Have I lost him completely?

[digitaldude5]

Well, I'm in one of the most complicated relationships with a bisexual guy. We've been talking for a really long time, got together once, spent the night together and he left with promises of more to come. We fell out of contact when he hit a rough bout with his brother nearly dying and some pre-cancer stuff found with him. Trust me, it wasn't my doing, he's the one that broke it off completely.

He came back and explained everything to me, only to find that we're now 4 hours apart, and both working full time so we can't visit. Now with only 2 weeks left until I move back for school, and we've been talking about picking it up and trying to get started for real, he tells me he's "been exposed to breasts and pussy again" and he's confused, but he doesn't know if the feeling will pass. Basically, he fooled around with his ex gf. According to him, we've never clearly defined our relationship, but I've taken in the past month to referring to him as my boyfriend, even when talking to him, so I thought it was pretty clearly defined.

The problem is, I still really like him, but kind of feel numb about the entire situation. What should I do... I don't think cutting and running is the best idea, but I just... don't know.

Help me?

 

[Ryuukie]

If you only got together once, I don't think you ever really had him. He seems to have moved on. You should, too. I'm sorry.

 

[ok455]

Yeah you should move on too if y'all do try to date he may cheat on you

 

[inlovewithanton]

Find a gay boy that wants you, and not to have his cake and eat it too.

edit: I totally didnt intend for that to rhyme. lol.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

4 hours + workload + family/health crisis + all sorts of pussy/breast temptation have taken their toll. This much is really obvious, isn't it?

Since you still like the dude, there is little to be gained by a dramatic breakdown of a relationship that really did not have a serious chance in the first place.

Simply move on and stay in touch with him and treat him as if he were your FB.

No one has ever said that you have to live a life of a hermit, while hoping to meet your Mr. Right?

And yet just one more thing: Get your priorities right. When it comes to my emotional and sexual pleasure, no workload and no family obligations can really get in the way. Yeah, sure, for a day or two. But after that, I call a time-out and meet up with my BF, FB, F, whoever...

Trust me, the more you sacrifice yourself for the good of the others the less appreciation will you get. Guys, who know how to take care of their own needs reap universal admiration.

SC

 

[RRRalph]

Try to get over him and move on.

 

[PhoenixRandall]

some good conversation and one sexual hookup does not equate to having a boyfriend. Try to not to put all your emotion, etc. into a relationship that is in a fledgling state.

 

[Matthew-]

According to him, we've never clearly defined our relationship, but I've taken in the past month to referring to him as my boyfriend, even when talking to him, so I thought it was pretty clearly defined.

Maybe he tought it was a figure of speach?

 

[racer2438]

you were probly in lust not love and at the time you need to feel like you had a b/f and he was the one.

at least he said he was confused and did make up some bs story. so give him that much.

but it's most likely not going to happen w/him and instead of tearing your self apart over him given the senerio of ,time-distance-his ex- and everything else.

your best bet is keeping him as your friend and finding someone else close to you in town and moveing forward.