Have not cummed with other guys

[blazinpapi83188]

I don't know where to put this so I will put it in this section. Anyways I have a couple of questions. I have been with a few guys sexually but I have never been able to cum with someone. I don't know why and I don't think its because im nervous since ive been somewhat close to cumming sometimes but it never gets there. I always just get tired of jerking/getting sucked off and then just quit. The guys feel bad because i didnt make them cum and they did but i insure that it wasnt them. Does this make me uncummable in front of other guys? lol. Has anyone else experienced this? or do i just have to find the right guy... idk because ive gotten alot of pleasure just not cummed.

 

[LeoMikey]

Don't worry too much about it. Worrying will only make it worse. You said that you get tired of jerking/getting sucked and just quit. Next time you have sex, have the guy jerk/suck you off and don't touch his cock. Relax and just get into all the sensations on your cock. When you have sex you might be so intent giving the other guy pleasure that you can't concentrate on your own pleasure.
You can also try having him lay back and letting you do all the work. You might find yourself getting very hard without touching your cock. I know i've shot big loads while sucking or getting fucked without touching myself.
Can you cum while getting fucked? You could also try not beating off for a week or as long as you can. That way when you have sex you will be so fucking horny you will almost certainly cum gallons. Try talking to your boyfriend (or whoever) about how you can't seem to cum with a guy, although you feel pleasure. The more open you are, the closer you will be to him, thus better sex. If a guy told me this, i would take it as a challenge! I'd have fun finding new ways to get you to cum.

 

[willsboy84]

I don't know where to put this so I will put it in this section. Anyways I have a couple of questions. I have been with a few guys sexually but I have never been able to cum with someone. I don't know why and I don't think its because im nervous since ive been somewhat close to cumming sometimes but it never gets there. I always just get tired of jerking/getting sucked off and then just quit. The guys feel bad because i didnt make them cum and they did but i insure that it wasnt them. Does this make me uncummable in front of other guys? lol. Has anyone else experienced this? or do i just have to find the right guy... idk because ive gotten alot of pleasure just not cummed.

OMG!!! I have always had the same problem. i've been with more than a few guys and have never EVER cum with one. not from head, stroke jobs or fucking. just like you i'll get right on the edge, but never go all the way over. and it's not from lack of attraction to the guy, cuz one guy...i think most could prolly cum just from LOOKING at him but i just never could. i think alot of it is nerves,insecurity but i also wonder if it's something deeper because sometimes i actually get uncomfortable being touched at all, whether sexually or not. on the other hand i'm pretty sure my chronic masturbation has more than a little to do with. I'm down there an average of 4 or 5 times a day, double that if i'm blazed.

another thing that doesn't help is that sometimes, no matter how hard i try, or even how good it's feeling at the time, it's hard for me to stay focused on what's going on. like a guy could be goin to town on me, sucking like mine is the last cock in the fucking free world and i'll start thinking about the dumbest, random-ass shit. it sux because, and don't take this wrong way cuz i ain't braggin, but i have a really nice dick. i'd LOVE to be able to share it, but it's to the point where i figure why bother. that's why for the most part i've always hooked with mainly str8 or bi guys because i knew they really wouldn't care whether they got me off or not.

 

[gsdx]

The mind may be telling the body what to do, but oftentimes the body simply won't follow directions. Don't worry about it. Cumming with another guy is an enormous hurdle to leap over, and you simply might not be ready to do that yet.

 

[sixthson]

Sounds like intimacy issues. Have you ever been in love? Are you comfortable with your sexuality?
Not everyone is made for casual sex, either. Some of us need a deeper connection with a guy before sex is ever great.
As long as your focus is on your ejaculation, it will probably never happen. Since you obviously have some problems in this area, you might be better suited to waiting until you are with a guy who means something special to you and together you can take the time to work things out. Sex should be playful and fun, not a chore.
There are so many things other than direct penis contact that make for great sex. Kissing, touching, using your tongue on places other than the genitals, whispering sexy, loving things, a FEATHER lightly run up the thighs and over the balls (oops, that slipped out).

Being uptight never makes for good intimacy, but I think you have already discovered that.

 

[willsboy84]

Sounds like intimacy issues. Have you ever been in love? Are you comfortable with your sexuality?
Not everyone is made for casual sex, either. Some of us need a deeper connection with a guy before sex is ever great.
As long as your focus is on your ejaculation, it will probably never happen. Since you obviously have some problems in this area, you might be better suited to waiting until you are with a guy who means something special to you and together you can take the time to work things out. Sex should be playful and fun, not a chore.
There are so many things other than direct penis contact that make for great sex. Kissing, touching, using your tongue on places other than the genitals, whispering sexy, loving things, a FEATHER lightly run up the thighs and over the balls (oops, that slipped out).

Being uptight never makes for good intimacy, but I think you have already discovered that.

i DO tend to run the other way at the 1st signs of intimacy. the thought of actually investing something of myself so deeply in another person....i dunno, it kinda freaks me out. i honestly cannot see myself in an honest to god relationship, but i might never know for sure as i never give myself the chance to actually experience it. do u think it's possible for a person to be so emotionally fucked up that they never get over it?

 

[sixthson]

do u think it's possible for a person to be so emotionally fucked up that they never get over it?

Sure, I think it happens all the time whether gay or straight, sexual or non-sexual relationships, parent/child relationships, with couples and with friends.
Human beings tend to be emotionally messed up.

However, the question is NOT is it possible BUT are you willing to live your life avoiding intimacy and not dealing with your emotional issues? Most fears (including fears of intimacy) have no basis in reality. They are real to you and you must face them in order to conquer them.
Perhaps you have bought into some lie that says you are not worthy of being loved or that you have nothing to offer another human being. Maybe you are ashamed of being gay? Whatever the reason, if you want to live an emotionally satisfying life, you will need to make the effort to overcome these things.

It's not that you can't be happy and emotionally healthy, but will you allow yourself to experience all that life has to offer and that includes intimacy and love?

You can do it. Are you willing?

 

[blazinpapi83188]

Thanks for all the replys guys. Well I think the problem proably what sixthson said. I have only been with guys that ive known for a few weeks and never really cared for them that much. I will also try the not jerking off when im planing on meeting a guy or start dating one. Also I have only had anal sex once and i was not getting fucked so yea.