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Harmless or Not Harmless

I vote for NOT harmless.

If it was done behind your back, and you've already expressed disapproval, then it is definitely not okay (at least for me). I'd be pissed too.
 
cam2011 said:
Me and my partner have been together 11 years. Recently he has been texting nude pics and emailing pics. When i asked about all i was told is that it was just talk and harmless. This all is being done without me knowing secretly. We do not have a open relationship or anything like that. Now give me your opinion, Is it harmless or not? Is this right or wrong doing this when in a committed relationship?
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Well i asked him why he was doing this and he says he does not know why he is doing it. So what does everyone think about this?
 
Duh... come on... we all know why he is doing it.

And only you can decide whether you are okay with it.
 
Well obviously this was not done without you knowing about it, since you obviously do.

Even to the point where you said you put up profiles on these sites of the two of you?

HUH?

Yeah, that's kind of confusing.
 
You know, if your relationship has come to the point where he's not honest with you, and you're spying on him...

Well, that kind of tells it's own story.
 
TX-Beau said:
Well obviously this was not done without you knowing about it, since you obviously do.

Even to the point where you said you put up profiles on these sites of the two of you?

HUH?

Yeah, that's kind of confusing.
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The profile was for the both of us to chat etc. openly , instead of secretly but apparently he prefers alone. He insisted he does not know why he does it. Myself it would be to meet or it turns me on or something.
 
TX-Beau said:
You know, if your relationship has come to the point where he's not honest with you, and you're spying on him...

Well, that kind of tells it's own story.
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Well I asked him what he wants, all i get is" what do you want". Ive asked if he wanted to go seperate ways a while, or open relationship still nothing.
 
lucky7 said:
Enough if this no answer B.S.

You need to sit down and have a serious talk. You've been together 11 years so I'm assuming you're both adults.

So you need to have an adult conversation and see if this relationships can survive and if so, where it's going.
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Yes we are adults, and yes I ask questions and I get a question in response, no answers!!! Maybe he wants me to make the decision that way he will not have any regrets down the road. Once he moved out cause he did not know what he wanted and was back a week later. Several times he has said "he did not know what he wanted" and we sorta went seperate ways but still living together and sleeping in seperate beds, and when I started going out and doing my own thing and not coming home some nights he wanted to be a couple again..
 
If it bothers you, it's having an effect on you that is harmful. Talk to him. In my experience this is cheating, and leads to physical cheating.
 
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