Has anyone here spontaneously changed their sexuality?

[wonderwort]

I've only heard two stories, first hand, of this happening befor.

I female friend, a few years back, told her co-workers( I was part of her audience) non challantly that she now was a lesbian after spending many years married to a man.

A current female friend told me that while she was a teenager she was a lesbian and now she 100% straight.


I really don't know how prevalent or real these types of situations are. I never bother to ask either friend ---did the change in orientation come gradually or spontaneously .

(Im happy as a gay man....and not trying to turn straight)

 

[nycguydowntown]

This happens all the time with females ---they go from lesbo to str and back again---some of my friends have turned lesbian after a bad breakup with a guy---they after 6 months go back to dick---Guys don't usually do this--although I met a really cute guy once and took him home---He seemed really new to this--when we got home he told me his girlfriend just went lesbian and he was so brokenhearted he wanted to try the gay thing, too. It was obvious he wasn't gay but depressed.

 

[refujiunderground]

I've only heard two stories, first hand, of this happening befor.

I female friend, a few years back, told her co-workers( I was part of her audience) non challantly that she now was a lesbian after spending many years married to a man.

A current female friend told me that while she was a teenager she was a lesbian and now she 100% straight.


I really don't know how prevalent or real these types of situations are. I never bother to ask either friend ---did the change in orientation come gradually or spontaneously .

(Im happy as a gay man....and not trying to turn straight)

but chances are if someone does that, they're just confused with themselves or are just bicurious.

from what i can gather now, if you are unsure about your sexual orientation, it's very easy to fall into that boat. your friends are probably bisexual if anything.

 

[FanofFiction]

I don't really believe in anyone having the ability to change their sexuality. I think some people are bisexual but don't want to identify as such, so they go for long periods of time as either straight or gay and then switch.

This is a dangerous concept; totally overhauling one's latent sexuality. If you want to argue in favor of this you then open the door to conservatives and radicals who demand that all gay people change to conform with heteronormative culture. If we admit that anyone can turn gay, then we are falsely confessing that it is totally reasonable for us to turn straight. In supporting this idea, we give a great deal of power to people like Michelle Bachmann and her loon of a husband. NARTH and others are justified once we admit that our sexuality is a choice.

 

[hermanding]

doesn't 'spontaneous' mean something like an action occurring suddenly? Like, in 2 minutes, a person switches? I cannot imagine that happening, certainly not to me.

 

[refujiunderground]

I don't really believe in anyone having the ability to change their sexuality. I think some people are bisexual but don't want to identify as such, so they go for long periods of time as either straight or gay and then switch.

This is a dangerous concept; totally overhauling one's latent sexuality. If you want to argue in favor of this you then open the door to conservatives and radicals who demand that all gay people change to conform with heteronormative culture. If we admit that anyone can turn gay, then we are falsely confessing that it is totally reasonable for us to turn straight. In supporting this idea, we give a great deal of power to people like Michelle Bachmann and her loon of a husband. NARTH and others are justified once we admit that our sexuality is a choice.

excellent point.

 

[frankfrank]

I have a friend who claims that he instantly (in the course of less than a day) changed from entirely straight to entirely gay, back in 1981. He had raised a family with three children, and was entirely happy in the marriage, and suddenly his hormones (or something) changed. He's a pretty intelligent guy who, I don't think, has any reason to lie.

He changed when he suddenly decided to go to a gay bar (Woody's in Toronto), and on that one and only try he met the guy who he is still monogamously partnered with. He claims that he has NO sexual feelings of any kind toward dudes until he suddenly, on that fateful day, decided to take a side trip from Buffalo, and travel "to a foreign country" and go to a gay bar.

Whether or not he had the latency all along, he may not have been aware of it at all. He didn't have any kind of traumatic event happen, such as a huge argument with his wife, and it seems that nothing in particular made this happen to him.

Because of this, I've said before that I believe that even those ex-Gay ministries, etc., can ON RARE!!! OCCASIONS, help somebody to change. But it's rare - how often - maybe once out of 300 or 1,400 times??? There is no question that these ministries cause HARM, by many times over, whatever good or whatever "cures" they effect.

 

[Telstra]

Nope, never heard one.
I agreed with FanofFiction that it is dangerous idea ...

 

[Asenath]

I think sexuality is a lot more fluid & situational than people want to acknowledge. So, what seems to be a sudden explosion of straightness or gaiety was probably a long time coming. Although I doubt it actually happens more in women - I think there is this cultural idea that women's sexuality is more fluid, but mostly I bet it's men not talking about their experiences.

 

[scream4ever]

A college professor of mine was married to a man for several years, then suddenly said she turned lesbian. She has been in a relationship with a woman for many years now. She mentioned something called ambisexual, where a person's sexuality can change. I'm not sure if I believe it.

I also went to high school with a girl who identified as a lesbian. She was even in a relationship with another girl and they went to dances and everything. Now as a young adult she says she's very much straight, and is in a relationship with a man.

I guess I believe that people like these two are really just bisexual, and they identify more with one orientation at one time then another.

 

[ibill1]

I don't really believe in anyone having the ability to change their sexuality. I think some people are bisexual but don't want to identify as such, so they go for long periods of time as either straight or gay and then switch.

This is a dangerous concept; totally overhauling one's latent sexuality. If you want to argue in favor of this you then open the door to conservatives and radicals who demand that all gay people change to conform with heteronormative culture. If we admit that anyone can turn gay, then we are falsely confessing that it is totally reasonable for us to turn straight. In supporting this idea, we give a great deal of power to people like Michelle Bachmann and her loon of a husband. NARTH and others are justified once we admit that our sexuality is a choice.

Boy are these two a real mess. Anyhow, I don't understand any of this. I've liked guys since I can remember and thats never wavered. I kind of feel sorry for people who can't decide what they want. It's truly baffling to me. Now, if your bi and comfortable with both then fine. But when you get pissed and decide you are going to sleep with another sex just makes no sense to me.
I can't imagine being that knotted up inside all the time. Pussy, cock, pussy, cock, please someone just shoot me. I think there are way deeper reasons for these constant changes it what one believes is their sexuality. God bless them.

 

[frankfrank]

^ I don't think that most bisexual people are "[all] knotted up inside" - my guess is that one who is truly bisexual is just as capable of accepting huis/her own pansexuality, as a gay or straight person is in accepting their own. When I say "truly bisexual" I'm talking about those who are dead-smack-in-the-middle of the Straight-to-Gay continuum, or close to it.

A bisexual person can be a good ways from that middle ground, but that person will predominately go for one gender.

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As far as a person spontaneously changing their own gender preference without trying (and going directly from "all of one" to "all of the other"), I believe that it can happen, as I mentioned above.

However, I think that it is EXTREMELY RARE. And I don't think that Exodus International and such ministries make it any more likely to happen.