Grrrr...

[menRsexii]

I am just SO fed up with some things. Sometimes life just seems hopeless. I hate my face, I hate my body, I've never been in a relationship -- pretty much just used. And what I'm about to say just adds to my frustrations.

There's this guy that is being kind of an asshole to me. He was the one that originally showed interest in me, not the other way around. In fact, i was interested in his friend, but that's another story.

He's ignored me multiple times, for weeks on end and I know he's alive because he posts new statuses on fb all the time (lol). I really don't think I did anything wrong and yet he just stops talking to me multiple times. I mean, wtf is his deal? If he has a problem with me, man up and effing tell me! Anyway, I'm done with him.

(sorry for the rant, but I needed to tell someone :/)

Would it be mean to tell him to fuck off if he tries to text me again? Or maybe in a nicer way?

 

[menRsexii]

^ Haha, well I don't hate myself because of him. I have personal problems that I'm trying to deal with but him ignoring definitely doesn't help.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

If he's ignoring you even though he's the one that showed interest in you, and it seems to be some sort of cruel game for him, why is he still on your facebook list?

Why obsess?

 

[kinnik]

the sea is full of fishes forget him

 

[menRsexii]

@ moufofkhaos

^ firstly, He's not on my list anymore. It's fb official >:]

and secondly, obsessing is a horrible way to live life but I have always been and will always be an obsessive person. I just have an obsessive personality :/

What people have said to me in the past, even subtle little things, have remained in my mind for days afterwords... Some of them never even left! I guess I'm also kinda sensitive to some things as well.

 

[palbert]

Focus on your personal problems and leave him by the wayside for a while. If someone else comes along don't hesitate to explore the opportunity.

 

[menRsexii]

^ I have been thinking about that. On one hand, I want a relationship (maybe 'cause I've never been in one) but on the other, I realize that I should focus on myself because I am not at my best and this needs to be changed.

 

[chrisw87]

I have facebook but I do not use it, I still have MSN messenger... but do not use it.

I prefer to deal with people (and lots of random interactions) in real life. It will help to boost your confidence and having confidence is the key to a lot of things.

I was in a similar situation to yourself a few years ago. I joined the police force, it taught me self respect, self discipline and to have confidence when dealing with other people regardless of the situation.

I think something similar could help greatly, not joining a para-military institution but some past-time that will help you with self confidence.

and you have the right idea about focusing on yourself, don't fret over relationships, they will happen when they happen. Don't over-hype relationships in your mind, they will come and then they will fail, but the lessons learnt are something you will keep for life.

 

[menRsexii]

^ thanks guys

I know I need to boost my self-confidence but that's kinda hard for me right now :/How can I like, love or be confident in myself if I hate me so much? It really sucks having these negative feelings all the time. Sometimes they become almost dormant but then I look in the damned mirror and it all comes flooding back. I feel bad for anyone else that feels the same way I do. Bleh. It's not fun haha.

I feel really bad for feeling this way about myself too because I realize there are much bigger problems in the world. This just adds more onto my self-hatred; I feel so small minded and conceded. I wish I could stop focusing on it and move on with life but I just can't shake all of these negative feelings. I'm just not sure if I'm ever going to be okay with myself. There's always going to be someone better.

 

[rareboy]

Go to a good hair stylist.

Ask them to help you get a cut that is right for you.

If you are overweight, get busy getting some exercise and as usual, drop the junk food and sodas and anything with refined sugars or HFCS.

If you are underweight, just count your lucky stars. But follow the same advice as above.

The crap you eat is often responsible in part for your mood issues.

Get sleep. Tuen off your computer at 10 pm each night and I mean it.

Forget about Facebook. It is stupid. A waste of time.

Get outside and start meeting more people and making more friends.

Volunteer for something. We don't have to be beautiful to do good things for others but doing them makes us beautiful.

Read more. Like real books. Great literature. It will help you be a better conversationalist.

If you think you are small minded, work on expanding your mind.

If you think you are conceited, then write out the reasons why and evaluate how you can change some of these behaviours.

If you are just craving attention, think about how you can get it for the things you do instead of the clothes you wear.

If you really don't think you can be okay with yourself, seek out a behavioural therapist and spend a bit of quality time with them.

You only get so many days to be here. Make the most of all of them,

 

[Telstra]

I am just SO fed up with some things. Sometimes life just seems hopeless. I hate my face, I hate my body, I've never been in a relationship -- pretty much just used. And what I'm about to say just adds to my frustrations.

There's this guy that is being kind of an asshole to me. He was the one that originally showed interest in me, not the other way around. In fact, i was interested in his friend, but that's another story.

He's ignored me multiple times, for weeks on end and I know he's alive because he posts new statuses on fb all the time (lol). I really don't think I did anything wrong and yet he just stops talking to me multiple times. I mean, wtf is his deal? If he has a problem with me, man up and effing tell me! Anyway, I'm done with him.

(sorry for the rant, but I needed to tell someone :/)

Would it be mean to tell him to fuck off if he tries to text me again? Or maybe in a nicer way?

This sentence here you sounds unstable.

 

[menRsexii]

^ I probably am....


and @ rareboy and hard-up: Thanks for the tips. I will try to keep them in mind from now on... But what if there are things about me that I cannot change? Things that I find so disgustingly gross that I'm stuck with? I hope to someday find peace with my flaws and problems and move on... Hopefully...