Have a huge crush on this new guy at work

[Junosoda]

For those who don't know, I'm currently an Active Duty for the USAF. There is this new guy who just came on to this base and I think he's fucking hot and I have a major crush on him. I don't really work with him but could see him many times if he ever comes to my department. He does lives in the same dorm as I do.

I'm not really sure what to do. Since he came here, we been very good friends; almost like a Bro. There are other few bro male couple here (straight) that are very close to each other, in a non-gay kind of way (even though they do act like it). It's very hard to say, but he sort of some sort of vibe that he may be gay and might is into me (hopefully); I can't even describe it. We went to the same party together and he talked to me for most of the night as he sometimes look straight into my eyes. Prior that day, we played basketball and it was shirt vs. skins and he had a great body with his shirt off.

The next time we met, he invited me to his room to show me the UFC video game and Witcher 2 that he really wanted me to borrow so badly. We also played video games together (just the 2 of us) in the day/break room in the dorms earlier that day. For my birthday which was 3 days ago, he came out to lunch with us even though he didn't buy any food since his debit card infomation got stolen and was waiting for a replacement in the mail.

I'm actually just rambling on and on right now so I apologize for the spelling and punctuation errors, but I'm unsure what is the next step. What if he is just straight and just looking for a best friend like me to talk to just hang out with all the time? But what if he is gay, and is into me, but since we are both military and both closeted, maybe he's in the exact same situation as I. Should I tell him that I'm gay and have a crush on him? Should I just keep quiet and just be only good friends with him? I'm just a tad bit concerned becuase he is still new. He will meet new people and make new friends soon (which is okay), but I'm just afraid that he will find someone new to hang out with and then possibily forget about me since we do work different hours.

 

[Junosoda]

I am not sure if I'm aloud to post this, but let me know if I can't so I can delete it asap, but here is what he looks like.

 

[USEDCAR]

Im stealing him from you

Its hard to tell, He just sounds like a friendly straight guy if otherwise just take it slow and don't try anything on him he seems like a very nice guy.

 

[Yooper]

Advice: Don't shit where you eat. (Relationships at work are always a bad idea. Rarely they work, but they are a bad idea).

Notation: Probably not a hot idea to post his photo on a website w/o permission.

That being said, it is always nice to have good friends, especially in your work environment.

 

[Corny]

I am not sure if I'm aloud to post this.

No, you're not allowed. But even if you were .. just imagine your crush might be gay AND like you. And then he discovers that you posted his pics here. How do you think he would react ..

 

[AlmondMilk]

Awww keep it as a bromance. I also don't think a relationship wouldn't be a good idea :/

 

[HunterM]

Keep hanging out with him. Be a great friend to him. You two might end up to be best friends. Find out his relationship status. Ask if he misses his girlfriend at home (you're assuming he already has a girlfriend to open up the conversation). If he doesn't have a girlfriend, he'll probably tell you.

 

[Junosoda]

He told me that he was with his ex girlfriend for 2 years and was almost married. But being closeted, I said I had an ex GF too. I even had a fake GF during that time to in which I arranged everyone to meet during dinner.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm not getting much blip on the gaydar...which of course some would read as proof positive that he's gay, masculine and closeted. I guess you should confront the main question - let's say he's straight, and not interested in "experimenting". Will you be totally cool with that?

Lex

 

[Junosoda]

Well it's sorta difficult to explain. We just hung out with each other. If he is straight, that would be just fine as well.

 

[hurriwelli]

Oh dude - been down this road three times. I ended up quitting my job and moving to another country to "find" myself again.

 

[HunterM]

Don't think too far ahead. Get to know him. Just be a good friend to him and see how it goes 3 months from now.

 

[G-Lexington]

Then there's no problem.

Lex

 

[lolalola70]

i was in the military too, and my experience says you're prolly not as closeted as u think u are. he probably already knows your business and if he was into you why wouldn't he let u know it? you've been alone together. good luck!

 

[Junosoda]

Well I got to know him better. He's definatly straight. Guess we will just be good friends/Bro's/Bromance.

 

[HunterM]

^ That's not bad either. This could turn out to be a life long friendship.

 

[Ganoderma]

hi Junosoda,

So why are you -still- in the closet, and why are you indeed sure that no one over there will have his found out / or has his thoughts that you are gay? Do you have plans to come out?

Should I tell him that I'm gay?

Yes, as he can never be considered your 'good friend', when you keep hiding / lying to him about this topic. Any idea about his thoughts about gay guys?

Should I tell him that I have a crush on him?

No.

Should I just keep quiet and just be only good friends with him?

Up to you, but please realize that you cannot be a good friend with a guy (lets assume he is straight) when you keep hiding / lying about an important topic as your own sexuality.

He told me that he was with his ex girlfriend for 2 years and was almost married. But being closeted, I said I had an ex GF too. I even had a fake GF during that time to in which I arranged everyone to meet during dinner.

So you are lying, but that does not automatically mean that he was lying. Please be aware that alot of sweet & sexy & handsome & friendly (etc.) guys are straight (and often guys who don't bother that one or more of their friends is a gay guy).

Good luck and take care.

Feel free to react.