Grrr....Straight guys!

[Leidian]

No worries, this isn't a "I want straight guys" thread!!

I have been known to complain to friends at bigger schools that I go to a small college and there are about 2 gay people here - one of whom isn't interested in me and the other I have no interest in. So today I decided to stop being a whiner and be (admittedly creepishly) proactive. I did a search on Facebook of all the men who are interested in men at my school.

I was surprised to find several pages of guys!! Who knew? With so many guys willing to post on Facebook that they are gay, why am I weary of coming out? Clearly I would find some common ground on campus.

It turns out I know most of those guys who are "gay" on Facebook. With very few exceptions, they were all guys who are UBER straight but think it's funny to list that they are gay on Facebook. WTF?!

I'm just annoyed in general that I know so many straight guys who act gayer than I ever would be (stereotypically) but are completely unaccepting of actual gay people.

Thanks for the rant, guys!

Comments? Stories?

 

[puka-pride]

facebook is a horrible place to find guys because it doesn't actually ask your orientation.. but it is an awesome place to find your friends and people u haven't seen in a really long time and to find out what is going on in their lives



i've decided to add a reason to hate str8 men...

i work with 2 str8 guys... who still have't figured out i am gay... i've done everything i can do without saying the words I AM GAY but they just can't seem to put 2 and 2 together... today.. the whore of the 2 gay men was boasting about himself and how he does his job better because he is faster.. the thing is though.. he isn't going faster than us at all.. its actually about the same speed.. he just thinks he is going faster because he gets more rollers on the truck faster than us... but thats because he ignores the boxes on half the side of the truck and just empties one end till all the rollers are in...

but back on track... he started talkign about girls.. and he said.. you guys would get as many girls as me if you were as good looking as me... now personally i think he is ugly.. both of them are.. he "gets" girls because he hits on all women.. but the kicker is he doesn't actually get them cus he is married.. they just flirt back but ANYWAY... when he said that... i yelled out YEAH LIKE I REALLY CARE IF GIRLS WANT ME... and neither of them got it..
then later one guy made a comment about me sucking too much cock.. and i said theres no such thing... still they have no idea.. then he was talking about a girl he was with gargling cum.. and i was like what? can u even gargle cum? i've never done it before... why would anyone... and still.. they didn't get it...


GAH

*end rant*

 

[Soilwork]

yeah, but when you get a bunch of gay men together, it's fun to make the straight guys nearby squirm.

 

[tonyboy]

facebook is a horrible place to find guys because it doesn't actually ask your orientation.. but it is an awesome place to find your friends and people u haven't seen in a really long time and to find out what is going on in their lives



i've decided to add a reason to hate str8 men...

i work with 2 str8 guys... who still have't figured out i am gay... i've done everything i can do without saying the words I AM GAY but they just can't seem to put 2 and 2 together... today.. the whore of the 2 gay men was boasting about himself and how he does his job better because he is faster.. the thing is though.. he isn't going faster than us at all.. its actually about the same speed.. he just thinks he is going faster because he gets more rollers on the truck faster than us... but thats because he ignores the boxes on half the side of the truck and just empties one end till all the rollers are in...

but back on track... he started talkign about girls.. and he said.. you guys would get as many girls as me if you were as good looking as me... now personally i think he is ugly.. both of them are.. he "gets" girls because he hits on all women.. but the kicker is he doesn't actually get them cus he is married.. they just flirt back but ANYWAY... when he said that... i yelled out YEAH LIKE I REALLY CARE IF GIRLS WANT ME... and neither of them got it..
then later one guy made a comment about me sucking too much cock.. and i said theres no such thing... still they have no idea.. then he was talking about a girl he was with gargling cum.. and i was like what? can u even gargle cum? i've never done it before... why would anyone... and still.. they didn't get it...


GAH

*end rant*

Hey puka.... if you want these coworkers to know you're gay why not just tell them? I don't know how it would help you at all, after all you have to work with them ever day. But if you need to get it off your chest just say it. Course if it wouldn't be any advantage to you as far as the job goes why not just keep quiet?
You could do it either way of couse but it seems you are expending a lot of energy on worrying about what a couple of jerks do on their off time.

 

[Leidian]

For the record, I don't "hate" st8 men. I love them - all of my friends are straight. They just annoy me from time to time with their ability to pretend to have anal sex with each other one moment and say things like "That kid's a fag" the next.

:sigh:

 

[translation]

Hey be easy on the straight guys, some of my best friends are straight males and you guys would be surprised how much they can have your back. I think there needs to be a thread with stories of how great straight male friends can be.

But I just wanted to say props on being proactive, i know how hard that can be.

 

[puka-pride]

Hey puka.... if you want these coworkers to know you're gay why not just tell them? I don't know how it would help you at all, after all you have to work with them ever day. But if you need to get it off your chest just say it. Course if it wouldn't be any advantage to you as far as the job goes why not just keep quiet?
You could do it either way of couse but it seems you are expending a lot of energy on worrying about what a couple of jerks do on their off time.

its not that i really think they need to know.. I just don't want them to keep talking to me about pussy and tits.. i've told them i don't care about like their sexcapades or the size of the girls tits or the box of panties many times... but they keep going..

and I would just be like.. yo i'm gay.. but if i just tell them like that then the awkward silence will ensue and yeah.. i dun want that.. if they figure it out on their own theirs a better chance there won't be a difficult situation

 

[me12121]

Haha, I've noticed that on facebook too. But someone created a group for the glbt centre at the school so I just type in 'rainbow centre' to find out who all the gay guys are.

 

[Kurn]

When society gives you so many scripts you can forget to think for yourself;
but, yeah, there are a lot of straight guys that are pure gold.

We're lucky in that we often have to make up the rules for ourselves.
We always have to think if we want to get more than half right!
Cheers!

 

[gvlatinboi]

Let me point something out to you on facebook..... If it says, seeking Male and Female or maybe even Male, it doesn't mean they're gay. Look at what they're looking for. If it says ONLY friendship, the chances of them being gay is quite small. Since it just means that they're looking for male friends not make hookups or anything like that.

 

[Soilwork]

Not much you can do about it. You either are truly gay, come out, and go for it 100% or you stay in the shadows looking for answers.

Buddy.. really.

You'll really have to reconcile what you are with what you believe. I get it that it's hard.. I too had a horrible time coming to grips with being gay, and even after my coming out was totally smooth and relatively painless, I still had my doubts and fears and moments of weakness.

But I think we both know how staying in the shadows and searching for answers has turned out for you, and I doubt that it's how you want to spend the rest of your life.

I mean, this is the only one your'e going to get, and nobody else is going to do your looking back with regret for you.

(I'm not a TOTAL monster, you know)

 

[3nipples]

and I would just be like.. yo i'm gay.. but if i just tell them like that then the awkward silence will ensue and yeah.. i dun want that.. if they figure it out on their own theirs a better chance there won't be a difficult situation

So just how long do you figure this silence would ensue? 1 minute? 10? a whole day?

if you don't care then just get it over with...

 

[puka-pride]

So just how long do you figure this silence would ensue? 1 minute? 10? a whole day?

if you don't care then just get it over with...

lol well see one of them is the type of guy who thinks he is the hottest guy around... that everyone wants him... i'm worried that if i was to just tell them (which i have done and they still don't clue in) then he will think i'm hitting on him.... and the problem is i work from 7pm-12:30am with JUST these 2 guys.. so i don't really want a big conflict...

I talked to my mom about EVERYTHING they say.. she says that its sexual harrassment because it makes me so uncomfortable when they talk about tits and ass and shit.. and of course when they make fun of homosexuality.. which i do mouth off at em for.. and she says i should report them.. but yeah.. no...

honestly these guys were today.. one of em asked me to throw him a box.. so i did.. and i am bad at throwing.. so the other one said.. you throw like a girl... are you gay? and i said yes... and then they went back to talking to me about girls.. OMFG... why...


but yeah i didn't mean to steal the thread and i'm not asking for help because i know the only way they will understand is if i tell them str8 up i'm gay... but i just dun want that awkwardness... working their is hard enough as is.. and boring....

 

[darkroyal]

Dude, they are morons and respond like typical straight guys, just don't let them phase you. Just remember how much people love you and wanna do stuff to you right here at JUB!

 

[Leidian]

honestly these guys were today.. one of em asked me to throw him a box.. so i did.. and i am bad at throwing.. so the other one said.. you throw like a girl... are you gay? and i said yes... and then they went back to talking to me about girls.. OMFG... why...

Not to laugh at something that clearly bothers you, but the way you typed the end of that story "OMFG...why..." just made me lose it. Best of luck with getting them to understand. And thanks for the laugh