Guy playing games?

[excer93]

Hey, so last year at university I started talking to some guy on my course towards the end of the year and we ended up sitting together for most days of the week, so we'd talk a lot and spent a decent amount of time together (roughly 6 weeks). Around this time, I asked him out (in the sense of seeing each other out of uni) a few times to which he said yes the first time but the subsequent 2 times he said no. Come the summer we had no contact except he told me that he'd be returning and to expect more of him in he coming year.

Now, while I think this sounds promising, when we're outside of uni he barely replies to my messages or takes like a full day to do so. We got back this week, spoke yesterday briefly in which he gave me a compliment, so I messaged him later in the day asking which class he was going to today and I've woken up still with no response. It's worth adding that at university he's always on his phone, so I don't doubt he has seen it.

I like the guy but I have a tough year coming up, and I'd like to still see him but I just can't deal with playing games and such right now. He is a few years younger than me so I'm not sure if this is also a factor. Basically I guess I'm just looking for some advice, should I take him to one side and just ask him if he's interested? Give it some space and let him make an effort to approach me? Ignore him? Am I being too forward?

Thanks

 

[KaraBulut]

...I like the guy but I have a tough year coming up, and I'd like to still see him but I just can't deal with playing games and such right now. He is a few years younger than me so I'm not sure if this is also a factor. Basically I guess I'm just looking for some advice, should I take him to one side and just ask him if he's interested? Give it some space and let him make an effort to approach me? Ignore him? Am I being too forward?

There's another option: move on.

Some people aren't assertive and don't have the confidence to speak up, so instead they send the message by inaction or avoidance. Based upon the story that you've related, it sounds like he's had plenty of opportunity to pursue this over the past year if he chose to.

At this point, you should take his inaction as a "No" and move on.

 

[eastofeden]

I agree with Kara...move on.....

For whatever reason he isn't as into the friendship as you are....

Find a way to be OK with it and let it go....and maybe that will free up that energy to find a guy who IS into it....

 

[Seasoned]

It shouldn't be this difficult or time consuming to begin a relationship. Put the ball in his court and give up on trying to make something happy. That's what I did 33 years ago. Two months later I got a call and we've been together ever since. Can't promise that will be the case for you, but you'd be better served with your focus elsewhere.

 

[offthewall14420]

Ignore him. If he took your attention for granted make him earn back your valuable time.

“There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again.”

 

[TX-Beau]

That sounds like pretty typical straight guy behavior to me.

 

[mcbrion]

"Actions speak louder than words." Watch someone's actions, and ignore what comes out of their mouth. This is so simple, it should be taught in 4th grade. If his actions don't line up with what he says, you have your answer.