Had sex for first time - it was painless??(

[TrixieMattel]

Hey everyone! Brand new member here so I'm not sure if I'm posting this thread in the right section lol but I hope I am. Anyway I'm 19 and I just lost my virginity to this boy that I really like on Sunday night. Yes, I didn't have sex until I was 19. Anyway I'm 19 and he's 21 and he's not a virgin lol and we met on grindr and we had sex the same day we met. We actually had sex in a cemetery so yeah I lost my virginity in a cemetery lol.

Anyway people always talk about anal sex as if it's really painful but for me it really wasn't that bad???? And his dick is really big + we didn't use a condom or lube + I was really nervous. I was actually so nervous that I couldn't get hard lol. I've heard that for anal sex to be painless and enjoyable you need to be relaxed, use lube, etc. But we didn't do any of that but it was still pretty much painless and it felt really good and it was a lot less worse than I thought it was going to be. At one point I did have to tell him to stop for a sec because it hurt but besides that I was fine.

Anyway does anyone know why it didn't hurt for me that much????????? Or is the pain of anal sex really really over exaggerated?????

Also I wanted to add that I've never done anal play before I met this boy. I've stuck my finger in my butt sometimes when I would jerk off but I never even stuck my whole finger in and I never used a Dildo or anything like that lol and he told me I was tight and he said sounded surprised when he said it slid right in lol

 

[rareboy]

The pain is often totally over exaggerated.

Glad you enjoyed it.

 

[eastofeden]

I think it is overexaggerated...or else some people have a low threshold for any kind of pain.

I will skip the bareback lecture...I am sure you already know the risks you took.

 

[dpnice]

I think it is overexaggerated...or else some people have a low threshold for any kind of pain.

I will skip the bareback lecture...I am sure you already know the risks you took.

Even if there is not going to be a lecture I think you should take note of that comment if you return to read the follow-ups to your post.

You are 19 and had your first sexual experience with a stranger which involved anal penetration. You do realise how stupid you were.

Plus I suppose that you are not even considering getting tested just in case.

 

[lambdaboy]

At 19 I knew to use a condom with a stranger espeicially terrible!

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Hopefully having first time sex in a cemetery without a condom isn't an omen of things to come.

Use a damn condom.

 

[mbamike]

I am glad your first time bottoming was painless, but please use a condom the next time. They are free at HIV/STD testing centers.

FYI, my first time bottoming was WONDERFUL. I had very little pain also. However, I did a great deal of prep work.

 

[peeonme]

Some people are able to relax and receive better than others, as for lube, at the risk of sounding kind of gross, if the act was spontaneous and the bottom had not "cleaned out" suffice it to say that sweat and other matter found in that orifice might act as a type of lube.
I never experienced pain, neither did any one I ever topped seem to complain.

 

[TrixieMattel]

Even if there is not going to be a lecture I think you should take note of that comment if you return to read the follow-ups to your post.

You are 19 and had your first sexual experience with a stranger which involved anal penetration. You do realise how stupid you were.

Plus I suppose that you are not even considering getting tested just in case.

Sorry for the late replys but eastofeden and dpnice seriously thanks for your advice I know I should have used a condom and not using one can be dangerous but I do trust this guy. We're still talking and he said he wants to see me soon and hang out again so I'm pretty sure he doesn't have any sets or anything like that lol but I know not using a condom was pretty naive.

 

[TrixieMattel]

Some people are able to relax and receive better than others, as for lube, at the risk of sounding kind of gross, if the act was spontaneous and the bottom had not "cleaned out" suffice it to say that sweat and other matter found in that orifice might act as a type of lube.
I never experienced pain, neither did any one I ever topped seem to complain.

This actually might sound gross Iol but I didn't douche (I think that's how you spell it) Or anything so yeah you're right I wasn't cleaned out. I was actually really embarrased because I got shit on his dick but omg wow I didn't even think the shit inside my ass or sweat could have been like a natural lube omg that's crazy lol wow

 

[Kahaih]

This actually might sound gross Iol but I didn't douche (I think that's how you spell it) Or anything so yeah you're right I wasn't cleaned out. I was actually really embarrased because I got shit on his dick but omg wow I didn't even think the shit inside my ass or sweat could have been like a natural lube omg that's crazy lol wow

Just make sure you always masticate thoroughly – particularly with your nuts.

 

[rareboy]

So OP. You make it sound like you sucked his dick after he was riding dirty.

Is that true?

 

[dpnice]

..................... I know I should have used a condom and not using one can be dangerous but I do trust this guy. ...........................

I am giving you the benefit of the doubt though by doing so that makes you look even more foolish.

"we met on grindr and we had sex the same day we met." Your words, yet you say you trust a complete stranger.

I hope you do meet up again as you say but I now doubt, even though you are aware of the need for condoms, that you will resort to using one after a first unprotected penetration. How can you be so certain about his sexual history seeing you met on grindr and had sex immediately? Does that give you the impression, knowing that he wasn't a virgin, that he is the sort of person who shows concern over the HIV status of his partners? Do you also trust all the other partners he has had even though you have never met them?

Okay he is only 21 so perhaps there is no need to panic but at least talk to him about this before your next sexual experience together and insist on a condom this time. Would you cross a busy street with your eyes shut? Well you are taking the same sort of risk.

 

[tarallucci]

This actually might sound gross [...] I got shit on his dick but omg wow I didn't even think the shit inside my ass or sweat could have been like a natural lube omg that's crazy lol wow

Use a condom next time

 

[TrixieMattel]

So OP. You make it sound like you sucked his dick after he was riding dirty.

Is that true?

Both lol first I sucked his dick at a train station and then we took the train to a huka shop and we cut through a cemetery on the way to the huka place and then I sucked him off again and then we fucked and then I sucked his dick again but only for a second because there was shit on it lol

 

[TrixieMattel]

I am giving you the benefit of the doubt though by doing so that makes you look even more foolish.

"we met on grindr and we had sex the same day we met." Your words, yet you say you trust a complete stranger.

I hope you do meet up again as you say but I now doubt, even though you are aware of the need for condoms, that you will resort to using one after a first unprotected penetration. How can you be so certain about his sexual history seeing you met on grindr and had sex immediately? Does that give you the impression, knowing that he wasn't a virgin, that he is the sort of person who shows concern over the HIV status of his partners? Do you also trust all the other partners he has had even though you have never met them?

Okay he is only 21 so perhaps there is no need to panic but at least talk to him about this before your next sexual experience together and insist on a condom this time. Would you cross a busy street with your eyes shut? Well you are taking the same sort of risk.

Seriously thank you for your advice. I'm getting so many sarcastic dump responses omg wow some people on this website are so immature but wow really thank you. You're right that meeting someone I never met before on grindr and having unprotected sex right away is dangerous and naive but I do like him. We had a really good time and he's a really really sweet cute boy and I trust him.

 

[SaskGuy]

Yea, you really should have used a condom (unless he's never had sex before either). Still, I'm glad you enjoyed it! I'd find a cemetary way too creepy to have sex in though hahaha. But hey, everyone's had sex in a strange place at least once .
Maybe you were so excited in the heat of the moment and you had an adrenaline rush, which hindered the pain.

 

[johaninsc]

Hey everyone! Brand new member here so I'm not sure if I'm posting this thread in the right section lol but I hope I am....

Hi Trixie. Welcome to Jub
I asked the mods to consider moving your thread to a more appropriate forum where you wouldn't be flamed








also, my first time was painless too



second time?...not so much


never use cinnamon flavored lube...big mistake

 

[TrixieMattel]

Hi Trixie. Welcome to Jub
I asked the mods to consider moving your thread to a more appropriate forum where you wouldn't be flamed


also, my first time was painless too

second time?...not so much

never use cinnamon flavored lube...big mistake

Ok thanks! I wasn't sure if I put this thread in the right section but ty!

 

[KaraBulut]

We've moved your thread to the Support/No Flame Zone section of the site where you get appropriate advice for your questions.