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Guess what, I did it!

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Dukeguy06

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Hey guys!

Well, my mom and I went to out today to go pay some bills, well while she went inside to go pay a bill I texted her this " I have something I need to talk to you about, but im scared. Will you always love me?"
When she got back in the car she saw her text message, and asked me what is wrong.. I didn't say anything. Then she said jokingly "You're not gay are you", I still didn't say anything thing. We sat there for about a bit without talking. The she said, "Well, did you change your mind about being a youth pastor". I started to speak but my voice kinda can in and out. Then I said, "Yes, I did change my mind about that, but it is because of what you first said".

Well, she said " you are joking right?" I said "No, I'm not, I like guys, and I have always have liked them. I've known since I was 6 year's old that I have." She said, "Well, I still love you, you are still my son no matter what, you know how I feel about being gay so I don't need to tell you that again."

To make a long story short, we went to go get something to eat and talked about it. She, told me she isn't going to accept it, but stills loves me. She said it will change, God will change it. And she was sorry I had to deal with this all by myself for 16 years." Well, I said " Can I be honest with you? It's not going away, I've tried for 16 years to make it go away, Let me ask you this question, Do you think you can change the way you feel about men and start liking women?" She said " Well, no". I said " Well, that goes for the same as me, I can't change the way I feel about guys."

Anyways, she is in the stage where she is trying to tell me it can go away, hehe. Next is telling my dad.

I know this isn't how I wanted to do it, but it felt like it was the right time and place to tell her.

:gogirl::D

Josh
 
you go girl!
my mom had a somewhat similar reaction... i never had any doubt about her love for me but it took her 10 years (!) to finally ask me wether i had a boyfriend or not. some things take time.
 
Well done man, I told my mum in the car too - I guess its the enclosed space that helps!! I hope she sees things from your perspective from now. This is the start of your life and you can start being you. xx
 
Thank you for the follow up. I'm proud of you for realizing you are and your need to do something about it. You are a brave young man. I'm so happy you were able to share first your fears and now this coming out experience. Good wishes and the best of luck to you.
 
Wow, I read your original story and felt for you so much because of the difficulty of your situation. And then you just up and seized your freedom, just like that! I am so flabbergasted and filled with admiration for your courage that I don't really even know what else to say.
 
Wow!! Good for you! I hope your shoulders feel much much lighter :)
 
Thank you all for you support and kind words. I just felt like the right time so i did it :)
 
Yeah, congratulations, it was good that you asked her if she could choose. I always think that the people who say it's a choice must have had to make some awful choice to be straight when they aren't, and they're pissed off about it. I mean you don't sit down at your preschool art table and choose it, do you? Very insightful and commuunicative, I think you two will be all right. I dropped a letter (with a gasp) into the mailbox and ended up calling my mom to tell her what was coming, she was way cool, said everything made more sense.
 
Hey guys!!

My dad didn't have to work day so he wanted to do some house work around the house. So we had to go to Lowes Hardware Store. On the way to there, he started asking me about going to school for a youth pastor and how much it will cost. Well I told him he doesn't have need need to send me to school for that. I'm not going to be a youth pastor and asked him if he would love me no matter what. Well he said " Son, I don't care if you aren't going to be a youth pastor, I will always love you no matter what you do with you life." We left it at that at that point, because we had to go inside the store.

Well, once we got the stuff we needs and headed home, he started to ask me why I felt like the call of the youth pastor thing isn't there anymore. I said " I dunno". He said " Well, something must have made it go away". I said "Well, I don't think it was ever there." He said "Oh, what makes you say that" At this point I was really scared and my heart was about to jump out of my chest. Well he kept on pushing and pushing for me to tell him. He said " Well, is it because you are scared to tell me why made you not want to be a youth pastor" I said "yes". He said well, did you start liking guys? (joking of course) I said yes. He was shocked and said " Really?!?" I said yes. He said, "what make you think that after all you have said and know what makes you think you are gay?" I said, " Because I don't wanna have sex with girls, I want to have sex with guys". He said "Oh, I have to think about this." I said "I have thought about it for 16 years". Well we pulled in the house and he look at me and said " You are tell you mom not me" I said "I already did." He looked at me with this shocked face. I got out of the car so did he. He look at me and said "Man, I guess this is going to change ever thing I believe about it."

Then we came inside and worked on the house work like "Father and Son".
 
Wow. You are truly blessed to have such great parents. That's the best possible reaction!!!
They STILL and ALWAYS will love you-and will be there for you on this new journey...

WOWWOWWOW, such a good reaction from your dad. I actually expected your mom's reaction from your dad and vice-versa.

You may get some whiplash later, but they seem cool, level-headed and I wish I had em..CONGRATS!
 
Dukeguy06 said:
Hey guys!!

My dad didn't have to work day so he wanted to do some house work around the house. So we had to go to Lowes Hardware Store. On the way to there, he started asking me about going to school for a youth pastor and how much it will cost. Well I told him he doesn't have need need to send me to school for that. I'm not going to be a youth pastor and asked him if he would love me no matter what. Well he said " Son, I don't care if you aren't going to be a youth pastor, I will always love you no matter what you do with you life." We left it at that at that point, because we had to go inside the store.

Well, once we got the stuff we needs and headed home, he started to ask me why I felt like the call of the youth pastor thing isn't there anymore. I said " I dunno". He said " Well, something must have made it go away". I said "Well, I don't think it was ever there." He said "Oh, what makes you say that" At this point I was really scared and my heart was about to jump out of my chest. Well he kept on pushing and pushing for me to tell him. He said " Well, is it because you are scared to tell me why made you not want to be a youth pastor" I said "yes". He said well, did you start liking guys? (joking of course) I said yes. He was shocked and said " Really?!?" I said yes. He said, "what make you think that after all you have said and know what makes you think you are gay?" I said, " Because I don't wanna have sex with girls, I want to have sex with guys". He said "Oh, I have to think about this." I said "I have thought about it for 16 years". Well we pulled in the house and he look at me and said " You are tell you mom not me" I said "I already did." He looked at me with this shocked face. I got out of the car so did he. He look at me and said "Man, I guess this is going to change ever thing I believe about it."

Then we came inside and worked on the house work like "Father and Son".
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That really struck me as remarkable. A lot of people have their thoughts but when it is someone close to them it really opens there eyes, my dad pretty much said the same thing, because he knew who I was and how it reflected on silly stereotyping/fears.
 
You did it well, your parents raised a good kid, sounds like they know it too.
 
What a great story, thanks for sharing this. I am very happy for you and wish you the best. Reading your first thread and now this one, you have come very far. Keep going and live life to the fullest!!
 
Wow, really amazing coming out stories, Josh!

You are an incredible young man. So full of confidence. Maybe you didn't feel that way, but the answers you gave to their questions are exactly the sorts of things that you say when you know you are gay.

As soon as they say, "well, maybe if..." you immediately shoot them down with facts ("I've been gay for 16 years", etc).

Yay for you!!!

And it's impressive how you've made your parents think!

If only every closeted teen had the courage and conviction that you do. You're an inspiration to every young adult JUBber.

Truly, you are. (*8*)
 
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