had sex with a lesbian

[yuty]

i'm gay, i know i am, but last night me and a group of friends went out and got wasted, i was gone out my head. This girl i'm friends with who is also gay came with us and we were dancing together all night and flirting with each other.
Then one thing leads to another and BAM, were in bed shagging.
i've just woken up and i'm like, WTF. She's just left and i'm in limbo, especially since i'm supposed to be waiting for a guy so i can date him again and she has a girlfriend.
The thing is from what i can remember the sex was great, she was the dominant one (naturally, she is a lesbian) and i was the bitch and it was fantastic.
It wont happen again but if i can do that with one girl what does that say about me as a gay man, or am i just holding back feelings for girls that never left me?
How do you bi guys do it, its head doing!!

You were drunk. Everyone has the "Dear God, what the fuck was I thinking when I was fucking that girl/guy." moment in their life.

From what I understand you got topped (i.e. she was riding you) by a really dominant lesbian. And the dominance was enough for your drunken mind to translate it as masculine.

I've heard all sorts of stories of really butch lesbians having sex with feminine gay guys. The lesbian is butch enough to be perceive as an almost-guy. And the gay guy is feminine enough to be perceived as an almost-girl.

Shit happens...

 

[HartfordGuy]

Yeah don't sweat it.

It was just sex. Both you and her need to go on with your separate lives.

Hopefully you both will still be friends and can laugh about this later.

 

[TaigaStar]

Even without the "We were so drunk," idea, it was sex between two consenting adults who have no attraction to the opposite sex. It was an experimentation. It doesn't make you any less gay. You define your own sexuality, after all.

 

[JoshuaGlynn]

Well Tommy Bisexuality comes in many different flavors, there really is no one right way to be bi.

Some guys, like me, can completely go either way. I'm attracted to the person regardless of their sex.

Some are all about girls for relationships, truth be told, probably prefer Girls, but have no problem with some form of sex with a guy. (some just like to give blowjobs)

Then there is the opposite. The gay guy who fully into guys, and all about the relationship with guys, but has no problem having sex with a girl sometimes.

Actually there are more levels then that, but that is a basic overview. You might be in that last category. Does that make you less gay... not necessarily, just means you like sex! Mainly it might just means you are one of those Gay men that Str8 sex is not a complete turn off...

just food for thought

Joshua

 

[Kyanimal]

WOW! Two HAWT Sexual "Peeps" gettin' "IT" On!! And, apparently, Liking "IT"!!

So ... it took getting Drunk in order to Do "IT"! But, Do "IT" You did, and now you're having second thoughts!

Been there! Done that! And my best advise is to try it again! (Though not completely as Drunk, just "more" Sober, in order to make Sure "IT" is a Fun, and Enjoyable, "Thing", still!)

I mean ... how else can you be Sure to find "Answers" without further experimentation??

Good Luck in Your "Quest"!!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[mark1111]

That happened to me once to. She was in the army.

 

[The Homosepian]

you like the pussy ma dude, nuthin to worry about

 

[danny456]

So you, a fireman (& hot based on your profile), ended up having sex with what sounds like a hot girl ... and the problem is.........

 

[Kulindahr]

Some observations:

At your age, a person's sexuality can often be best define as "horny" -- gender, age, sometimes even species, don't matter, because orgasm is orgasm, the pleasure getting there is pleasure, and your body and emotions just really don't care how those happen.

"One thing led to another" makes it sound like dominoes falling; you're human, and that's not the way it goes....
Except with enough alcohol, your human brain sort of goes on vacation and your animal urges take over. I presume this hasn't happened before, so you weren't forewarned against it -- but now you are. Now you know that flirting + inebriation --> unplanned sex. You know the equation, now, so if it happens again, you were forewarned, and you can't just say "one thing led to another".

For now, don't sweat it, remember the lesson, and enjoy the memory.

 

[TheTrish]

Some observations:

At your age, a person's sexuality can often be best define as "horny" -- gender, age, sometimes even species, don't matter, because orgasm is orgasm, the pleasure getting there is pleasure, and your body and emotions just really don't care how those happen.

Well said.

 

[Kyanimal]

Well said.

Hey, Trish!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[TheTrish]

Hey, Trish!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

* woof, woof *

 

[Kyanimal]

O.K. Kev, and I, have our "fag hags" (str8 females that like Gay Guys), and our Lesbian friends that will "cover" for us in social situations. We've "paired" with female couples, seeming to be "with" each other's partners, for social occassions.

It's all been a "ruse"! And, no!, we haven't "bedded" any of them ... or them, us!

However ... there is one that ... I'll "shut up", now!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[mattA1980]

Unlike the lesbian you slept with, you needed to get physically aroused in order to have sex with her. So, sex with women couldn’t be that much of a turn-off for your supposed gay self.

If a “str8” guy had a similar situation with a gay guy, I wouldn’t say he was str8. He wouldn’t necessarily be gay, but he sure as hell wouldn’t be str8. Likewise, if a “gay” guy sleeps with a woman, and on top of that, enjoyed it, is he really gay? No. You say you’re back to your gay-self, good, but if it’s so easy for you to switch your “gayness” on and off, what’s to prevent you from doing it again?

Some observations:

At your age, a person's sexuality can often be best define as "horny" -- gender, age, sometimes even species, don't matter, because orgasm is orgasm, the pleasure getting there is pleasure, and your body and emotions just really don't care how those happen.

You’re basically saying that sexuality doesn’t exist and that when you’re horny any hole will do to satisfy that need for release. Do people actually believe this, or do they say this to themselves just so they won’t feel guilty for betraying what they thought they were? “I’m still gay (or str8 ). I just really needed to get off and that girl (or guy) was just too much to resist. Besides, I only wanted the hole.”
If your statement was true, at what age do humans get their sexuality? Or does sexuality not exist?

Is this something that most bisexuals believe?

 

[Alive and Free]

Glad to hear you enjoyed it , stranger things have been known to happen !

 

[Pringle]

Oh dear - I am sorry to hear that

What? Don't look at me like that

I can't be the only one thinking - "What a waste and that I wish I was there instead" - this guy is hot

 

[sumyungguy]

Dude, when you're drinking ALL inhibitions go out the window! Same goes for girls too, lez and ESPECIALLY straight chicks. Give em a couple of stiff drinks and they're ready to go (no ruffies that's against the lawLOL!)! yeah no offense to the ladies on here, it's just true for me at least

 

[LarsVenice]

My first boyfriend was bi (He was 18 and I was 21), and he had a girlfriend on the side who said she was lez, but she still had sex with my BF. I didn't mind because we lived in different cities and only got to see each other on visits. He said he was attracted to her because she looked like a boy, and she really did. She even had a butt like a boy. However, she went back to being lez, and my BF eventually tried to be straight, and now is married with children, even though he's still more attracted to men than to women.

 

[NightDayKrauser]

I feel for ya man, cus I just lost my virginity in an acid trip to a lesbo. *side glance* I was like..."erm...dammit."

 

[ELAINE]

I say go with what and how you feel and don't worry about weather you're gay, bi or whatever.