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AussieGuy91

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I don’t usually make threads but I could probably do with some advice if anyone feels like giving it.

For a little while now there’s been a guy in one of the gym classes that I do and I guess I’ve developed a bit of a crush on him >_<....Yeah one of those posts....
I tend to see him two or more times a week and more and more I’ve found myself glancing over to him during the classes we do, not outright perving because that would be wrong – but glancing nonetheless.

I just don’t know what I should do...The other day I did manage the courage to go over to him while everyone was packing away their weights and asked if he needed a hand – Which he thanked me for both there and again over at the weights rack, but that’s the extent of what we’ve said.

I don’t have a very experienced “gaydar” but there are a few things that make me think he might not be straight, such as; He seems to go with one or two females (Although one could be a girlfriend I suppose), he seems to put his hand on his chest and sort of rub it (Maybe he’s just sore or something, but I’ve never seen anyone do it like that before), Holds his hands together on his chest when doing lunges, Other little titbits’ that I’m sure I’m probably reading too much in to.

Today I was considering striking up a conversation if I saw him outside the room, he was there when I arrived but I ended up chickening out and stood sort of next to him and didn’t say anything while we all waited to go in >_<

I know I “should” probably try talking to him again but I’m not the best at starting conversations with strangers and wouldn’t really know what to talk about, All I can really think of is a generic “Hey there / How’s it going / Hey, How’s your day been” and hope he doesn’t think I’m a loony for randomly talking to him.

So, any advice at all other than “Just go for it”? :)
 
A nice way to get to know him is to probably chat to one of the girls he goes with.

If he isn't around, randomly make conversation with one of them and ask in the convo if they're his girlfriend, girls tend to spill the beans immediately :D

My gaydar is shit too don't worry .
 
I never know what to do either but I will usually just try to talk to him about class things. I like what the guy stated in the previous post. That things slowly as it goes. Just be yourself.
 
First of all, how does he look naked in the lockerroom? J/K :D

In order to make a friend, you have to be friendly. So that means getting over your shyness. When you see him, greet him warmly, smile and make eye contact. If you ask him how is he or how is day is going, be sure to look like you want him to answer. Ask him something pertinent, like his workout program.

Just remember you really have nothing to lose by putting yourself out there. If he is straight, perhaps you will make a friend. If he is gay, you can then let him know you are interested. The worse that can happen is that he is not interested. It's all part of the journey toward love.

Good luck and keep us informed, would you?
 
try not to do the hovering thing like you did today. it's a bit creepy. you started on the right track by helping him with the weights. today he was probably wondering why you were just standing there and not saying anything.

breaking the ice is always difficult but you just have to find a way to do it. ask if he needs a spotter or tell him your having trouble with a certain workout and see if he will help. compliments are always a good starting point. people like to hear nice things about themselves. tell him you like his shirt and ask where he got it. tell him your looking for some new work out shoes and ask about the ones he's wearing. ask where he's from. I've told little lies before something like "do you work at (place)? I was there last night there was someone that looked just like you." just something to get them to talk about themselves. You will find all sorts of things to talk about once you get him to open up a bit. You've already cracked the ice a bit. now just finish breaking it.

dont be afraid to talk to anyone. nobody is better than anyone else. if he blows you off then that's on him. he missed out on having a good friend and possibly more.

not sure I agree with talking to the girls he hangs with. It's true they will talk but they will also tell him that you were asking about him and that will def. creep him out.

Steven.
 
Thanks for the responses guys, you've said pretty much what I was thinking...Hopefully I'll get around to doing that soon :)
 
A good way to start, is to let him know you are gay, try putting a badge on your gym bag, either a small gay flag or something for a famous gay bar in your town, sounds a bit corny, but if he is gay and interested he will pick up on it. Then at least their are 2 of you trying to break the ice.

Other than that, its just take the bull by the horns and talk to him.
 
Yeah, your evidence isn't evidence at all. The easiest way to find out a guy's status is to tell him you are gay. Almost always a straight guy will find a way to tell you he's straight pretty fast.
 
I think you ask him how he likes the class and whether he has taken any others or if he's planning to. If you're up to it and his arms, pecs or legs are particularly well developed ask him what he did or is doing to maintain.
 
Unfortunately I haven't really made any progress. A few weeks ago I spoke to his friend for a few minutes while the cycle studio doors were locked, learned a bit about her and that "Gym-boy" was overseas on holiday.

A few days ago by sheer chance I happened to be in a supermarket I don't usually shop in and he was serving customers at a register, I wasn't able to go out his register though because a new one opened up and I was directed to it (I saw his name tag though).

There doesn't really seem to be any chance to talk to him though, I always get there before they do and I'd have to wade through people to then interrupt the conversation they're having.
 
Damn man. I know the feeling, wanting to befriend someone or be part of something but just feeling so awkward and like you've got nothing to say.

I guess you should just start small by smiling and acknowledging him and saying Gday, then just wait for a natural opening. If you're lucky one day he might show up without his girl pals and you can whip out the old, so your girlfriend isn't here tonight?

If he is gay he'd be nuts not to be interested because you're damn fine : P.

Anyway I hope you can find the courage, as I said I know how hard it is. :)
 
Thanks for that Taz :) Yeah it is hard, hopefully something happens eventually.
 
OK. The situation at the check out line? That's when you, "oops I forgot something," get out of line, come back and get into his line and then say, "hi, I know you from class."
 
Yeah, I might have done something like that but I wasn't by myself so I didn't really have much of a choice but head to the other one.
 
I'd be going to that market every day. Introduce yourself to him in line. You can look surprised and say, "oh, hey you are in my yoga class. I'm AussieGuy91......"

This then leaves you able to engage in small talk. Do you live nearby? Did you go to school at __________? How long have you worked there? Etc....
 
Seasoned said:
OK. The situation at the check out line? That's when you, "oops I forgot something," get out of line, come back and get into his line and then say, "hi, I know you from class."
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I agree and this is what I was talking about. you have to find a way to get his attention. don't be afraid to approach him. not trying to be mean but your passing up chances. I think your getting nervous when you get around him and find a way of talking yourself out of making the move. I know its not an easy thing to do but if you really want to get to know him your going to have to take the chance. whats the worst that can happen? he doesn't sound interested? well then you know you tried and can move on. you have some things in common and know some of his friends. it's time to step up to the plate and hit the ball. if you strike out, welcome to the big leagues. it happens to everyone. but you wont have a chance of a home run if you stay on the sidelines.

good luck buddy.

Steven.
 
i am dealing with the same problem.

So i can't help sorry

but hope you get it sorted mate

MartyO xx
 
k - stop making excuses and talk to him - random or not - doesn't matter.

Talk about the weather, gym stuff -- some sports stuff that you may know something about -- the U.S Debt ceiling - SOMETHING - ANYTHING -- Just start talking - a little bit today - a little bit next time -- smile pretty -- you have the goods to do that !! and move forward based on his responses -
if he obviously does NOT want to chat with you - you will know it - and if he does respond "approprately" you will know that too.
nothing to lose - everything to gain -- but you have to make the moves at this point. could be he's even more shy than you ! (gawd - i hope not !)
 
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