Guys of all orientations "experimenting"" Exactly how common do you guys think it is?

[bw92116]

You guys are so lucky. I never got invited to any circle jerks in those years.

 

[Rex]

Depends on what your definition of experimenting is.

Guys jerking off together when first discovering porn or masturbation? Yeah I'm sure that happens a lot. Boys who compare their penises? Yup.

Guys actually having sex with each other or doing something sexual? Probably somewhat common with a lot of guys but most who do it probably do it once and never speak of it, so it's kind of impossible to really know how common it is.


Also you need to consider that MANY people on this forum have different views of sexual orientation. Many people think that just because an individual IDENTIFIES as straight, they really are. I don't believe that at all. Some people believe that anyone who has a same sex experience and is aroused or enjoyed it to some degree is bi. Others say that they're straight. Some people think that a man who isn't attracted to men, but attracted to shemales is straight. Others swear that he must be at least bi. Some people think that straight men can have sex with other men, enjoy it and get off, but as long as they're not attracted to the other man or have intimate feelings towards him, they're still straight.


MOST people have some degree of bisexuality to them but probably only about half of them actually have an experience with the same gender.


A good example I can think of that sort of proves that most people are bisexual is straight porn. Probably 85% of straight male pornstars are muscular, defined, masculine and hung like a horse. And probably 95% of the viewers are men. Nobody wants to see some flimsy, scrawny twerp with a 3 inch penis. They want to see someone they could identify with or envy. Even though they're into the woman, they want to see her get fucked by a giant cock and the high lite of straight porn is when the man ejaculates (money shot).

Plus with terms like mancrush and bromance becoming popular with straight men, it seems like they are slowly accepting the fact that they can have deep feelings for another man. There is a point when those feelings might get strong enough to form a physical attraction.




At the end of the day, all people take notice when someone is attractive, regardless of what gender they are. Humans are naturally sexual, curious beings.

 

[DDre13]

Depends on what your definition of experimenting is.

Guys jerking off together when first discovering porn or masturbation. Yeah I'm sure that happens a lot. Boys who compare their penises. Yeah that happens when they are discovering their bodies.

Guys actually having sex with each other or doing something sexual. Probably somewhat common with a lot of guys but most who do it probably do it once and never speak of it, so it's kind of impossible to really know how common it is I suppose.


Also you need to consider that MANY people on this forum have different views of sexual orientation. Many people think that just because an individual IDENTIFIES as straight, they really are. I don't believe that at all. Some people believe that anyone who has a same sex experience and is aroused or enjoyed it to some degree is bi. Others don't. Some people think that a man who isn't attracted to men, but attracted to shemales is straight. Others swear that he must be at least bi.


Moral of the story is MOST people have some degree of bisexuality to them but probably only about half of them actually have an experience with the same gender.

I agree that everyone has some degree of bisexuality in them. How could we know if the same sex was attractive if we weren't somewhat attracted to them?

 

[DDre13]

I wasn't invited to those circle jerks either

 

[DDre13]

If you include adolescent sleepovers I'd have to say it's almost 100% of guys who have at least put on a jo show for each other. Not only did all of my friends do this with me in high school / college, but each of them talked about how they'd done it with other guys. Of course that was years ago, but now that guys are in their 30s-40s, when you get to know them enough / get them drunk enough, if you discreetly bring up the subject of whether they used to jerk it and show off hardons with other guys, every single one of them will always say yes. I have never encountered a man who denied doing this or, at the very least, did not say he had a friend whom he knew to have done it.

I'm counting in this question though anything from mutual masturbation to further. Would you count masturbating with a friend but not touching as "experimenting"?

 

[Rex]

If you include adolescent sleepovers I'd have to say it's almost 100% of guys who have at least put on a jo show for each other. Not only did all of my friends do this with me in high school / college, but each of them talked about how they'd done it with other guys. Of course that was years ago, but now that guys are in their 30s-40s, when you get to know them enough / get them drunk enough, if you discreetly bring up the subject of whether they used to jerk it and show off hardons with other guys, every single one of them will always say yes. I have never encountered a man who denied doing this or, at the very least, did not say he had a friend whom he knew to have done it.

For the record, I'm bisexual and never had one experience where me and my friends whipped out our dicks and jerked off with each other as kids or teens. We discussed sex, masturbation and watched porn together but just straight up whipping it out and playing sword fights with our dicks? ..... nope.

I'm sure stuff like that happens but to say that EVERY guy does it is kind of ridiculous.

 

[DDre13]

For the record, I'm bisexual and never had one experience where me and my friends whipped out our dicks and jerked off with each other as kids or teens. We discussed sex, masturbation and watched porn together but just straight up whipping it out and playing sword fights with our dicks? ..... nope.

I'm sure stuff like that happens but to say that EVERY guy does it is kind of ridiculous.

Well I guess it couldn't be "every" since it didn't happen to us. I wish this happened when I was in high school!

 

[DDre13]

Do you guys believe that men experiment more nowadays or in the past?

 

[bw92116]

Probably more now. I think it was sometime in the 1980s or 1990s that straight guys suddenly and collectively realized that men give better blow jobs. Back in the earlier part of the century up through the 1970s, and even into the 1980s, there was a tremendous amount of fear and paranoia associated with homosexual or homoerotic behavior, and a lot of that has subsided or simply gone now. Men have been experimenting with other men ever since men have had penises. But the social acceptability of it has varied during different time periods.

 

[qget12]

Over the past few years I've had a few instances where people I would have never expected to be curious do something that basically confirmed they were at least open to it.

I hang with a group of guys, there's about 6 of us. All of them are straight, or at least "straight". About a year ago one of my buddies who I never really suspected to be curious grabbed my dick when we were both sleeping in the same bed and tried to get me hard. I laughed and asked him what the hell he was doing. He tried to play it off by laughing as well and rolled over. I've never spoke to him about it and I think he thinks I don't remember it (We were both drinking/ drunk).

Another one of my buddies likes to put his hand on my thigh near my crotch when he's talking to me when were drinking.

Just a few weeks ago me and a few of my friends decided to take pills for the first time. As we were all running around acting like fools one of them comes up to me and tells me he thinks he has homosexual tendencies, and then asks me if I think he has them as well. I laughed and said no. All throughout the night he kept asking me and another friend did we want to make out with him, or trying to recall if we actually did.

The shocking thing about that was that he was literally the last person I would ever suspect to be curious. He just loves women, and has slept with more than I can count. He never tries to put on a bullshit macho persona and never really speaks badly of gays and even sticks up for them. To me I always just thought that for him men do not exist in a sexual way.

Out of the 5 guys, 3 have explicitly done things that confirms they are curious. The other two I'm nearly sure of as well based on just small things that I couldn't really list but have built up over the years that I've known them. Before everyone starts shouting that we're just a bunch of closet cases, the group we run in is very liberal and open minded and none of us are into that bullshit "bro" crap. So I don't think everyone is putting on a hetero front.

I'd wager the vast majority of males would experiment in the right circumstances.

 

[DDre13]

Over the past few years I've had a few instances where people I would have never expected to be curious do something that basically confirmed they were at least open to it.

I hang with a group of guys, there's about 6 of us. All of them are straight, or at least "straight". About a year ago one of my buddies who I never really suspected to be curious grabbed my dick when we were both sleeping in the same bed and tried to get me hard. I laughed and asked him what the hell he was doing. He tried to play it off by laughing as well and rolled over. I've never spoke to him about it and I think he thinks I don't remember it (We were both drinking/ drunk).

Another one of my buddies likes to put his hand on my thigh near my crotch when he's talking to me when were drinking.

Just a few weeks ago me and a few of my friends decided to take pills for the first time. As we were all running around acting like fools one of them comes up to me and tells me he thinks he has homosexual tendencies, and then asks me if I think he has them as well. I laughed and said no. All throughout the night he kept asking me and another friend did we want to make out with him, or trying to recall if we actually did.

The shocking thing about that was that he was literally the last person I would ever suspect to be curious. He just loves women, and has slept with more than I can count. He never tries to put on a bullshit macho persona and never really speaks badly of gays and even sticks up for them. To me I always just thought that for him men do not exist in a sexual way.

Out of the 5 guys, 3 have explicitly done things that confirms they are curious. The other two I'm nearly sure of as well based on just small things that I couldn't really list but have built up over the years that I've known them. Before everyone starts shouting that we're just a bunch of closet cases, the group we run in is very liberal and open minded and none of us are into that bullshit "bro" crap. So I don't think everyone is putting on a hetero front.

I'd wager the vast majority of males would experiment in the right circumstances.

Lol Why don't I ever get these situations!?!?!

 

[blublud]

If you include adolescent sleepovers I'd have to say it's almost 100% of guys who have at least put on a jo show for each other. Not only did all of my friends do this with me in high school / college, but each of them talked about how they'd done it with other guys. Of course that was years ago, but now that guys are in their 30s-40s, when you get to know them enough / get them drunk enough, if you discreetly bring up the subject of whether they used to jerk it and show off hardons with other guys, every single one of them will always say yes. I have never encountered a man who denied doing this or, at the very least, did not say he had a friend whom he knew to have done it.

I have to agree with this completely and even take it a bit further. In my experiences with almost ALL of my H.S. and college friends, these activities did not end in group masturbation but in an overwhelming majority of cases, we moved on to mutual masturbation as well as oral sex, at least in one direction if not both. In a few instances, anal was involved.

Most of these friends of mine with whom I enjoyed, it was a one or two time thing, never again to be mentioned or revisited. Most of them eventually became happily married with kids. With some of them, it continued for a few years. A very few of them eventually and totally came out as gay.

 

[jonahjonah179]

Something I noticed is that many straight jocks develop very homoerotic bromances without realizing it themselves. And then they never see it coming. The straightest men tend to be the gayest men because of how comfortable they are with their sexuality and, therefore, enjoy themselves with a nice statement of 'no homo' afterwards.

 

[str8nready]

let me ask a question...


first) what happens if a bunch of straight rubs on your head and play with your hair. i would think only girls would do that

2nd) whats the dweal with no homo. i happen to find that the dude thats confusing me right now used to say no homo a lot.

 

[DDre13]

let me ask a question...


first) what happens if a bunch of straight rubs on your head and play with your hair. i would think only girls would do that

2nd) whats the dweal with no homo. i happen to find that the dude thats confusing me right now used to say no homo a lot.

It depends...how close is the guy to you that says no homo a lot? A lot of guys get feely with the friends they're close with in my experience.

 

[mario24]

I would totally agree with this assertion. When I was in the boyscouts in jr high and first half of high school it happened a lot on campouts. The ex troop leaders son was kind of an alpha male and he had a huge dick and liked giving us a show. Then before you know it we were having a huge ass circle jerk. I liked showing off my shooting ability in front of others so I loved that shit.

Agreed. this is just the male nature when young. Says more about raging hormones far then sexuality.

 

[mario24]

Something I noticed is that many straight jocks develop very homoerotic bromances without realizing it themselves. And then they never see it coming. The straightest men tend to be the gayest men because of how comfortable they are with their sexuality and, therefore, enjoy themselves with a nice statement of 'no homo' afterwards.

They are only "homoerotic" to the those with homo tendencies. To the truly st8 there are no sexual feelings. Just a bond but not one that is sexual. The homoerotic part only comes into play when your like this is hot..that's more made of of the viewer then the participants with truly st8 guys.

 

[BiAggieGuy]

I think its a lot more common than anyone would admit.

Guys who are comfortable in their own sexuality, even those who ID as 100% straight and have no romantic feelings for other men, are often willing to get a blowjob from another guy, especially if they trust him.

I can't begin to remember how many straight friends I blew in college, but it was a lot of them. Most just wanted to get off, and it was blow and go, but now and then I could sweet talk one into returning the favor or fucking me. Last time I checked, most are married with kids.

 

[Curiosity6969]

it depends what sort of experimentation you talkin about..id say around 70-80% of young women will kiss another girl for fun or experiment, whereas not many gents will do this.

girls that will actually experiment sex with another girl would be more around 30-40% and similar % for men in that regards, 30-40.

 

[jmadaf]

Yes I think it's common, because guys I've sucked, some became BI, Gay, and some don't want BJ's from men anymore. One guy I used to suck regular, I saw him again later and he said he grew out of having guys suck his cock. I told him what about me, he said you just like cock too much to give it up.