Guy at the gas station

[singlesax03]

There is this guy that just started working at the gas station that i go to quite a bit he is hot! My question is how do i know if he's gay?!? he kind of acts like it and tonite he kind of went out of his way to talk to me. How do I know? is there anything i can say or do to show that i'm interested without making it weird in the future?

 

[looseliam]

Start chatting him up.

Go in for nonsensical things - a pack of gum, a redbull, etc.

Make small talk and perhaps drop hints you're gay.

 

[singlesax03]

How do i drop hints without being to obvious? I'm new to all of this

 

[looseliam]

Sweetie, sometimes you have to be obvious.

Example: It's late and you're running in for something, a passing comment "Ugh, why can't I find a nice guy?" or something to that effect. But nonchalantly and move into something else.

Then there's the direct approach: Would you like to grab a drink sometime?

 

[singlesax03]

I know what you mean. But I don't want to make an ass of myself this place is pretty busy 24/7 and in a semi-bad part of town i can't just go in there and say hey i'm gay just so you know! if you know what i mean.

 

[looseliam]

Well, then chat him up and see if there are any common interests. Then, perhaps, you two could meet outside of work.

 

[singlesax03]

the guy i met has long brn hair average height, slim and completly georgeous!

 

[Homoerectus]

How about, "I really enjoy talking with you when I come in for gas. Would you like to grab a burger and cola when your shift end?"

 

[singlesax03]

Idon't know if hes gay though! and if he is i don't want to blow it by being to forward

Iknow I think to much character flaw!

 

[looseliam]

So what if he's not gay? Nothing wrong with a new friend.

 

[singlesax03]

Nothings wrong with a new friend but if i approach him wrong i could end up with neither a friend or a crush and have to drive an extra mile down the road to fuel up!

 

[singlesax03]

that might be a little ackward

 

[singlesax03]

i hope i don't sound ungrateful for your guy's advice i really appreciate it! I just don't want to scare the guy off and i'm trying to get as much advice from anyone who is willing to give it as i can. I've never been in this kind of situation before.

 

[singlesax03]

the main thing that concerns me i know absolutely nothing about the guy the only thing we have talked about(conversation lasted less than a minute) was cigarettes i know he smokes camel's and thats about it
I don't even know his name!

 

[singlesax03]

Thanks for the advice
I can't wait til I run into him again to try some of this stuff out hopefully it will work! as cliche as it sounds i can't stop thinking about him!

 

[backpacker]

Here's a hint that you can drop that he would probably only get if he is gay. Mention that you are going to(insert gay bar name) in Columbus to meet some friends. Pick a popular bar that he would probably know if he is gay. If he doesn't get the hint and asks about the bar, you can always say you have never been there, but your friend said it's a cool bar.

If that doesn't work, try another hint that a gay guy would probably get, but not a straight gay. Those typically have to be some piece of local information, such as referencing someone who is a popular performer in a gay bar, etc.

 

[singlesax03]

thanks guys the next time i see him i am definetly going to talk to him(if i don't freeze) but please keep the advice i coming i can use all i can get it will probably be a few days before i see him again.

 

[USEDCAR]

apply for a job there

 

[singlesax03]

I worked at the same chain a few years ago. I don't think the would hire me back if I wanted them to!

 

[slickery]

Here's a hint that you can drop that he would probably only get if he is gay. Mention that you are going to(insert gay bar name) in Columbus to meet some friends. Pick a popular bar that he would probably know if he is gay. If he doesn't get the hint and asks about the bar, you can always say you have never been there, but your friend said it's a cool bar.

If that doesn't work, try another hint that a gay guy would probably get, but not a straight gay. Those typically have to be some piece of local information, such as referencing someone who is a popular performer in a gay bar, etc.

This is actually a very good idea as it's happened to me twice in the past. I was buying shirts one day and the guy was measuring me and some song came on and he said "This reminds me of being at the Columbian," to which I followed up with "I really like that place." It didn't go much further then that but you get the idea.