xxmen44
On the Prowl
Warning: Another "straight friend" thread. xD
So yeah, I know this guy (we'll call him Troy) and I've known him for about 6 months now. We've gotten really close since then, especially when he started to date my other friend (long story lol), which I thought was cool but didn't really think anything of it. They broke up around Thanksgiving and my girl friend he dated said she just doesn't want to date him anymore, but she never really gave me a *real* reason. I still have NO idea why she would even think about breaking up, though... Troy is seriously hott. He's 6'3, extremely buff/ripped at bout 200 lbs of mostly muscle, very handsome, very masculine, and very sweet/caring. He's even got a thick 7-inches on him! I mean, honestly... he's practically perfect, but she told me she just didn't like his habits. He takes 2 showers a day, ate like he was starving, and has bad spelling... I'm just think "wtf? that's it?" but I guess people have their own deal-breakers.
Anyway, I'm kinda stuck in a strange position here because I've noticed he's been a lot more talkative with me. Not that he never talked to me while they were dating or anything; he did - a lot. I was actually surprised because he would always come to me when they were having problems (him and my friend), but I usually just told him he needs to speak with her since, you know, she's his girlfriend and everything, but that never really seemed to work. =/ But like, over the past couple of months, he's been calling me A LOT more and when I don't answer he leaves tons of voicemails. At first I just figured he liked to talk to me or something, because honestly we do have a lot in common and I enjoy talking to him as well, but it's become a little... I don't know... Obsessive-ish. When we chat on the phone, we talk for HOURS and I'm usually the one who has to tell him I have to go b/c I need my sleep... lol. He also likes to play the guitar for me ( ? ), which is cool I guess, but when I was talkin to my girl friend about it, she told me he never did that for her, so maybe it's a guy thing? Lol.
And strangely enough, he started talking to me a lot more when my girl friend let it "slip" that I was gay (she said she was pissed at him b/c I somehow came up during one of their convos and she told him). Not that I cared... I'm completely out w/ both my family and friends, but he confronted me about it and I told him it was the truth. He said he was cool with it and knew some gay guys at school and said he respected it, which I thought was nice of him, but since then, he'll constantly ask if I have a boyfriend yet, even after I repeatedly tell him no. I've been single since October and that really hasn't changed... lol... but when he asked if I had had any hook-ups, I told him my recent one during New Year's, but it was like... when I started to talk about the hot tub scene
twisted he was like "Actually, nevermind." (lol) Most of my str8 guy friends say that, haha, so I just let it go, but the thing is, HE keeps bringing it up. What confuses me even more is the fact that he also likes to bring up the "What you like in a guy" subject. I've basically told him he's my type, but told him I know he's str8 so I'm not going to pursue anything, yet it seems he likes to hear it for some reason.
So, I guess my question is, what the hell is he? He keeps sending me so many mixed signals I'm starting to doubt his "Str8-ness". I mean, hell, it would be great if he turned out to be bi/gay, but if he was str8, I honestly wouldn't care. I'm not heads over heels for him or anything. I would date him in a heartbeat - don't get me wrong - but I know when to draw the line of reality. Also, not sure if I should mention this, but his family is kinda religious... especially his brother (whom I do NOT like). His brother is one of those "holier than thou" types who went so far as to call my girl friend a harlot and a "witch", which seriously pissed me off. I wanted to punch his fuckin lights out.
I have tried talking to him about his feelings for my other friend b/c when I bring her up he tells me he's still in love with her, but then he'll talk about how shitty the relationship was and how he was happy to get out ... ? To be honest, I still have NO idea why they broke up b/c they both keep giving me these reasons that either contradict themselves or just don't make sense. I've tried to ignore it and leave it alone, but every time he asks if I'm available or not, it's always the same damn thing. I don't want to be too straight-forward and ask him if he has feelings for guys as well, b/c I don't want to ruin the friendship, but with all these flags he keeps sending up, I don't know what to do.
What do ya think?
So yeah, I know this guy (we'll call him Troy) and I've known him for about 6 months now. We've gotten really close since then, especially when he started to date my other friend (long story lol), which I thought was cool but didn't really think anything of it. They broke up around Thanksgiving and my girl friend he dated said she just doesn't want to date him anymore, but she never really gave me a *real* reason. I still have NO idea why she would even think about breaking up, though... Troy is seriously hott. He's 6'3, extremely buff/ripped at bout 200 lbs of mostly muscle, very handsome, very masculine, and very sweet/caring. He's even got a thick 7-inches on him! I mean, honestly... he's practically perfect, but she told me she just didn't like his habits. He takes 2 showers a day, ate like he was starving, and has bad spelling... I'm just think "wtf? that's it?" but I guess people have their own deal-breakers.
Anyway, I'm kinda stuck in a strange position here because I've noticed he's been a lot more talkative with me. Not that he never talked to me while they were dating or anything; he did - a lot. I was actually surprised because he would always come to me when they were having problems (him and my friend), but I usually just told him he needs to speak with her since, you know, she's his girlfriend and everything, but that never really seemed to work. =/ But like, over the past couple of months, he's been calling me A LOT more and when I don't answer he leaves tons of voicemails. At first I just figured he liked to talk to me or something, because honestly we do have a lot in common and I enjoy talking to him as well, but it's become a little... I don't know... Obsessive-ish. When we chat on the phone, we talk for HOURS and I'm usually the one who has to tell him I have to go b/c I need my sleep... lol. He also likes to play the guitar for me ( ? ), which is cool I guess, but when I was talkin to my girl friend about it, she told me he never did that for her, so maybe it's a guy thing? Lol.
And strangely enough, he started talking to me a lot more when my girl friend let it "slip" that I was gay (she said she was pissed at him b/c I somehow came up during one of their convos and she told him). Not that I cared... I'm completely out w/ both my family and friends, but he confronted me about it and I told him it was the truth. He said he was cool with it and knew some gay guys at school and said he respected it, which I thought was nice of him, but since then, he'll constantly ask if I have a boyfriend yet, even after I repeatedly tell him no. I've been single since October and that really hasn't changed... lol... but when he asked if I had had any hook-ups, I told him my recent one during New Year's, but it was like... when I started to talk about the hot tub scene
twisted he was like "Actually, nevermind." (lol) Most of my str8 guy friends say that, haha, so I just let it go, but the thing is, HE keeps bringing it up. What confuses me even more is the fact that he also likes to bring up the "What you like in a guy" subject. I've basically told him he's my type, but told him I know he's str8 so I'm not going to pursue anything, yet it seems he likes to hear it for some reason.So, I guess my question is, what the hell is he? He keeps sending me so many mixed signals I'm starting to doubt his "Str8-ness". I mean, hell, it would be great if he turned out to be bi/gay, but if he was str8, I honestly wouldn't care. I'm not heads over heels for him or anything. I would date him in a heartbeat - don't get me wrong - but I know when to draw the line of reality. Also, not sure if I should mention this, but his family is kinda religious... especially his brother (whom I do NOT like). His brother is one of those "holier than thou" types who went so far as to call my girl friend a harlot and a "witch", which seriously pissed me off. I wanted to punch his fuckin lights out.
I have tried talking to him about his feelings for my other friend b/c when I bring her up he tells me he's still in love with her, but then he'll talk about how shitty the relationship was and how he was happy to get out ... ? To be honest, I still have NO idea why they broke up b/c they both keep giving me these reasons that either contradict themselves or just don't make sense. I've tried to ignore it and leave it alone, but every time he asks if I'm available or not, it's always the same damn thing. I don't want to be too straight-forward and ask him if he has feelings for guys as well, b/c I don't want to ruin the friendship, but with all these flags he keeps sending up, I don't know what to do.
What do ya think?
