have crush on my best friend

[Appleman34]

Unfortunately the decision was made for us. My friend and his girlfriend were both killed in a car accident a few weeks into their relationship. It messed me up for a long time, because I was in no way out to my family or any other of my friends, so while everyone knew I was grieving for my best friend, they had no idea there was much more to it then that. Due to the line of work I am in, which actually is public safety now, I still dont talk about all the pain I went through back then with my friends. I know they are not stupid, I have not had a gf in as long as they know me, but I keep my personal life to myself. It sucks. Thats why I love this forum and being able to talk to others.

Wow, that is terrible I'm so sorry to hear that. Hope you're doing well now.

 

[Appleman34]

Thanks for your story that helps a little I guess nothing has happened nothing it's hard I just can't stop thinking about him I love him so much and want to be with him how did you finally get over your best friend I just don't know what to do I just can't get over I can't change my feelings about him it drives me crazy not seeing him in the drives me crazy do to see him I don't know the only thing I can think of is just to end all ties with him him and just never see me again

The easiest way to get over him is to come to the realization that he doesn't like you. Are you attracted to people who aren't attracted to you?

Sorry to be so blunt, but it's the truth. You deserve someone who's just as obsessed about you as you are about them. Until you realize that, you'll never get over him. Perhaps it comes with knowing your self worth, too. Do you think you deserve to be obsessing over a guy who already told you that he doesn't feel the same way?

 

[Junior42]

Thanks Appleman

 

[diverman]

can anybody relate to this song.I know I can,a few times
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHAT I'M THINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CANT TELL HIM WHY I'M DRINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,AND IT'S GETTING WORSE EVERY DAY
HE IS PRETTIER, THAN A KEY WEST SUNSET
HE IS EVEN HOTTER, THAN THE CANCOON SUN GETS
WHEN HE WALKS INTO THE ROOM ,HE ALWAYS TAKES MY BREATH AWAY
I LOVE HIM LIKE A BEST FRIEND,I LOVE HIM LIKE A BROTHER
I LOVE HIM TILL IT HURTS,I LOVE HIM LIKE NO OTHER
IF I TELL HIM HOW I LOVE HIM,I KNOW HE'LL ONLY SAY NO WAY
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CANT TELL HIM WHAT I'M THINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHY I'M DRINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,AND IT'S GETTING WORSE EVERY DAY
WHEN I AM WITH HIM,I ALWAYS FEEL SO HIGH
WHEN HE LEAVES TO BE WITH HER,IT ALWAYS MAKES ME WANT TO CRY
NO ONE ELSE I KNOW,COULD BRING ME THIS MUCH PLEASURE AND PAIN
I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,BUT HE WILL NEVER KNOW
I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,BUT I CAN'T LET IT SHOW
I LOVE HIM SO MUCH,AND ITS MAKING POOR OLD HEART BREAK
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHAT I'M THINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHY I'M DRINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,AND IT'S GETTING WORSE EVERY DAY
I WANT TO GET DOWN ON MY KNEES,AND TELL HIM THAT I LOVE HIM
I WANT TO TELL HIM EVERY DAY,I'M ALWAYS THINKING OF HIM
I KNOW THAT IF I DO,HE'LL ONLY TURN AND RUN AWAY
I GUESS I SHOULD BE GLAD,FOR THE TIME WE GET TO SPEND
I GUESS I SHOULD BE GLAD,TO KNOW THAT HE'S MY BEST FRIEND
I GUESS I SHOULD BE GLAD,I EVEN GOT TO KNOW HIM ANYWAY
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHAT I'M THINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,BUT I CAN'T TELL HIM WHY I'M DRINKING
I'M SO CRUSHED,AND IT'S GETTING WORSE EVERY DAY
WISH THAT I COULD TELL HIM,JUST HOW MUCH I MISS HIM
WISH THAT I COULD TELL HIM,I WANT TO HUG AND KISS HIM
WISH THAT I COULD TELL HIM,HEY BUDDY DID YOU KNOW I'M GAY
I KNOW THAT IF I DID,THAT WOULD BE THE VERY END
I KNOW THAT IF I DID,THAT I WOULD LOSE MY BEST FRIEND
I KNOW THAT IF I DID,I'D FEEL WORSE THAN I'M FEELING TODAY
CAUSE I'M SO CRUSHED