Has a straight man ever led you on?

[Toy-Boy]

Look, I'm not one of those type of gay men who lust after straight men in hopes of "turning them out." However, I do feel as though some straight men unknowingly lead gay men on and give them false hope. Yes, a straight man and gay man can have a strictly platonique frienship, but it's possible for the gay man to develop feelings for the straight men, seeing as how it's another attractive man that is kind towards them. It's not different then when straight women develop crushes on their guy friends.

And stories?

 

[texpatriot]

Yes, and no.

My best-friend since middle school is as straight as the day is long!

I know that he loves me more than probably any boyfriend that I've ever had.

It doesn't help that he's hot as hell!

But he's never led me on!

Now I have a lot of gay friends that will tell you that my best-friend has led them on.

And frankly it's because I think that he likes the attention.

 

[TX-Beau]

Look, I'm not one of those type of gay men who lust after straight men in hopes of "turning them out." However, I do feel as though some straight men unknowingly lead gay men on

I think it's possible that there are staight men who knowingly lead gey men on. In fact I'm sure of it.

...platonique...

A new fragrance by Calvin Klein....






Sorry I just couldn't resist.

 

[magicman84]

I've never been led on by a straight guy but..

Before he moved, my best friend (a straight guy) always used to go to gay bars with me. He falls into that nice category of being good looking enough to stand out in a crowd but so not hot as to be intimidating. So, at gay bars he would get a lot of attention. Guys would just come up and start talking to him. He's a very friendly and an extrovert, so he'd usually chat them up. He got bought LOTS of drinks by guys. He never came out and said he wasn't gay, but he didn't correct their assumptions either, because he liked getting free drinks, and though he never admitted it, I think he just liked the attention too.

 

[aijalon18]

I think moreso than straight guys leading them on, gay/bi guys read into things too much. A lot of gay guys often interpret straight guys innocently being friendly or affectionate as flirting.

 

[crubbed]

In a word: YES.

 

[Corny]

No, quite the contrary

 

[billybob109]

Everyday.. i especially love when they say dont tell my girlfriend while their dick is in your mouth.

 

[evanrick]

its kinda like when a hot girl goes into a bar, all the guys buy her drinks but what if shes a lesbian, same kind of thing.

 

[alexthegreat]

Yes.

 

[terps420]

I think I'm being led on by a straight guy right now actually. I really hope not though.

P.S. Alexthegreat, if that's really what you look like... I would "lead you on" too; oh man. I would "lead" the shit out of you and then some.

 

[tonym86]

I think there's some that do it cause they like the attention, some that do it cause they think it's funny to screw with the gay dudes.

I also think a lot of gay guys, myself included, read into things too much sometimes.

There was a guy in school I liked when I started my computer classes a few years ago. We got along really well, he would always sit near me and talk to me. So, of course, I got a crush on him. Till one day we were talking about some cool new gadget, and he says "Yeah, but I'm saving my money to get married after school." I sure hope that I didn't have the crushed look on my face that I felt like I did!!

Why do they have such a hold on us???

 

[subfer1]

I dunno, but I have been lead on. He was my classmate, hot, beautiful eyes, face, body, and he was funny too. Bastard knew a friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a long time, so he knew I was gay (I didn't know they even were acquainted back then), and as he was failing the class, big time, he lead me on so I would help him pass it. The day he got his grade, he stopped talking to me and showed his true colors. Then one day I mentioned him to our mutual friend and she said "I didn't even know you knew him!" and we figured it all out.

 

[Slips01]

Yes, a straight man can lead you on with out knowing. It happen to me. I develop strong feels toward a co-work because of the leading on. But if they are really straight then theres no way that they know they are leading you on.

 

[irudesan]

What do you mean by lead on? Is that like giving you weird signs or something? Could someone explain it to me? sorry english isnt my first language.

Well, if thats the case, yes, actually right now i have a friend like that, but i think that is mostly because he is single and im single too, and he doesnt have that many friends. We go to eat almost everyday (we dont work together or anything), we talk by phone just to say hi, like for 2-3 minutes everyday, he tells me to phone him when i get home just to know i got safely, things like that. But he always says some straight commentary, so i know its just affection. Fortunately ive learnt to not to fall in love with straight men years ago (in the hard way btw). I think we are both just enjoying the attention. Maybe it doesnt have to do much with being gay or straight, but with the need to share things or feel valued by other person.

 

[MoDo88]

Yes, a straight man can lead you on with out knowing. It happen to me. I develop strong feels toward a co-work because of the leading on. But if they are really straight then theres no way that they know they are leading you on.

That's exactly my opinion on the subject, too. If you know a guy is straight, but he's really nice towards you, and maybe sometimes even flirty/affectionate - then you have no one but yourself to blame for falling for him. Now, I know that a lot of times we can't control who we fall for, and that's not to say you need to feel bad about yourself for falling for a straight guy - shit like that happens from time to time, and I hope that eventually you'll get over it. But don't be going around accusing straight guys of leading you on when in reality you were just looking too far into them being friendly and nice towards you.

More gay guys need to realize that just because a straight guy might be friendly or even somewhat flirty with them does NOT make him bi-curious or on the down low. Yes, people - there are some straight guys who are just that confident with their sexuality, so much that they can comfortably carry on relationships with gay guys and not have a complex about it.

 

[skinnylittledipper]

Here is my side of it. I know I have led guys on. But not intentionally.

It may be just male bonding, or he might be interested in guys but not interested in sex with you. I have seen both sides if the coin. I was with lots of guys that I was not interested in, but know they wanted more from me.

That was me during a lot of my younger years. I am bi, I thought I was gay, thought I was straight, thought I was gay, thought I was straight. It depended on who I was with, or had a crush on. I was confused about my sexuality so that could be a lot of it. But I had crushes on guys too, at the same time some guy was crushing on me, and I knew it. But if I was not attracted to him he got nowhere, we would just be friends. I once read a quote, " I am Bi and not attracted to you."

I thought giving head and anal sex was gross. So it took a while to open my eyes. In many ways I was just not ready. That was most of my teens, and 20's. had my first boyfriend at age 30. he wanted to be with me as bad as i wanted to be with him. But he was Bi like me, it was fun while it lasted.