a few points to clear
1) I'm on grindr and I'm not looking for a hookup. The stereotype is that its for hookups, but I've made some really good friends on there. And not just online friends- we see each other once a month or so. Maybe your experiences are different.
2) Can you show me the rule book of Time for Guys to feel comfortable with each other? That's not something you can control. I talk to a lot of guys and it doesn't go as fast with some- it all depends on chemistry.
3) So? I went through a stage where all I wanted to do was have sex. We're young, it happens, we learn (hopefully) from mistakes, we're still figuring our selves out, who says we can't change? I for one have changed quite a lot in the last few years.

Not trying to pick a fight, just pointing some things you may not have thought of yet

Anything that starts too fast most likely ends too fast. You should always be wary of the guy who wants to immediately kiss you, fondle you, and want to have sex with you the moment you meet. A few days is a few days. It takes awhile to get to know someone. You're not going to know what a serious relationship is with someone until you get to know them more.

The feelings you are experiencing are lust and infatuation. You found the right guy who mixes the chemicals in your brain to go crazy. However, this can very easily be changed. Please keep one foot on the ground.

Solid advice. Although that's the kind of person I am. The same sort of situation happened 2 years ago with my ex and it lasted just under 2 years. We got into a relationship after a week and it was a great 2 years. Did it end as fats as it started? No. Just for the record, he didn't want to have sex with me, I was the one who initiated it saying I've never had a bj from someone witha tongue ring. Thats as far as it went. We didn't fuck in the middle of the road. I also initiated the kissing, because I asked about that a well. I wanted to kiss, obviously he did too, but I was the one to ask. And isn't that what love is about? (findng the right guy who mixes the chemicles in your brain etc.) I'm not saying I'm in love, whatsoever, but I do like him, and thats how things can develop. If they do. Thanks for your humble advice!

 

[xterranx]

Congratulations, canadianguy91! Hope all goes well for you.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Canadian, congrats! Just take it day by day and savor the moment.

 

[canadianguy91]

Congratulations, canadianguy91! Hope all goes well for you.

Hope everything turns out great for you.

Canadian, congrats! Just take it day by day and savor the moment.

I'm not going to say anything other than I hope it goes well

Thanks You're al so sweet

reading this makes me think of my first guy...he had that effect on me too

...it's such a wonderful feeling

I'm so happy for you




and keep us updated!!

Thanks He's not my first though feels like it as well! actually better than my first.

 

[canadianguy91]

Going on a second date today
Going for lunch then sitting by the river under trees. Its a really nice spot.

 

[medic1]

Hey there Canada .
Hope your 2nd proper date is as good if not better than your 1st , you do
seem to know what you are doing , and as you said you live and learn
from what you have said he really likes you and it does seem to be mutual .
Keep us updated it is always great to read really happy posts .
From what i have read you seem to have both feet on the ground and are
taking it at a pace that you are both comfy with , all i can say is enjoy .

 

[canadianguy91]

Update! Date went great

We went to the mall (where he checked some guys in front of use out. doesn't bother me since its just a date, it's not like we're dating. Made me a teeny bit jealous though)
We grabbed smoothies since we weren't that hungry, and then drove to the river since it was pretty far away. We argued playfully along the way and I teased him. He was so cute.
We spent a while in his car making out in the parking lot and just smiling at each other, then it got hot so we decided to sit on the bench by the river.

We talked about a lot of things, nothing too personal though. Laughed a lot, and kissed some more. He kept moving so I could lie in from of him and cuddle. We held hands and locked arms. He rested his head on mine and we just sat there hehe
We were flirting back and forth and I kept on tickling him. His laugh is so adorable. His hands were manly and strong, and he kept feeling my abs and wanted me to show him my muscles. I just teased him and said he's not allowed We spent a couple hours there. (Seemed so short though) Then went back to his car and ...

cuddled, laughed some more, smiled, we just gazed in each other's eyes. (We went to the back seat so he could lie down, and I was on top of him) Felt so good. His body was warm. We both got a little horny and felt each other up (we were both hard already, I mean we're attracted to each other) We exchanged bjs and he gave me a handjob. We kissed and then he took me home. On the way he moved his hand closer and held my hand. I was waiting to see if he would, and he did! We didn't talk much on the way home, just smiled. He dropped me off and I told him my grand that's visiting my family doesn't know i'm gay and is probably sitting by the window and he seemed a little disappointed that he couldnt kiss me, so he quickly gave me a kiss. I said bye and watched him drive away.

He texted me and the conversation was a little weird. I felt strange for some reason, like he was just looking for a hookup. His texts were short and he seemed distanced. I asked him about it but he said don't worry about it. (I always over think things)

So I texted him: I get too attached when I kinda like someone"
Him: I like you too
Me: Are you just saying that?
Him: No. I really do.
I didnt respond for a few minutes and he sent another.
Him: Like im really starting to fall for you. I know stupid. Ive only met you twice. But its true.
Me: Its nto stupid at all. i know exactly how you feel because I feel the same way.
Him: Well its the truth I loved cuddling with you today. It make me like you so much more.
Me: I loved it too. I liked holding your hand and laughing with you.
Him: I loved having you in my arms
Me: *your strong arms
Him: I want you here right now

I'll save you from the rest haha.

 

[TX-Beau]

So your original post was asking if he's playing you, and two dates later you're in love giving each other blowjobs in the backseat of a car?

Hmmmmmmmm.........

Since you seem to get prickly with anyone who suggests that you slow down I'm not going to bother - however if everything happened like you say it did, why were you asking that in the first place?

 

[canadianguy91]

So your original post was asking if he's playing you, and two dates later you're in love giving each other blowjobs in the backseat of a car?

Hmmmmmmmm.........

Since you seem to get prickly with anyone who suggests that you slow down I'm not going to bother - however if everything happened like you say it did, why were you asking that in the first place?

We did that the first night too. I just never said it because I knew all you queens would get fussy over it.

Yeah, sure stereotypes exist, but thats not always the case. I'm usually the one to initiate things like that with guys, and am I looking for a hookup? No. I just go with what feels right. There are plenty of guys who have tried hooking up with me and I don't let it happen.

Well everyone is entitled to their own opinions? Are they not? Not saying mine is right or yours is right, but I like backing up my points.. since you all don't know every single detail because it would take too long to write, I fill you in when someone questions something- ie. that Grindr is just for hookups, because in my experiences its not.

Why was I asking what? If he was playing me? I just wanted an outside perspective, and even just talking about it or writing it down lets me think about it. Next time I need advice I'll spare you all the post and just type it out and answer myself

 

[AlmondMilk]

I also hope you're a bit careful. It does sound like a good thing, but for now, just be a bit cautious.

Try to enjoy it, though!

But I do have to say that the times you both get it on....sounds like you're both really having fun

 

[canadianguy91]

I also hope you're a bit careful. It does sound like a good thing, but for now, just be a bit cautious.

Try to enjoy it, though!

But I do have to say that the times you both get it on....sounds like you're both really having fun

I will be, don't you worry

 

[MoltenRock III]

Ok, so you actually did have sex on your first date / hookup? That seems weird you would leave out. In any case, a big red flag went up when you said you always over think things, and judged his texts as "distant". Trying to grasp larger meanings, from texts is a sign of self destructive tendencies in my experience. Tread carefully.

 

[canadianguy91]

Ok, so you actually did have sex on your first date / hookup? That seems weird you would leave out. In any case, a big red flag went up when you said you always over think things, and judged his texts as "distant". Trying to grasp larger meanings, from texts is a sign of self destructive tendencies in my experience. Tread carefully.

Just wondering what I should tread carefully on?

 

[MoltenRock III]

Obsessing on his intended meaning of every text, or even when it takes him too many minutes to get back to you. Remember, in emails nearly 40% of our emails are misunderstood either completely or partially. It's worse with texts. But obsession can take on other forms too.

My point is to enjoy what you have and don't start over thinking about how your relationship will be 6 months or a year or more down the road. Far too often people are always wanting to take their relationship to the next level because one is unhappy where it is at, and will always be unhappy because they always want more.

That's all I meant by tread carefully.

 

[canadianguy91]

Obsessing on his intended meaning of every text, or even when it takes him too many minutes to get back to you. Remember, in emails nearly 40% of our emails are misunderstood either completely or partially. It's worse with texts. But obsession can take on other forms too.

My point is to enjoy what you have and don't start over thinking about how your relationship will be 6 months or a year or more down the road. Far too often people are always wanting to take their relationship to the next level because one is unhappy where it is at, and will always be unhappy because they always want more.

That's all I meant by tread carefully.

That's true. I try not to, but sometimes it gets the best of me. Thanks! it's nice to have a little reminder.

 

[Just_Believe18]

You know, there's nothing wrong with taking things slow. If dating with the idea of a relationship is the objective in mind, then you have no rush to have sex with the guy. Sex on the first date, and second date, and every time after that sets a very high precedent of intimacy that leaves you feeling insecure. Hence, your texts to him and reading too much into if he's interested in you or not (well I hope so since you blew him!)

Like I said, be careful. I was younger and doing this too, and you know what? I'm single, and most of those people aren't even in my life anymore.

 

[canadianguy91]

You know, there's nothing wrong with taking things slow. If dating with the idea of a relationship is the objective in mind, then you have no rush to have sex with the guy. Sex on the first date, and second date, and every time after that sets a very high precedent of intimacy that leaves you feeling insecure. Hence, your texts to him and reading too much into if he's interested in you or not (well I hope so since you blew him!)

Like I said, be careful. I was younger and doing this too, and you know what? I'm single, and most of those people aren't even in my life anymore.

Thats so true.
I should have listened to every one else.
I never seem to learn my lesson.

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
Fool me 10 times, give up on men.

 

[HunterM]

Thats so true.
I should have listened to every one else.
I never seem to learn my lesson.

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
Fool me 10 times, give up on men.

and try women?

 

[canadianguy91]

and try women?

Hell no!
And get a very good sex toy

I'm really close to my best friend who's a girl, so the companionship part is covered Just need the other..

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ Nope. Can't do that.