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I am hoping that I am not the only person to have done this. Now I have been out for a over a year now. I have never had a boyfriend but it is not like I have not tried. Now I went Catholic schools so the classes were smaller than a normal high school. I only knew of one other person that was gay and we both knew that nothing would ever develope other than friendship, we didn't even need to have a first date. The only other kid that I know is gay, I will never date because before I met him he was too much to handle and also now my stalker. To this day those are the only two people I know that are gay.

Now every single time that I end up liking a guy, of course he is straight so I end up having to go through the whole routine of having to distance myself to just make it friendship. I think that it is because I surround myself with straight guys just, I mean I don't mean to, It just sort of happens that way. Everyone is telling me that it happens to more than me but I know of now one. And the others tell me to try a gay dating service. I don't know what should I do about this and also want to know if other people had done this within the first or second year they came out.
 
Gay guys tend not to go door-to-door looking for other gay guys to date. You have to let them know you're on the market. There are several ways to go about it. You can try online dating services, or online hook-up services, if you'd rather have sex than date. You can join some gay groups and get to know people. Or you can just befriend some gay folks. Up to you.

Lex
 
MoltenRock said:
It's damn hard to meet someone "gay" when you aren't out yourself and don't risk "your secret" by going to gay clubs, joining a gay sports team, going out on dates, etc.
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Judging by your avatar, you can't tell me you have trouble getting dates. :eek:
 
I just came out about 2 months ago, and met my boyfriend on a online dating site, and i could not be happier that i joined that site because i would of never met the guy of my dreams. don't push away online dating just because of the stigma with it. Youll be susprised about the guys in your area. i come from a small town and there were at least 6 from my area and my boyfriend only live 1 hour and 45 mins away from me. so just try it youll be happy you did..
 
same boat here. My girl friends tell me I need to get laid, or meet gay people who I can talk to, who have gone through the same things. I swear one of these days they are gonna drag me into a gay bar!
 
I have crushes on straight guys all the time…
I had a crush on my biology teacher
I had a crush on my german teacher
I had a crush on my coach
I had a crush on half of the senior-team of our sportsclub…

They all wore off…i just got used to it.
 
There have likely been several gay men in your classes who you didn't pick up on because they didn't fit the stereotype. Just expand your horizons. Go to gay community centers and organizations. We're all out there, just look around!
 
There are really only three options for meeting gay men to date:

1. In your real day-to-day life. If you have a good gaydar sometimes it may be possible to meet some guys this way.

2. Go to gay bars, or gay organizations like LGBTA, GSA, whatever the hell they're calling it where you are.

3. Online

Personally, I've resorted to number 3. Number 1 has never worked for me. There tend to not be many obviously gay or openly gay men doing the things I'm interested in. Number 2 is not really my thing. I don't like clubbing or hanging out in bars really. I've never been too huge into the gay organizations either. Just not really my thing. Meeting guys online has been the best option for me. Yeah, you'll meet a lot of crazy people, but no more so than in real life. If you're interested in actually dating & not just hookups, I would suggest gay.com or okcupid.com. I've been surprised with manhunt.net also... I've met a couple decent guys there.
 
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