Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do it)

[CaliSurfBoy]

has any1 had a guy suddenly start ignoring your calls? without any prior indication that something was wrong?
heres how our little relationship timeline went about

prior to meeting we would talk hours on the phone and it was like we had this amazing chemistry and so meeting each other was a really exciting event...

day 1: we met for the first time and he kept saying how attractive i was. everything was great we cuddled and made out and during this he kept saying how much he liked me and asked me if i would even be his bf...i didnt answer because i told him that he didnt know what he wanted...after i left he called me to let me knwo that our date was" perfect" and that he couldnt wait to c me again.

day 2: we chat on the phone and he follows up on his previous "will u be my boyfriend question"and i tell him to wait until he knows for sure and he said he knows for sure and i said well see. he asks me to come see him and i had previous plans so i told him i couldnt and he was totally cool with that

day 3: we hang out everything is great he tells me how much he missed me. he wants to hold my hand in public and when we were hanging out with a big group of friends he kept asking me to sit next to him and he would put his arm around me and act like i was "his" ..throughout the whole night he would keep checking up on me and was very afffectionate...

day 4: the next day i text him two times and the replies i get are very "short" one word two word answers. i find that awkward so later on i call him at night ...2x and no reply.


basically now hes suddenly ignoring me and i have so many questions left unanswered

can someone speak from experience? or has anyone been on the other side and ignored someone without any warninng whatsoever? please lets talk im really confused about this...

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

We covered this in another thread.

You've contacted him several times.
He'll call you when he can. Or wants to. If he doesn't, that's your answer.

Lex

 

[Grey_Sky]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

Not that I think he's right, but IMO he just got tired of waiting...

All the time you two spent toghether he kept trying to get closer to you and you always shutted him down, it can be quite frustrating. He might just have moved on to look for someone who actually answer his needs... Sorry.

 

[CaliSurfBoy]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

Not that I think he's right, but IMO he just got tired of waiting...

All the time you two spent toghether he kept trying to get closer to you and you always shutted him down, it can be quite frustrating. He might just have moved on to look for someone who actually answer his needs... Sorry.

i didnt shut him down i was very responsive to his "closeness"
i was very affectionate towards him...and he was responsive to that and was very affectionate towards me..

 

[CaliSurfBoy]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

We covered this in another thread.

You've contacted him several times.
He'll call you when he can. Or wants to. If he doesn't, that's your answer.

Lex

if he doesnt call me back it means he doesnt want to talk to me but it doesnt answer WHY .

 

[bluebc]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

Cali...I understand your situation, and it is unfortunate. However, I also agree with G-Lex and that you just have to wait for his response. I realize these aren't the advice or answers you want to hear, and it is tough especially when you are falling for someone. If you can be patient, you'll get your answer either way.

 

[racer2438]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

even though you responded back as you say , maybe he wanted more of a responce than you gave him. Yet he did not communicate this. So maybe he took it as a cold shoulder. He may be insecure and does not know how to express what he wanted.

So just wait and see is all you can do. Call leave mssg and let him know you call again (if he doesnt answer). Then jsut wait. If he doesnt call it wasnt ment to be and keep going forward. He may have been more needy than you who knows????

 

[ByronMc]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

IMO, it sounds to me like this guy wants a possession, not a boyfriend. Someone to do his bidding...what HE wants when HE wants it. Seems to me like you may have escaped a situation that could turn bad very quickly. In any case, if you do end up talking again, ask him what he means when he says "boyfriend." That can mean anything from a fu*kbuddy to a life parnter and a lot in between. Get your expectations on the same wave length before you commit to anyone or anything. That's by 2 cents.

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

I admit to having just ignored a guys calls before i've done it twice, both times the guy wanted to be married at hello. After explaining i wanted to talk things slow, and they didn't get it, and they still smothered me, i would do the whole...we need to see other people. If they still call, they get put str8 to voicemail. I've had it be reversed.

I think you should let it play out...see what happens, maybe he's super busy, maybe he's sick. Ya never know. If an huge amount of time passes tho...just forget him and move on to the next cutie.

 

[billybob109]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

yes it has happened to me

 

[Alberto_15]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

Well right now I have this one who continues to call. He is really nice but I am frankly a little concerned with this consistent calling and texting. We had two dates (about a week apart each) but after the second date I was convinced I did not want him as anything other than a friend.

Make a long story short, after I lost my phone for two days and then ignored his calls and txt msgs for another 7 days I felt bad and I texted him back saying I would call him the next day... what does he do? he texted me back saying that wanted me to be his valentine's!!! IS HE CRAZY!!! Talk about lack of common sense!!! he continued to call after yet another four or five days of ignored calls and txt msgs!

All the calling and texting is such a turn off and just down right annoying. The one thing I regret is not being more clear on how I felt about him.

 

[Vaughn642]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

I dated a guy for a little bit (a week or 2) who always wanted me to call him and talk for hours. That is just sooo overbearing and creepy. I like some emotional space when starting a relationship. Yea so that relationship didnt last long...

 

[MrCreative]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

At first it really does hurt to get ignored like that, but its happened to me once. I learned from the situation and moved on. If he doesn't return your calls in a few days then i'd say to move on and maybe he'll return your calls when you least expect him to or something. lol :]

 

[CagedBird]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

..."suddenly start ignoring...."?

Yup!. However I must keep in mind there are many variables for this situation.

I'm dating my first & only man for nearly a year now. Our relation is likely different
from the context of thread starters....but I cant but help but respond to the component of ignored phone calls. We both still play phone tag & often "torture" each other with delayed phone responses. Funny that, we are both "mature' in age yet still play cat 'n mouse with each other. In the end we love each other & have a
monogamous relationship that still burns hot & passionate [yet love to play hard to get w/each other]. Go figure, but don't give up.........

 

[CagedBird]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

IMO, it sounds to me like this guy wants a possession, not a boyfriend. Someone to do his bidding...what HE wants when HE wants it. Seems to me like you may have escaped a situation that could turn bad very quickly. In any case, if you do end up talking again, ask him what he means when he says "boyfriend." That can mean anything from a fu*kbuddy to a life parnter and a lot in between. Get your expectations on the same wave length before you commit to anyone or anything. That's by 2 cents.

Words of GOLD!

 

[Martkell2007]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

My boyfriend and I play the cat and mouse game. I hate dramatic arguments so when Im upset I get quiet and shutdown and he tries to get me top open up. But I don't speak much until Im feeling better about things because I dont want to say something I'll regret later.

I was upset about an incident last night and didn't talk to him today. He sent me two messages. He can tell when im really upset, and knows he's on thin ice, so he's careful about what he says and often uses playful banter to try and reopen communication. I kept my phone off so his usual phone calls at lunch didn't come through. At the end of the day I sent him a txt saying "hope you have a better day I love you."

 

[bigpayback]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

I haven't really ignored calls on a regular basis, but I've ignored a few. I was buzzed one night and I made out with this guy and he ended up sleeping in my bed into the morning. We didn't have sex because we didn't have condoms. LOL He's from a different country and once I was completely sober, I decided that even though he's nice, I'd rather be with a person who knows the English language better. It sounds mean, but I can hardly understand him sometimes and I keep asking him to repeat himself, and that gets annoying. Basically, it's a "lost in translation" experience.

 

[barefootbob]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

me too,

I get the:
"I have to take the dog and have his oil changed" - I'll call you later

"I have to take the truck to the vet" - I'll give you a call later on

etc ...

shit if things didn't go well or you think I'm fugly or a loser or what ever, SAY SO it is far better than silence or broken promiseses

 

[CaliSurfBoy]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

Well right now I have this one who continues to call. He is really nice but I am frankly a little concerned with this consistent calling and texting. We had two dates (about a week apart each) but after the second date I was convinced I did not want him as anything other than a friend.

Make a long story short, after I lost my phone for two days and then ignored his calls and txt msgs for another 7 days I felt bad and I texted him back saying I would call him the next day... what does he do? he texted me back saying that wanted me to be his valentine's!!! IS HE CRAZY!!! Talk about lack of common sense!!! he continued to call after yet another four or five days of ignored calls and txt msgs!

All the calling and texting is such a turn off and just down right annoying. The one thing I regret is not being more clear on how I felt about him.

what do u mean u regret not being more clear with him??

did u mislead him??? did u tell him how attracted u were to him like my guy did to me? did u tell him how beautiful he was and lay it on extra thick ?

or is there no reason why he would be all over u like he is?

 

[CaliSurfBoy]

Re: Has any1 had a guy "suddenly" start ignoring ur calls? (or hav U been the 1 to do

I dated a guy for a little bit (a week or 2) who always wanted me to call him and talk for hours. That is just sooo overbearing and creepy. I like some emotional space when starting a relationship. Yea so that relationship didnt last long...

how did u treat him during those first 2 weeks though? did u smother him with affection?
this guy was smothering me and i sorta liked it and now that im doing it back its like hes backing off..