Had sex with my Best Friend... now there might be problems!

[favorhouse]

I'm 18, almost 19, and am gay. I'm out to all of my friends, including my best friend who i've known since grade 4. He was cool with me being gay, and he's always seemed kinda bi, but we've never really talked about it. He's pretty good looking, tall, and he's recently built some muscle doing landscaping.

A couple of weeks ago, we were hanging out at a friend's house for her birthday. There were about 8 of us including my best friend and i. We spent the night around a fire getting drunk and having a good time. Around 3 am my friend decided he wanted to go streaking. We were in a tent, me, my friend, and another girl who is gay. Everyone else had gone inside of the house to sleep. My friend took off all his clothes and ran outside the tent naked. We eventually managed to get him back in the tent, but he was still naked. He then proceeded to give the girl and me massages and then asked for me to give him one. I massaged his back, grabbing his ass a couple times and he seemes to enjoy it.

Then we just laid in the tent for a while talking. My friend and i were extremely drunk, and he would occasionaly roll around the tent trying to "wrestle" us, still naked and sporting an erection. When we all calmed down, he was sitting on his back beside me, still hard. We started talking, and slowly i reached down to stroke his dick. He didn't say anything, but didn't tell me to stop. I stroked him for a while, and we just kept talking. Pretty soon he turned to the girl and said "you're not gonna say anything right?" when she said no, he said "so if we fucked you wouldn't care?" and she said no again. he turned to me and asked if i wanted to , but i asked if it would be okay if i just gave him a blow job. he agreed and i went down on him.

After about a half an hour i stopped. i laid next to him and just rubbed his body, and we drunkenly talked. I went back down to his dick a couple times, just licking it and playing with it. Soon he asked me if i could fuck him, and i said i wasn't sure if i would be comfortable because the girl was in the tent. He said okay, and we just laid there. I couldn't resist though, and soon i was rimming him and then i slowly i started fucking him. i knew he was a virgin so i took it really slow, but soon i started speeding up. he was moaning and pulling me closer. this went on for about 40 minutes, but then i decided to stop. i told him we could do it another day, and we just laid there spooning. we fell asleep around 5, and when i woke up he was gone.

as i laid in the tent he walked back in and said he had slept outside for a few hours. he appeared to be really hungover and didn't say much. the girl had left to go home. we walked out of the tent and started cleaning up around the fire, throwing away empties etc. Soon, everyone had woken up and we all sat around without saying much. My friend asked if someone could take him home, and then he left.

that was 2 weeks ago. since then, we've talked only once. we used to talk every day on msn or we'd hang out. he's never online, and when i asked if he was avoiding me he said he was just "busy and tired". i don't want a relationship, and i don't have feelings for him besides friendship. i just want to talk to him to make things less weird. he's leaving in the end of august for newfoundland, and i won't see him for a while. i really want to enjoy the rest of the summer with my friends!

did i do something wrong? how can i have a mature conversation with him?? hopefully someone here has gone through this and can help me out... it was probably a stupid drunken mistake and i don't want it to ruin years of friendship.

 

[payit4ward]

It probably was a mistake but arrange to talk to him and explain that it was because of the alcohol and the fact that you were both naked and reinforce to him that you like him only as a friend and you don't want things to be weird or strained between the two of you but the answer to your question is that no you didn't do anything wrong he was the first one to remove his clothing,he was the ne that asked you to have sex with him so in reality he initiated the situation and you are not at fault.

 

[biggdickthug]

wow! that's a hawt story!

sorry idk what to tell to make the situation better but "payit4ward" did a gud job!

 

[chillyboi]

Not having read the post, It's a no brainer that sex does not mix with friends!

 

[Marc28]

I also had sex with an awesome, good friend of mine. We were really, really close. Dude was cool as hell. One night after work, we drank and drank and drank...somehow, we began talking about sex, then gay people....suddenly we were having sex. It was GREAT! But, after that, we never really spoke again. He was the coolest guy I ever knew....I regret that day.

 

[videoboi08]

I feel you, I had sex with a guy friend but we are still friends but we were not close friends we hung out with each other and stuff and had thins in common, i 2 THOUGHT IT would be strange after we did it but no he's still one of my coolest guy friends.

go up to your friend and make him talk to you about it (with force) it might seem harsh but its the only way for you to get it out of him I'm sure it will work out.

 

[Marc28]

That's some great advice videoboi!

 

[mike_n_herrin]

i don't think the "force" part is a good idea. he may not be in a place mentally yet to deal with it. he may still be trying to figure out if/what it meant. it might mean nothing, but he may not realize that yet. i would try and talk to him though. just tell him you guys were drunk and that was that. doesn't necessarily mean anything.

 

[videoboi08]

i don't think the "force" part is a good idea. he may not be in a place mentally yet to deal with it. he may still be trying to figure out if/what it meant. it might mean nothing, but he may not realize that yet. i would try and talk to him though. just tell him you guys were drunk and that was that. doesn't necessarily mean anything.

LOL yeah you have a point, your advice works too.

 

[vegetaishott2003]

This reminds of High School when I kept asking this question to myself....the question being:

What would of happened......?


Try looking for him.....don't message him or call him since there might chance that he won't respond......it's better to do it face-to-face and talk to him. But then if both of you are really good friends, it shouldn't have mattered....unless he's had feelings for you and doesn't know how to say it. But it's better just to talk to him first before making any conclusion......and then ask him 'What would of happened........?'

Just make sure to be calm

 

[quasar]

Have you spoken to the girl who was there? Has he? As mike n herrin has said, he might not be in the right place mentally to talk about it as he may not have fully processed his own feelings on what happened that night.

As payit4ward states, he basically initiated the nudity, was alert enough to ask the girl if she minded what was going on, and was prepared and willing for things to have gone further - therefore, you are not at fault (unless someone wants to quibble and say that you shouldn't have put your friendship in jeopardy).

You clearly miss the friendship, and I think so does he. If he had a major issue with what happened - he would probably have made it clear by now. The stalling in talking to you - I think - is that he doesn't know where to begin, and/or is frightened what might be said and what the outcome might be.

You're going to have to take the lead and insist that the two of you discuss the events.

However, their is also the possibility that the friendship may never be what it was, and YOU need to be prepared for that outcome.

Either way, August isn't very far away, don't waste the chance for what may be some wonderful memories by prolonging it.

 

[rareboy]

It is the problem with alcohol and desire.

 

[On The Edge]

I say I think his trying to figure himself out..& seeing u may remind him..give him a bit of time then speak to him..be honest..u feel it's a 'probably a stupid drunken mistake and i don't want it to ruin years of friendship.' let him know u think that..f u honestly feel that..good luck..