Group sex, should I?

[powersouth]

First of all, can I please ask that nobody judges me for what I am about to ask, and anybody with nothing helpful to say refrain from saying it, thank you!!

I am a bottom, and a while back met a guy who I now have very regular sex with. We are just friends and do not want anything else, and he introduced me to his friends on a night out early last year, I have become a part of the social group and have had sex with each of them multiple times. Last week my initial sex partner suggested group sex when we were at his place, which we all shrugged off as a joke, but ended up having a threesome anyway when the others left (there are 6 of us including me).

After we had finished the 3 of us discussed in length actual group sex, and yesterday on Skype we all ended up chatting about it and all of them agreed it was a good idea, but I'm not sure. The threesome was the first time I'd ever had sex with more than one man, and it was exhilarating to say the least. However I am the only one who bottoms so it is obviously daunting especially as double penetration would be on the menu, and I didn't last very long with both of them inside me during the threesome.

The thought of it is extremely exciting for me, but it's also terrifying. We are all clean medically and have good hygiene but I have never used protection with any of them so I'm pretty sure the group sex would be bareback, which is quite obviously risky. Every part of me is aching for it though, I can go a very long time with sex I am comfortable with and I'm also very attracted to all of them and I also enjoy it when men cum inside me, so the entire idea seems like a no brainer, but I am unsure as to whether or not I want to actually go through with it and what we should actually do during if I do.

Can anyone with experience give me some advice? Is it actually possible that a group of clean men can create infections from unprotected sex? Is it easy getting used to double penetration, or even possible? ETC.

I have thought about discussing this with them but I am very insecure and do not want to appear to have any doubts, we all know one another's sexual preferences and I know what they like so if I go ahead with it, I'd rather not dampen the mood on what could be an amazing experience with what may seem like silly questions.

Thank you, it was difficult to actually post this so I'm hopefuly there will not be any negative comments.

 

[bankside]

No it won't work bare. For a hot time in groups I would highly recommend jackoff rather than group sex. Here's why:

If you get to pick everyone in the group, and personally watch them get tested after they have spent 25 days in quarantine with no sex then yeah you have as much freedom as you like in this.

But HIV is the ideal party infection. It moves in leaps and bounds. Typically someone can test clean, get infected the next day, and then infect other people they sleep with in the next few weeks as the virus is taking root and going into overdrive before they even know about it. It doesn't get picked up until their next test, and it's already moved on to the rest of the group before anyone knew about it. Before the guy was taking treatment. Possibly before there are even enough antibodies to be picked up on the test.

Do you really want to hear "I'm sorry but I thought I was clean."

Do you really want to tell someone "I'm sorry but I thought I was clean."

Barebacking is for closed relationships - monogamous or poly - but definitely closed. If you still like the idea of being in the centre of a group, having them jack off on your unbroken skin is muuuuuuuch safer than bare anal.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Have group sex if you want. It can be exciting. It can be boring. It can be a lot of things.

However, PLEASE USE A CONDOM. You can catch many STD's from sex, particularly unprotected, and not only HIV. From someone who has had several friends become infected, it can happen to anyone.

 

[powersouth]

Thanks for the fast replies guys, as I said in the post I have had bareback sex with them on more than one occasion individually, I usually swallow or have them cum inside me and I'm clean as of December. I dont want to sound foolhardy, and I do appreciate what you are saying, but we are a close group as they are the only men I've been with and the guy I was with first helped me come to terms with my sexuality, they are also the only people who know that I am gay. I will of course take your words with the utmost consideration, but would it be safe, if we do start off having protected sex or avoiding creampies until I can confirm they are clean? I don't even know how I'd propose that to them, wouldn't it offend them?

That is also the main reason as to why I wondered if mixing cum from clean men can be dangerous, does anyone know? I do trust them down to the nature of our friendships, I am honestly so lucky to have found them.

Also: is anybody experienced with double penetration that can offer any tips to manage it or begin, and also anybody know of any tips to avoid burning out mid way through and generally fun things to do in a gangbang? Thank you.

 

[bankside]

powersouth, asking about "mixing cum from clean men" gives me the idea you need to brush up on the basics of disease transmission.

If two people have no diseases like HIV or syphilis or gonorrhoea, they can sleep with each other as much as they like and they will not pass those diseases back and forth, whether they use condoms or not, because they don't have anything infectious.

If three people have no diseases, and they sleep only with each other, same thing.

How many men there are, whether they cum in your ass or on your face or mix it into a milkshake, none of that matters if none of them have any diseases. Cum isn't dangerous if it's mixed with other cum. It's dangerous when it's filled with the germs that cause disease.

And not one of those guys can tell you he is clean unless he's had no sex at all for a couple of months, got tested, got his results back, and he still hasn't had sex because he's just waiting patiently to pile on in this group sex thing.

If I was locked in a moonbase or a space station, and all 20 guys were tested and everybody was negative for everything, they could all fuck me bare and it would be a good time with no worries. Except maybe being sore - lol. But in the real world, people don't live that way. Somebody's going to hook up after his last test but before he fucks you.

It's your ass. In a roomful of men, don't let anyone fuck it without a condom. THEY should know that. THEY should be the ones saying "Yeah, I wanna fuck you with a condom because bare sounds hot, but I don't want it get out of hand." If you are in a roomful of men who want to have a go at you bare, either they don't know anything about disease, or they don't give a shit if you get infected, or they figure you already are, or they figure you don't care either way.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Thanks for the fast replies guys, as I said in the post I have had bareback sex with them on more than one occasion individually, I usually swallow or have them cum inside me and I'm clean as of December. I dont want to sound foolhardy, and I do appreciate what you are saying, but we are a close group as they are the only men I've been with and the guy I was with first helped me come to terms with my sexuality, they are also the only people who know that I am gay. I will of course take your words with the utmost consideration, but would it be safe, if we do start off having protected sex or avoiding creampies until I can confirm they are clean? I don't even know how I'd propose that to them, wouldn't it offend them?

That is also the main reason as to why I wondered if mixing cum from clean men can be dangerous, does anyone know? I do trust them down to the nature of our friendships, I am honestly so lucky to have found them.

Also: is anybody experienced with double penetration that can offer any tips to manage it or begin, and also anybody know of any tips to avoid burning out mid way through and generally fun things to do in a gangbang? Thank you.

I'll leave it at this. Unless they are having sex ONLY with YOU, that is only way to be safe. And I'm pretty sure you're not the only one.
There's also no test to guarantee they are clean. HIV tests can anywhere between 6 months and a few weeks normally but not if a person was infected in that time.


Mixing cum has no effect. And I wouldnt start off with double penetration. Best position is to sit on one while the other tries to insert from behind.

Best of luck. Think about your safety. Are you willing to die for these people?

 

[palbert]

You are truly having exponential group sex: sex with them and everyone they've had sex with.

Not worth the risk. Practice safe sex and use condoms, as cumbersome as they may seem.

 

[DarkHelios]

I have thought about discussing this with them but I am very insecure and do not want to appear to have any doubts, we all know one another's sexual preferences and I know what they like so if I go ahead with it, I'd rather not dampen the mood on what could be an amazing experience with what may seem like silly questions.

If you have doubts, let them know.
If you don't think you can bring this up with them, then you really shouldn't be having unprotected sex with them.

 

[journo25]

You are the only bottom in your group, yet you worry about "dampening the mood" by bringing up what "seem like silly questions." Not so silly! The previous posters have raised some excellent points for you to consider.